Flashcards in Life Hacks Deck (27):
Intel CEO asked what would a new CEO do if they came in right now?
Get out of the software business he responded.
So why don't you do it? How can you apply this to other areas of your life?
What is the one habit chnage that will affect everything else?
E.g. going to bed on time effects what time you rise that effects your morning routine which effects your day etc
Eye Contact >
Whenever giving someone a compliment, a public speech, or making a point... Don't look down when the impact is coming. Look them in the eyes.
When you shake someones hand, look them in the eyes.
You will get 100x more respect.
Naval Mindfulness Hack
Tell yourself for an hour that no matter what thought comes up. You are not going to do anything about it, your not going to post it on FB, message someone, chat to someone about it... your mind surprisingly begins to quiet when it knows you won’t act on it
“You don’t just use a ruler to measure a table, but the table to measure the ruler”. In other words if reality continues to deliver something that doesn’t make sense to you, it’s YOU that you need to worry about.
100 Blocks a day
100 Blocks a Day
Most people sleep about seven or eight hours a night. That leaves 16 or 17 hours awake each day. Or about 1,000 minutes.
Let’s think about those 1,000 minutes as 100 10-minute blocks. That’s what you wake up with every day.
Throughout the day, you spend 10 minutes of your life on each block, until you eventually run out of blocks and it’s time to go to sleep.
It’s always good to step back and think about how we’re using those 100 blocks we get each day. How many of them are put towards making your future better, and how many of them are just there to be enjoyed? How many of them are spent with other people, and how many are for time by yourself? How many are used to create something, and how many are used to consume something? How many of the blocks are focused on your body, how many on your mind, and how many on neither one in particular? Which are your favorite blocks of the day, and which are your least favorite?
Imagine these blocks laid out on a grid. What if you had to label each one with a purpose?
You’d have to think about everything you might spend your time doing in the context of its worth in blocks. Cooking dinner requires three blocks, while ordering in requires zero—is cooking dinner worth three blocks to you? Is 10 minutes of meditation a day important enough to dedicate a block to it? Reading 20 minutes a night allows you to read 15 additional books a year—is that worth two blocks? If your favorite recreation is playing video games, you’d have to consider the value you place on fun before deciding how many blocks it warrants. Getting a drink with a friend after work takes up about 10 blocks. How often do you want to use 10 blocks for that purpose, and on which friends? Which blocks should be treated as non-negotiable in their labeled purpose and which should be more flexible? Which blocks should be left blank, with no assigned purpose at all?
Now imagine a similar grid, but one where each block is labeled exactly how you spent it yesterday.
The question to ask is: How are the two grids different from each other, and why?
Tip: the above grid is printable if you click on it.
While we’re all in this mood:
Your whole life on a grid.
A stark reminder.
And if you’re sitting down with a printed grid, this might be a good post to read first.
Give Them Five Before You Expect One
If you are super positive in a social interaction, don’t expect them to return r straight away. They will be caught off guard - wait until you have done it five times.
Thiel on Certainty and Free Will
"You can expect the future to take a definite form or you can treat it as hazily uncertain. If you treat the future as something definite, it makes sense to understand it in advance and to work to shape it. But if you expect an indefinite future ruled by randomness, you’ll give up on trying to master it.”
What would X do?
INSERT FARNAM SCREEN SHOT ON PT AS A MENTAL MODEL
How to DEEP WORK:
1. Schedule out blocks of time.
2. Set a clear goal/task.
3. Have a distraction sheet.
4. Turn off phone
5. Work in a place where you won’t be distracted.
Jealousy / Liking Distorion
It’s impossible to make people feel jealous and for them to also like you and not want to see you fail.
Whenever you get jealous, e.g.
- He has more money than me
- He is in better shape than me
- He is more successful than me
Ask yourself, are you willing to do a full 360 24-7 shift and live as that person? Have that persons insecurities? Family & friends? Past? Live their life?
If no, then jealousy is pointless.
Rubber Ducky Metaphor
Don’t shout out the problem and bang your head against the nearest object. Detach and imagine you are explaining it to a rubber ducky.
Week Wise; Year Foolish.
People tend to overestimate what they can accomplish in a week and underestimate what they can accomplish in a year"
Devil is in the detaile
Throughout my time in workplaces, one key theme. He who takes iniative wins.
E.g. before they even send email reminding you meeting action points, already have done it and sent it them.
Munger’s Iron Discipline
Don’t have an opinion on something unless you can state the opposite argument better than they can.
