Midterm Flashcards
(51 cards)
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5 Pre-planning questions
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- What kind of event is it?
- How many hosts? How many guests? Who is on the guest list?
- What is the budget?
- When will it occur? (Think time of year!)
- How much planning time will you have?
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5 Things you need to know before calling vendors
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- Estimated budget and number of guests
- Date, time, location
- Know what you want and don’t want (likes, dislikes and any special needs)
- Be familiar with work space, access, timeline, etc.
- Know what exactly you need them to provide
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Guidelines for menu creation
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Balance of richness and simplicity
Consider food textures, colors and aromas
Number of courses typically depends on the formality of the event
A well designed menu always follows the pyramid concept
Meal offering should match the time of day
Choose foods to match guests requirements, customs and preferences
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7 Service Styles
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American: French: English: Butler: Family: Buffet: Stations
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American
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Pre-Plated
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French
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Prepared/Plated at tableside
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English
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Think Thanksgiving!
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Butler
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Often used at cocktail parties
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Family
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Help yourself and pass a dish
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Buffet
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Decorated table of offerings
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Stations
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Specialized offerings throughout the event
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Who and what to tip
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Wait staff, bartenders, maitre d’s 15-20% Coat checkroom, washroom attendants .5-$1 per guest Valet parking, bellhops $1-2 Musicians, singers Doorman $1-2 Concierge $2-5 Room service 12-15% Housekeeping $1-5 per night
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What the invitation communicates
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Degree of event formality
Color &Theme
Information & Action required
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Options & Sources for invites
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Professional Printers Stationary Stores On-Line Services Office Supply Stores Calligraphers Do-it-yourself kits “Personally Made” Non-traditional/ Off-beat
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Paper
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Weight (in LBs) Ream (500 Sheets), Artisan (designer)
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Ink/Printing
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Engraved (cut into paper), Embossed (raised), Thermography (looks like embossed; but is cheaper), Lithography (not raised, cheapest)
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Form/Size
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be careful of odd sizes
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Color
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single process or more, paper & ink options
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Font
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Style & size - no smaller than 12
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artwork
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graphics, illustrations, borders
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Anatomy of a Formal Invitation
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Names of Hosts
Listed by rank, then age, then alphabetically
Uniform title use
The “Inviting Verb”
The Type of Party/ Event
Purpose of Party/ Event
Date – day, then date then month
Hour – indicate morning, afternoon, or evening
Location
Special Instructions – if needed
Reply Instructions – if not on separate card
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What’s inside a formal inviation
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The Outer Envelope The Inner Envelope The Tissue The Invitation The Admission Card The Pew Card Within the Ribbon Card The Reception Card The Reply Card w/ return envelope Directions & Maps
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Engagement Party
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usually hosted by the Brides Family. NEVER HOSTED BY B&G
Usually cocktail party
should be family and top priority wedding guests
gifts are optional
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wedding budget breakdown
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ceremony - 5 wedding attire - 10 photography - 9 videography - 5 stationary - 4 reception - 33 music - 5 bakery 2 flowers - 6 decorations 3 transportation -3 rental items -3 gifts 3 parties - 4 misc - 4
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Formal Wedding Basics
Location – house of worship or large, elegant home or garden
Number of Attendants – 4 to 10 each
Bride & Attendants wear long gowns of formal fabric
Grooms & Attendants wear cutaways or tailcoats
Sit-down dinner or semi-buffet
Engraved invitations and Elaborate decorations & flowers
Limousines for transportation
Music provided by orchestra or band
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Semi-formal Wedding Basics
Location – house of worship, a chapel, a hotel, a club, a home or garden
Number of Attendants – 2 to 6 each
Bride & Attendants wear long, ballerina or tea-length dresses.
Grooms & Attendants wear dark gray or black stroller w/ striped trousers for day, and dinner jacket with black trousers or formal suit
Buffet or cocktail buffet
Music provided by small band or DJ
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Informal Wedding Basics
Location – house of worship, a chapel, rectory, home or garden
Number of Attendants – 1 to 3 each
Bride & Attendants wear simple white or pastel ballerina, tea-length or street length dresses
Grooms & Attendants wear suits or sports jacket & slacks
Restaurant or home with caterer, often breakfast/brunch
If later in day, may be just tea and cake.
Music provided by single musician, CD or tape
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Who Can Perform A Religious Ceremony
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Members of the Clergy including:
Priests
Rabbis
Ministers
Imans
Tribal Leader
For Native American Ceremonies
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Who Can Perform Non-religious Ceremonies
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Mayor of a City or Village
City Clerk
A Marriage officer
A Justice or Judge
A Village, town or county Justice
A person given temporary authority by Judge or Court Clerk
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Shower Basics
can be anytime of day and are best held 2 weeks to 2 months before the wedding.
