Misc. terms Flashcards
(12 cards)
A ___ is considered to be something that is part of an individual’s personality and therefore a long-term characteristic of an individual that shows through their behavior, actions, and feelings. It is seen as being a characteristic, feature, or quality of an individual. Ex: “I am a confident person.”
trait
A ___ is a temporary condition that they are experiencing for a short period of time. After the ___ has passed, they will return to another condition. Ex: “I am feeling confident about this interview.”
state (x2)
In a world where perfectionism, pleasing, and proving are used as _ … _, it takes a lot of courage to show up and be all in when we can’t control the outcome.
armor to protect our egos and feelings
Understanding the nuances of language can help us ….
… ask ourselves the right questions.
Examples with Jealousy and Envy:
Am I fearful of losing something I value to another person, or do I want something someone else has? If I want something that someone else has, do I want to see them lose it, or is it not about that? If I’m scared I’m losing something important to me, what kind of conversation do I need to have with that person?
We know from the research that ___ ___ is the most powerful elicitor of shame.
Unwanted Identity
If you want to know what’s likely to trigger shame for you, just fill in this sentence stem: It’s really important for me to not be perceived as _____.
Involuntary focus on negative and pessimistic thoughts.
Vs. ___, which is highly adaptive and psychologically healthy.
Vs. ___, which is focused on the future (as opposed to the past or on things about ourselves that we’re stuck on).
Rumination vs. reflection vs. worry
In the context of Nostalgia
Paradox and cognitive dissonance are not emotions. (Describe their role).
They start with thinking and bring in emotion as we start to feel the tension and pull of different ideas.
Hope is a way of thinking–a cognitive process (and emotions play a role). While hope is not an emotion, hopelessness and despair are emotions.
We experience hope when: (3 things)
- We have the ability to set realistic GOALS
- We are able to figure out how to achieve those goals, including the ability to stay flexible and develop alternative PATHWAYS
- We have AGENCY–we believe in ourselves
(Type of grief)
Occurs in the initial period after a loss. Dominates a person’s life.
Acute grief
(Type of grief)
The result of adaptation to the loss. The grief is not over. Instead, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors related to their loss are integrated in ways that allow them to remember and honor the person who died. Grief finds a place in their life.
Integrated grief
(Type of grief)
Occurs when something interferes with adaptation. It can persist for very long periods of time.
Complicated grief
(Type of grief)
Grief that “is not openly acknowledged or publicly supported through mourning practices or rituals because the experience is not valued or coutned [by others] as a loss.” The grief can also be invisible or hard to see by others. Examples: loss of one’s prior worldview, loss of freedom and independence, loss of a sense of safety and security, etc.
Disenfranchised grief