Have you read contradictory sources this week?
Have you asked your close friends for contradictory answers?
Elon Musk’s Foundational Learning Techniques
“It is important to view knowledge as sort of a semantic tree - make sure you understand the fundamental principles, I.e. the trunk and big branches, before you get into the leaves/details or there is nothing for them to hang onto”
I’ve heard people compare knowledge of a topic to a tree. If you don’t fully get it, it’s like a tree in your head with no trunk—and without a trunk, when you learn something new about the topic—a new branch or leaf of the tree—there’s nothing for it to hang onto, so it just falls away. By clearing out fog all the way to the bottom, I build a tree trunk in my head, and from then on, all new information can hold on, which makes that topic forever more interesting and productive to learn about. And what I usually find is that so many of the topics I’ve pegged as “boring” in my head are actually just foggy to me—like watching episode 17 of a great show, which would be boring if you didn’t have the tree trunk of the back story and characters in place.
Predictably Irrational Sivers Essay
Predictably Irrational - by Dan Ariely
Date read: 2008-08-11
How strongly I recommend it: 9/10
(See my list of 200+ books, for more.)
Go to the Amazon page for details and reviews.
My favorite type of book: pointing out and understanding all of the counter-intuitive things people do.
Most people don't know what they want unless they see it in context.
We don't know what kind of racing bike we want until we see it in the Tour De France.
We don't know what kind of speaker system we like until we hear a set of speakers that sounds better than the previous one.
We don't know what we want to do with our lives - until we find a relative or friend who is doing just what we think we should be doing.
Everything is relative, and that's the point.
Like an airplane pilot landing in the dark, we want runway lights on either side of us, guiding us to the place where we can touch down our wheels.
The decoy effect : is is the secret agent in more decisions than we could imagine.
For vacation, choosing between Rome and Paris. Tough choice! Don't know.
Offer a 3rd option : Rome without the free breakfast. Call it "-Rome", or the decoy.
Now considering 3 options: Rome, -Rome, Paris.
The comparison with the clearly inferior option makes Rome with the free breakfast seem even better.
-Rome makes Rome look so good that you judge it to be even better than the difficult-to-judge Paris.
Arbitrary coherence. ("baby duckling"). Anchoring. Imprinting.
Once prices are established in our mind, they shape not only what we are willing to pay for an item, but also how much we are willing to pay for related products. (This makes them coherent.)
Important clarification: price tags themselves are not anchors. They become anchors when we contemplate buying a product or service at that particular price. That's when the imprint is set. From then on, we are willing to accept a range of prices, but we will always refer back to the original anchor.
People who move to a new city remain anchored to the prices they paid for housing in their former city. People who move from cheap to moderate cities don't increase their spending to fit the new market. They spend what they were used to in the previous market, even sacrificing comfort.
==== THE FALLACY OF SUPPLY AND DEMAND
How did Starbucks charge more for coffee, then? If we were previously anchored to the prices at Dunkin' Donuts, how did we move our anchor to Starbucks?
Schultz worked diligently to separate Starbucks from other coffee shops, not through price, but ambience - to feel like continental coffeehouse.
Where everyone else had small, medium, large - Starbucks had short, tall, grande, venti, as well as drinks with high-pedigree names like Caffé Americano, Caffé Misto, and Frappuchino. Starbucks did everything in its power to make the experience feel different. So different that we would not use the prices at Dunkin' Donuts as an anchor, but instead would be open to the new anchor that Starbucks was preparing for us.
Teacher said he was going to be reading Walt Whitman poetry that Friday evening, and due to limited space had to run an auction to determine who could attend. Before the auction, though, he privately asked half the students to write down whether, hypothetically, they would be willing to pay him $10 for a 10-minute poetry reading - and the other half to write down whether, hypothetically, they would be willing to listen to him recite poetry for 10 minutes if he paid them $10.
This, of course, served as the anchor. Then he asked for the students to bid on the poetry reading.
Those who answered the hypothetical question about paying him were willing to pay. They offered, on average, $1, $2, $3 for short, medium, long reading.
Those who answered the hypothetical question about being paid demanded payment. On average, they wanted $1.30, $2.70, $4.80 for short, medium, long reading.
Like Tom Sawyer's fence, he was able to take an ambiguous experience and make it into a pleasurable or painful experience.
Mark Twain quote:
Work consists of whatever a body is obliged to do.
Play consists of whatever a body is not obliged to do.