Tradition says Bridesmaids or Maid of Honor should host
Guests should be close friends, attendants and family members
Themes are common. Should be communicated in invitation.
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Bridesmaids Luncheon
Victorian tradition
Held very close to wedding date
Purpose to thank attendants and hand out bridal party gifts
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Bachelor/Bachelorette Party
Hosted by ushers/ attendants
Should reflect what Groom/ Bride wants
Avoid holding very close to wedding date
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The Rehearsal
The goal is to avoid confusion & ensure everyone knows what to expect on the day of the wedding.
All members of the wedding party and family involved in ceremony should attend.
should be held 1-2 days before the wedding and should be held at the ceremony site.
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The Rehearsal Dinner
Usually held night before the wedding, even if rehearsal took place earlier
The Groom’s Family traditionally hosts
May be fun, elegant or thematic
All members of the wedding party should be invite, their escorts, the officiant, and members of Bride’s & Groom’s family.
Out of town guests can also be invited
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Rehearsal Dinner General Order of Events
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Cocktail Hour
Serving of Meal
Gifts to Attendants & Family if not given at a luncheon
Toasts during dinner
Jokes/ Readings/ Poems
Reminiscing/ Video Montage/ Slides
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Primary Reception Considerations
Cost, Size & Comfort, Viability & Time, Formality, Accessibility & Layout
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Reception Policies to Check on
Restrictions on F&B, Music, Flowers, Candles, Decorations
Laws/ Rules regarding alcohol service
Access to room/ Time line for deliveries to site
Changing room for Bride and Groom
Time – ideal lag between ceremony & reception is 30 minutes.
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Facility Reception
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Pros:
Package deal can reduce cost
Staff “knows” what to do
Cons:
Room/ party size limits
“factory” mentality
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Tented Reception
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Pros:
More flexibility with location & Size
More personalization
Cons:
Weather issues
Cost & Coordination
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General Flow of Reception
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Receiving Line
Best Man’s Toast
Blessing of Meal
The Meal
Cutting of Cake
Bride’s & Groom’s First Dance
Parent Dances
General Dancing
Tossing of Bouquet
Tossing of Garter
Other Ceremonies
Bride & Groom Change
Bride & Groom Return for Going Away Dance
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Commitment Ceremony
a celebration of a formal commitment of love and relationship between two men or two women.
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the only states that legally recognizes same-sex unions.
MA, CT VT
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1996, the Defense of Marriage Act was signed into law by President Bill Clinton.
Bans Federal Government from recognizing and permits States to ignore same sex marriages performed in other states.
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Vow Renewal
The basic premise is to exchange vows, just as you did the first time around. You can either recite the same words you spoke back then, or compose new ones to mark this special occasion and how you feel now
After the vows you'll exchange rings. Either engrave your original bands with something new or purchase new rings expressly for the reaffirmation
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Sudan and other areas along the nile
a man must pay his wife’s family in sheep or cattle for the loss of their daughter’s labor in support of the family. A wife may cost a man as many as 30 to 40 head of cattle.
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Somalia
a man is allowed to have as many as four wives if he can support them all, and it is not uncommon for a girl to be engaged before she is even born
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China
traditions held that the gift of a whole roast pig given by the groom’s family to the bride’s family was an appropriate engagement gift
The traditional wedding gown is bright red, symbolizing luck for the new couple.
The groom traditionally wears a black silk coat over a robe embroidered with a dragon, and you can expect loud firecrackers to scare off evil spirits
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Korea
traditional for a fortune-teller, known as a kung-hap, to look into the couple’s future before they are married in order to see if they will live harmoniously together. A harmonious union is very important since the engagement gifts alone for a traditional wedding can cost upwards of $40,000
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Philippeans
custom required the groom to throw a spear into the front steps of his intended-bride’s home. This was a dramatic symbol to everyone that she had been spoken for
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India and other countries with a Hindu culture
it is considered bad luck for the bride and groom to see each other for several days before the wedding. As part of the marriage ceremony the bride’s parents wash the couple’s feet with milk and water as a symbol of purifying them for the journey of their new life together. As part of the ceremony the couple holds in their hands grains of rice and oats and green leaves, signifying wealth, good health and happiness
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Russia
church weddings are not considered official, and so couples wanting to get married must exchange their wedding vows at a marriage civil ceremony. Here, the bride and groom receive bread and salt, symbolizing health, prosperity and long life.
The civil ceremony is often considered unimportant to friends and relatives of the bride and groom. The main affair is the wedding reception, a great two day celebration with music, dancing, feasting and drinking.
When a traditional Orthodox couple get married they are crowned as royalty for the day. The bride and groom must stand on a special carpet as they recite their marriage vows, but first they race each other to it. Whoever reaches the carpet first will, presumably, be the head of the household.
