Grief Notes 5

Question 1

advice, especially that given as a result of consultation

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Counseling

As defined by Webster:

Question 2

anytime someone helps someone else with a problem

Answer 2

Counseling

As defined by Edgar Jackson:

Question 3

good communication within and between men; This type of communication is always therapeutic.

Answer 3

Counseling

As defined by Carl Rogers:

Question 4

as: “a therapeutic experience for “reasonably healthy” people”.

Answer 4

Counseling

Ohlsen defines counseling

Question 5

– that counseling which occurs before a death

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PRE-NEED COUNSELING

Question 6

– a death has occurred and the funeral director is counseling with the family as they select the services and items of merchandise in completing arrangements for the funeral service of their choice.

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AT-NEED COUNSELING

Question 7

– those appropriate and helpful acts of counseling that come after the funeral

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POST-FUNERAL COUNSELING

Question 8

– helping people facilitate uncomplicated grief to a healthy completion of the tasks of grieving within a reasonable time frame. Funeral directors do grief counseling

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GRIEF COUNSELING

Question 9

– specialized techniques which are used to help people with complicated grief reactions. Funeral directors DO NOT do grief therapy

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GRIEF THERAPY (Worden)

Question 10

• Feelings and their expression

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Affect

Question 11

-The individual’s ability to adjust to the psychological and emotional changes brought on by a stressful event such as death of a significant other.

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Adaptation

Question 12

-according to client-centered counseling, the necessary quality of a counselor being in touch with reality and with others perception of one’s self.

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Congruence

Question 13

is an individual who provides assistance and guidance

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Counselor

COUNSELING IS NOT PSYCHOTHERAPY

Question 14

• A treatment of a mental or emotional disorder.

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Psychotherapy

Question 15

TYPES OF COUNSELING

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1. Informational Counseling
2. Situational Counseling
3. Psychotherapy (Edgar Jackson):

Question 16

counseling in which a counselor shares a body of special information with a counselee.

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Informational Counseling

Funeral directors do informational counseling.

Question 17

counseling related to specific situations in life that may create crises and produce human pain and suffering.

This type of counseling adds another dimension to the giving of information in that it deals with significant feelings that are produced by life crises.

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Situational Counseling

Funeral directors do situational counseling.

Question 18

intervention with people whose needs are so specific that usually they can only be met by specially trained physicians or psychologists.

The practitioners in this field need special training because they often work with deeper levels of consciousness.

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Psychotherapy (Edgar Jackson)

Funeral directors DO NOT do psychotherapy.

Question 19

the counselor takes a live speaking role, asking questions, suggesting courses of action, etc.

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Directive Counseling:

Question 20

– (also called client-centered; person-centered; Rogerian counseling): a phrase coined by Carl Rogers to refer to that type of counseling where one comes actively and voluntarily to gain help on a problem, but without any notion of surrendering his own responsibility for the situation.

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Non-Directive Counseling

Question 21

Stresses the inherent worth of the client and the natural capacity for growth and health.

This is the preferred style of counseling in funeral service.

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Non-Directive Counseling

Question 22

What does the non-directive counselor do?
• Enhance the person’s capacity for social functioning; alter the persons feelings thru increased awareness; sensitivity listen and observe
• Establish rapport with client
• Assist the person to gain new perspective
o Appraise the client’s problems
o Perceive the clients situation in several ways and communicate these to the client
• Encourage realistic appraisal by the client
• Encourage conversational flow by avoiding questions that can be answered yes or no

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What does the non-directive counselor do?
• Accept the clients attitudes and feelings
• Reflect the clients feelings back to him
• Judge the ability of the client to verbalize
• Do not assume the clients first statement to be either true or complete
• Allow the client to summarize the interview
• Respect the confidential nature of the subject matter
• Write comprehensive notes upon the conclusion of the interview

Question 23

GOALS OF GRIEF COUNSELING (According to Worden):

Answer 23

1. To increase the reality of the loss
2. To help the counselee deal with both expressed and latent affect
3. To help the counselee overcomes various impediments to readjust to after the loss
4. To encourage the counselee to make a healthy emotional withdrawal from the deceased and to feel comfortable re-investing that emotion in other relationships

Question 24

COUNSELING PRINCIPLES AND PROCEDURES

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1. Help the survivor actualize the loss
2. Help the survivor to identify and express feelings
3. Assist living without the deceased
4. Facilitate emotional withdrawal
5. Provide time to grieve
6. Recognize “normal” behavior
7. Allow for individual differences
8. Provide continuing support
9. Examine defense mechanisms and coping styles

Question 25

When does the funeral director become a counselor?

FUNERAL DIRECTORS FACILITATE GRIEF BY:

Answer 25

1. Fulfilling their responsibility in counseling during the entire service
2. Following up with post-funeral counseling
3. Providing contacts for the family with other support groups
4. Providing a service in teaching people about grief and healthy grieving by sponsoring and presenting educational programs in the community

Question 26

VERY IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER:

A funeral director is a grief counselor NOT a grief therapist.

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