There are wealthy men who drive 4-horse passenger coaches 20-30 miles on a daily line in the summer because the privilege costs them considerable money, but if they were offered wages for the service, that would turn it into work, and they would resign.
We decide whether or not to eat burgers, smoke, run red lights, marry, have children, vote Republican, etc. Theory says we base these decisions on our fundamental values - our likes and dislikes. But could it be that the lives we have so carefully crafted are largely just a product of arbitrary coherence? Could it be that we made arbitrary decisions at some point in the past and have built our lives on them ever since, assuming the original decisions were wise? Is that how we choose our careers, spouses, clothes, and hairstyle? Were these just partially random first imprints that have run wild?
We can actively improve on our irrational behaviors. Start by becoming aware of our vulnerabilities.
If you're planning on a purchase, ask yourself:
- How did that habit begin?
- What amount of pleasure will you be getting out of it?
- Is the pleasure as much as you thought you would get?
- Could you cut back a little and better spend the remaining money on something else?
Train yourself to question your repeated behaviors.
In particular, pay attention to the first decision you make in what is going to be a long stream of decisions. (Clothing, food, etc.)
When we face such a decision, it may seem this is just one decision without large consequences, but in fact the power of the first decision has a long-lasting effect that will percolate for years to come.
==== THE COST OF ZERO COST:
A table set up in a busy area, offering chocolate:
Lindt truffle = 27 cents. Hershey's Kiss = 2 cent. Result? 75% chose truffle, 25% chose kiss.
Lindt truffle = 15 cents. Hershey's Kiss = 1 cent. Result? 73% chose truffle, 27% chose kiss.
Lindt truffle = 14 cents. Hershey's Kiss = free. Result? 31% chose truffle, 69% chose kiss.
Rational economic theory would have said that as the everything between the situations was the same, th customers should have chosen the truffle by the same margin of preference.
"FREE!" makes us do irrational things : you go to the store to get good hiking socks, but come out with a package of cheap bad socks because it came with a "FREE!" second pair. Or buying an expensive HDTV becomes it comes with free Blu-Ray DVDs.
Most transactions have an upside and a downside, but when something is "FREE!" we forget the downside.
"FREE!" gives us such an emotional charge that we perceive what is being offered as immensely more valuable than it really is.
Why? Because humans are intrinsically afraid of loss. The real allure of "FREE!" is tied to this fear. There's no visible possibility of loss.
We can use "FREE!" to drive social policy.
Want people to drive electric cars? Don't just lower the registration and inspection fee, make it free!
If health is a concern, focus on early detection as a way to eliminate the progression of severe illness. Make these critical procedures free.
Most policy strategists don't realize that "FREE!" is an ace in their hand.
It's counterintuitive, but in these times of budget cutbacks, making something free can have a great deal of power.
==== THE COST OF SOCIAL NORMS:
We live simultaneously in two different worlds: one where social norms prevail, and one where market norms make the rules.
Social norms include friendly requests that people make of one another. "Could you help me move this couch?"
Social norms are wrapped up in our social nature and our need for community. They are usually warm and fuzzy.
Instant paybacks are not required. Like moving a couch or opening a door, you are not expected to immediately reciprocate.
Market norms have nothing warm and fuzzy. The exchanges are sharp-edged: wages, prices, rents, interest, costs-and-benefits.
Market relationships are not necessarily mean or evil - they also include self-reliance, inventiveness, and individualism - but they do imply comparable benefits and prompt payments.
When you are in the domain of market norms, you get what you pay for - that's just the way it is.
When we keep social norms and market norms on their separate paths, life hums along pretty well.
Sex, for instance: free in social context, where it's warm and emotionally nourishing. But market sex, on demand, costs money. Woody Allen: "The most expensive sex is free sex."
AARP asked lawyers if they would offer less expensive services to needy retirees, at something like $30/hr. Overhwelmingly said no.
They asked the lawyers if they would offer free services to needy retirees. Overwhelmingly said yes.
Similar when asking people to help move a couch: ask them to do it for free, and they'll say yes. Offer to pay them a dollar, and they say no.
LESSON : Once market norms enter our considerations, the social norms depart.
Using gifts is not seen as market norms (giving someone chocolates as a present for helping) - but putting a cost on the gift ("50-cent Snickers bar", "5-dollar Godiva chocolates") does make it market norms.
Great example: Day care center had a problem with parents picking up the kids late, so they added a fine. But now that parents were paying for their tardiness, they could decide for themselves whether to be late or not, and they more-often chose to be late.
