Grief Notes 3

Question 1

Refer to losses in the mourner’s life of relationships that are not socially sanctioned.(Worden)

Answer 1

Disenfranchised grief

Question 2

1. Socially negated losses: i.e. miscarriages
2. Socially unspeakable losses: Death by suicide or AIDS, murderer.
3. Socially unacceptable behavior: Marital affairs

Answer 2

Disenfranchised grief

Question 3

When the infant is dead at time of birth or upon expulsion from the mother’s womb.

Answer 3

Stillborn

Question 4

a. is the unexpected death of an apparently healthy infant.
b. It is the third (3rd) leading cause of death among infants.
c. Also known as “crib death.”.

Answer 4

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS)

Question 5

Grief Reactions of the Parent(s) of Child Death

Answer 5

• Intense fear for surviving children since parents believe they somehow caused the death of the infant.
• Fearful of having another child for fear of same thing happening.
• Intensified feelings of guilt and anger.
• Marital problems may occur.
• May be parents first encounter with death and the funeral process.
• Most parents say the death of a child is more traumatic than the death of a spouse and/or a parent.
• More tragic than other types of death, because children are not supposed to die.

Question 6

How Can the Funeral Director Help (Child Death)?

Answer 6

• Let the parents and the family hold the baby.
• Encourage the parents to dress the baby.
• Encourage the parents and family to talk about the baby. These events will help parents/family acknowledge the birth of the baby.

Question 7

• The age of the child when the death(s) occur will play a major factor In the child’s reaction.
• How the child handles the death will most often set the stage for how death will be dealt with later in life.

Answer 7

Death of a Parent/Parents

Question 8

In 2010, ______ was the 10th leading cause of death.

Answer 8

SUICIDE

Question 9

a deliberate act of self-destruction.

Answer 9

SUICIDE

Question 10

thoughts of ending one’s life (committing suicide)

Answer 10

Suicide ideation

Question 11

unsuccessful attempt made by the person to end his/her life.

Answer 11

Suicidal gesture

Question 12

____ is a form of violent death that not only shocks the survivors but disrupts the “____” stages of grief and the mourning process.

Answer 12

Suicide

natural

Question 13

is the “act of ultimate control”. Survivors suffer anger and rage, especially in the early stages of grief.

Answer 13

suicide

Question 14

TYPES OF SUICIDE (EMILE DURKHEIM)

Answer 14

1. ANOMIC SUICIDE
2. FATALISTIC SUICIDE
3. ALTRUISTIC SUICIDE
4. EGOISTIC SUICIDE

Question 15

studied thousands of cases of suicide to demonstrate his theory that a person commits suicide because of the influence of society. His theory on suicide includes four types of suicide.

Answer 15

EMILE DURKHEIM

Question 16

during times of adverse conditions such as war or financial hardship, when rules of society don’t apply

Answer 16

ANOMIC SUICIDE

Question 17

– because one feels over-regulated or over-controlled. They feel there is no other way out

Answer 17

FATALISTIC SUICIDE

Question 18

due to a high sense of group involvement or out of a sense of duty for a cause (Kamikaze pilots in WWII, suicide bombers)

Answer 18

ALTRUISTIC SUICIDE

Question 19

due to feelings of being a loner or feelings that one does not fit into society

Answer 19

EGOISTIC SUICIDE

Question 20

What can the funeral director do to help (Suicide)?

Answer 20

• Provide support for the family and remain non-judgmental!
• Let the family talk!
• LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN!
• Provide aftercare resource information for suicide support groups.

Question 21

is a form of “violent” death.

Answer 21

HOMICIDE

Question 22

HOMICIDE

Answer 22

• Since it takes 5 to 7 years to bring a homicide trial to court, grief is often delayed and/or reoccurs during the trial.
• Survivors suffer anger and guilt due to the traumatic nature of the death.
• Revenge becomes important to the survivors but this is a normal response that can be addressed during the mourning process.

Question 23

What can the funeral director do to help (Homicide)?

Answer 23

• As with suicide, provide help and assistance without being judgmental.
• Listen, listen, listen!
• Provide aftercare resource information for local assistance programs.

Question 24

Term derived from the Greek words for “well/good” and “death”

Answer 24

EUTHANASIA

Question 25

– withholding of life sustaining drugs or treatment, such as kidney dialysis, from a patient who is terminally ill

Answer 25

PASSIVE EUTHANASIA

Question 26

– taking active measures, such as Dr. Kevorkian did, to end the life of a terminally ill patient

Answer 26

ACTIVE EUTHANASIA

Question 27

• Historically an inn for travelers especially one kept by a religious order

Answer 27

HOSPICE

Question 28

• Currently a concept designed to treat patients with a life limiting condition
• Offers palliative case, keeping the patient comfortable versus curative case

Answer 28

HOSPICE

Question 29

Reminder of Complicated Grief Behaviors

Types of Abnormal Grief Responses

Answer 29

• Complicated (Chronic, Unresolved)Grief:
• Delayed Grief Reaction:
• Exaggerated Grief (Worden):
• Masked Grief:

Question 30

grief extending over a long period of time without resolution

Answer 30

Complicated (Chronic, Unresolved)Grief

Question 31

inhibited, suppressed or postponed response to a loss

Answer 31

Delayed Grief Reaction

Question 32

persons are usually conscious of the relationship of the reaction of the death, but the reaction to the current experience is excessive and disabling

Answer 32

Exaggerated Grief (Worden)

Question 33

occurs when persons experience symptoms and behaviors which cause them difficulty but they do not see or recognize the fact that these are related to the loss

Answer 33

Masked Grief