A few weeks later the day care removed the fine, there was another slight increase in tardiness, now that social norms and market norms had both been removed.
LESSON: When a social norm collides with a market norm, the social norm goes away for a long time. Social norms are not easy to re-establish.
As a company, remember that you can't have it both ways. You can't treat your customers like family one moment then treat them impersonally - as a nuisance or competitor - a moment later when this becomes more convenient or profitable. If you want a social relationship, go for it, but remember that you have to maintain it under all circumstances.
==== THE INFLUENCE OF AROUSAL
When you are in one state, and try to predict your behavior in another state, you'll get it wrong.
==== THE PROBLEM OF PROCRASTINATION AND SELF-CONTROL
Like the influence of arousal, we can be sensible in a cool state, and say we're going to save money or eat wisely. But in the heat of the moment, when we see something we crave, we are in a hot emotional moment, and do not act as we predict.
Giving up long-term goals for immediate gratification is procrastination.
Students did their assignments best when forced to obey a schedule, instead of letting them choose for themselves (since procrastination takes over).
If this lesson is applied to society, government could force required health exams the way we get tickets for jaywalking or having seat belts undone.
What if colonosopy gave you a $200 refund if you went, nonrefundable if you didn't show up?
The self-control credit card: cutomers decide in advance how much money they wanted to spend in each category, per store, per time-frame. For example: $20 on coffee per week, or $600 on clothes every 6 months, or no candy between 2pm and 6pm. If they surpass their limit, cardholders select their penalties. The card could be rejected, or they could tax themselves and send the tax to Habitat for Humanity, a friend, or long-term savings. Or it could email your spouse.
==== THE HIGH PRICE OF OWNERSHIP
The "endowment effect": when we own something, we begin to value it more than other people do.
Bunch of people wait in line for football tickets. They're handed out on a lottery system. Some get them, others don't, but they all waited the same time. Ask people who don't have a ticket how much they'll be willing to pay to buy one, and they'll say $175. Ask ticket-holders how much they'd be willing to sell theirs for, they say $2400.
We assume other people will see the transaction as we do. We expect the buyer of our car to share our feelings, emotions, and memories. They see the smoke or mold. It's as hard for the buyer to imagine the seller's point of view as it is for the seller to imagine the buyer's.
The more work you put into something, the more ownership you feel for it. The Ikea effect.
We can start to feel ownership before we own something. (Danger of bidding on Ebay.)
Ownership changes perspective. Moving backwards to our pre-ownership state is a loss we cannot abide. While moving up in life, we indulge ourselves with the fantasy that we can always ratchet ourselves back if need be, but in reality, we can't. Downgrading to a smaller home is experienced as a loss.
==== THE EFFECT OF EXPECTATIONS
Students who got beer with 3 drops of vinegar liked it. But if they were told in advance it had vinegar, they didn't. If you tell people up-front that something might be distasteful, the odds are they will end up agreeing with you.
Students who were told about the vinegar after tasting the beer liked it much better - as much as the ones who didn't know it had vinegar at all.
With sample coffee : when presented with test-taste coffee in styrofoam cups, people said it tasted cheap. When the same coffee was presented in nice cups, saucers and spoons, they said it tasted expensive. (And they'd be willing to pay more for it.)
Stereotypes: Asians good at math, women worse at math. Asian women were asked to take a math exam. Half were asked questions about being a woman first, and they did worse on the test. Half were asked questions about being Asian first, and they did better on the test.
==== THE POWER OF PRICE
When given a placebo pill, told it was a pain pill, almost all people felt the pain-relieving effects when told it was very expensive ($2.50 per pill). But when told it was only 10 cents, only half felt the effects.
For people with recent pain-medicine experience, it was even more extreme. They had recently learned first-hand that you get what you pay for.
==== CONTEXT OF OUR CHARACTER
The students who could only remember one or two of the ten commandments were just as affected by them as the students who remembered all ten. It was not the commandments themselves that encouraged honesty, but the mere contemplation of a moral benchmark of some kind.
People cheat when they have a chance to do so, but don't cheat as much as they could. Once they begin thinking about honesty (Ten Commandments, etc) - they stop cheating completely. When we are removed from any benchmarks of ethical thought, we tend to stray into dishonesty. If we are reminded of morality at the moment we are tempted, then we are much more likely to be honest.
Cheating is often one step removed from cash. (Accounting practices, backdated stock options, lobbyists sending politicians on vacations.)
Taking a red pencil from work is easy. Taking 10 cents from the petty cash drawer in order to buy a pencil is not so easy.
At a college dorm, he put 10 cans of coke in shared fridges, and they all disappeared. He put 10 $1 bills on a plate in the fridge and they all stayed.
Test given with 10 hard questions, paid $1 for each correct answer.
Group #1: Had no way to cheat. Got 3.5 questions correct.
Group #2: Told to tear up their sheet afterwards and just tell someone how many they got correct: 6.2 correct.
Group #3: Same as #2, but told someone how many they got correct just to get tokens, which then someone elsewhere turned to dollars: 9.4 correct.
Given a chance, people cheat.
==== BEER AND FREE LUNCHES
When people order out loud in a restaurant, they choose differently than when they order privately. People often feel they have to order something different than companions. (In Hong Kong, people felt they had to order the same thing as their companions.) People who ordered out loud were also not has happy with their selections afterwards.
Knowing this, it's best to plan your order before the waiter arrives, and stick with it. Alternative is to get people to order anonymously.
Standard economics believes all human decisions are rational and informed, motivated by an accurate concept of the worth of all goods and services, and the amount of happiness all decisions are likely to produce. Under this assumption, everyone in the marketplace is trying to maximize profit and striving to optimize his experiences. Economic theory says there are no free lunches. If there were any, someone would have already found them and extracted all their value.
Behavioral economics believes that people are susceptible to irrelevant influences from their immediate environment (context effects), irrelevant emotions, shortsightedness, and other forms of irrationality as shown in this book. The good news is that these mistakes also provide opportunities for improvement. If we all make systematic mistakes in our decisions, then why not develop new stratgies, tools, and methods to help us make better decisions and improve our overall well-being? That's exactly the meaning of free lunches from the perspective of behavioral economics.
Although irrationality is commonplace, it does not necessarily mean that we are helpless. Once we understand when and where we make erroneous decisions, we can try to be more vigilant, force ourselves to think differently about these decisions, or use technology to overcome our inherent shortcomings. This is also where businesses and policy makers could revise their thinking and consider how to design their policies and products so as to provide free lunches.
Dan Ariely’s 100% Medicine Hack
Dan Ariely's big think is really good. He was the only patient who took the medicine 100% of the time. How?
He rewarded himself. He watched movies on the days he would be horribly sick. He associated the extremely painful act with his most pleasurable one. How could you apply this to your own life?
Stretching = This is when I listen to podcasts or music.
This is the opposite of STICKK, and I think I need more of this in my life.
Whenever you cook a meal, watch a new episode of a favourite show.
If you go X months doing some habit, have a holiday to look forward to at the end of it.
Have a period on the weekend where you have a really fun afternoon/morning.
How could you reward getting out of bed on time?
Systems x Goals Hacks
1) This killer technique got me to resolve a conflict between goals (planning) and systems (prospecting) for getting things done that’s been raging in my mind for a long time.
It also made me get a critical bit of complexity science. No joke.
2) If the real world has kicked you in the teeth a few times and you’ve been paying attention, you probably know chasing goals with rigid plans rarely works.
Often it’s a surefire recipe for disaster, especially if the goals are big (the only kind worth working for).
3) Rigid plans predispose to linear thinking, ignorance of opportunity & blindness to red flags in the environment. Time fragilizes – it ensures the heap of disappointments eventually becomes overwhelming.
Suffer & suffer, then quit, then suffer for having quit.
4) A system lets you off the causal chain towards a goal – and the need for a crystal ball to predict contingencies.
Systems are about process and daily action. They are a natural hedge & open up options instead of closing them.
5) The problem with systems is they rarely inspire like a Big Goal.
Process mania can be as blind as linear planning.
How to know you’re moving in the right direction?
You can sink time into useless distractions & end up with mediocrity. Systems have no good answer for this.
6) Dimensional stripping is a bit of wizardry from the study of complexity that can resolve dilemmas with conflicting or murky evidence – like systems versus goals.
The kicker is that it’s so simple & effective, ANYONE can apply it in everyday life.
7) Complexity scientists first parse the candidate inputs into different dimensions by reverse-engineering from the outcome. This makes the inputs digestible & comparable.
Then, they strip out everything that doesn’t have a critical, punch-in-the-neck effect.
8) For everyday use, dimensional stripping boils down to 2 simple steps:
1. Organize the inputs into buckets (dimensions) by reverse-engineering from effects on the outcome.
2. Keep only the critical inputs, comparing first within buckets and then the survivors across buckets.
9) To keep it simple, let’s parse Achieving Excellence in life into two meta-dimensions (huge steaming vats) of inputs:
>> Strategy & methods – what needs to be done when.
>> Motivation & drive – getting yourself to execute on time.
Both are critical.
10) Now let’s reverse engineer the inputs you get from systems and goals.
You will see that neither fits neatly into a bucket. And some inputs you don’t want in your buckets at all.
11) Goals (especially big ones) power you drive because that HUGE RED bull’s eye.
Specific goals give you a clear benchmark to measure up to, but that can be a double-edged sword if you don’t get there fast enough. BIG goals rarely are fast goals.
12) Systems can’t turbocharge your motivation like clear objectives can. They are often too vague to stoke your HUNGER for achievement. But they spare you the discouragement of immediate failure or the snow-capped peaks of a BIG goal.
13) So what's the solution on the motivation-drive front?
Make the system itself the goal.
If you want to build a Twitter following, for example, make it your goal to get out 50 tweets every day instead of getting 3,000 followers in 3 months.
That's a goal reachable daily.
14) By making the process the goal, you get accomplishment & reinforcement. And clarity. And action. And engagement with the task.
Immersion makes hungry. Hunger drives inspiration to grow your system.
Add a long-term BIG goal and your monomaniacal liftoff is within reach.
15) What's the solution on the strategy-methods front?
Build systems using goal-oriented reverse engineering, which sets clear priorities.
The intermediate goals (like a specific skill to get the job you want) then motivate and focus the subsystems you use to reach them.
16) What system do you need to launch a tech startup or work at one?
Every high-level person in tech excels in sales or programming.
Your system’s priorities should be to learn programming relevant to the sector you’re interested in. Or get a sales job to build sales skills.
17) If you take the programming path, you then embed a subsystem as a goal – do a number of hours of programming daily.
If you go the sales path, you deploy susbystems as goals to build specific sales skills. For example, make 20 cold calls to potential customers daily.
18) The goals-systems synthesis gets what you need into your buckets and keeps the dregs out.
You get the endorphins of daily objectives met & the adrenaline of consistent action, which builds momentum. You leave out things you have little control over that could discourage.
19) You are unchained from the narrow path of a singular goal-driven plan, which can be easily derailed on contact with reality. But you get sharp focus on very specific actionable objectives that can even be habituated – allowing you to add more to the mix.
20) The more you use the iteration of embedding systems & decomposition of goals, the more intuitive it becomes.
You will naturally see every objective in life as a mix of ingredients (a system), which are themselves actionable goals, which are themselves a mix of ingredients…
21) One day you will find yourself realizing that all your goals are actually systems.
Every outcome you desire is defined straight up as a behavior, not a “state” at a moment in time.
That in itself will make your life not just more “successful”, but also more authentic.
22) Goal-System Frame Integration
The best goals are systems that open up opportunities.
The best systems are goals adding worth in themselves.
The best goals make you apply your systems daily.
The best systems make you complete goals daily.
23) See dimensional stripping at work in @yaneerbaryam's tawk on conflict - and see the world more clearly. No specialized knowledge required
Writing down problems >
A large part of problem-solving is the ability to see a problem in its true form. If you're able to describe a problem in a sufficiently clear and precise fashion, most of the solution will become evident.
Writing helps. Write about your problems. It's more precise than thinking
The scope of thoughts you can write is much broader than the scope of thoughts you can think on your own. Written language, much like computer code, can express programs that are out of reach for brains alone. Write to think.
In particular live thoughts have limited recursion depth, and only have access to limited working memory; written thoughts have unlimited recursion depth, and paper has unlimited memory.
Hindsight As Foresight
Whenever something bad happens, years later you look back on it and grateful for it. You see how the dots added up. However, during it, you think the world is about to end. This is the failure that ruins me, or this is the illness that does it etc.
You need to remind yourself that in hindsight you’ll probably think it was a great thing - relax and get after it.
The Power Of Today - NOW
This day impacts the rest of your life. Any decision you make could end up deciding where you live, who you have kids, the regrets you have etc.
All you ever have is today
Pacing and Leading
If you want to say something controversial, first start getting them to agree with you and seek familiar identity with you. If you say “I really dislike trump (pacing)... but he did this really well (leading)”
10 Burpees NOW.
Out of body Mindfulness
Look at yourself from the side on. This is a great way to detach.