Tricks to remember emotions Flashcards
(41 cards)
Being “in the weeds”
Stressed
Being “blown”
Overwhelmed
Coping strategies for anxiety
Worry, avoidance
We experience social pain and physical pain in the same part of our brains, and the potential exposure to either type of pain drives ___.
Fear (including fear of social rejection)
There is no courage without ___.
Vulnerability
Swimming laps
Comparison
“Be like everyone else, but better.”
Comparison
We are left wanting to be better versions of ourselves.
Admiration
It fosters a desire for connection with and to move closer to that thing or person.
Reverence
___ doesn’t seem to be a singular emotion but rather a cognitive evaluation in response to feeling anger, sadness, and/or fear. In other words, we think it in response to how we feel.
Jealousy
Some level or ___ in small doses and expressed appropriately is a normal part of healthy relationships. Maya Angelou: “___ in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening.”
Jealousy
___ is part of the envy family
“I’m not mad because you’re resting. I’m mad because I’m so bone tired and I want to rest. But, unlike you, I’m going to pretend that I don’t need to.”
Resentment
Now, when I start to feel resentful, instead of thinking, “What is that person doing wrong,” or “What should they be doing,” I think, “_ … _.”
“What do I need but am afraid to ask for?”
While resentment is definitely an emotion, I normally recognize it by a familiar thought pattern: “_ … _.”
“What mean and critical thing am I rehearsing saying to this person?”
Ted Lasso declared the office a ___.
“Schaudenfreude-free zone.”
Nothing that celebrates the humiliation or pain of another person builds lasting connection
Good friends aren’t afraid of your light. They never blow out your flame and you don’t blow out theirs - even when it’s really bright and it makes you worry about your own flame. When something good happens to you, they celebrate your flame. When something good happens to them, you celebrate their flame. To illustrate, we’d have our kids hold their hands out, palms flat and open, and say, “If this is your flame and the wind picks up, good friends cup their hands around your flame to prevent it from going out. And you do the same for them.”
Freudenfreude
Abby Wambach would “point and run” after a goal to celebrate the person who made the assist or the coach who called the play.
Freudenfreude
“___ is your imagination calling to you.”
Boredom
We were packing for spring break at Disney World when Steve, who was looking in my bad, said, “Babe, should we reality-check expectations for the week?” Somewhat frustrated, I replied, “No. I think we’re good, babe.” Steve pointed to the three books I had stuffed into my carry-on bag and said, “Tell me more about those.”
Unexamined and unexpressed expectations, aka stealth expectations
Questions to ask to reality-check, communicate, and dig into the intensions driving someone’s expectations.
What expectations do you have going into this? What do you want to happen? Why? What will that mean to you? Do you have a movie in your head? Are you setting goals and expectations that are completely outside of your control?
In the short term, we tend to regret ___. When we reflect back over the long term, we tend to regret ___.
(1) bad outcomes where we took action
2) actions we didn’t take (missed opportunities
The idea of “no regrets” doesn’t mean living with courage, it means living ___. To live without regret is to believe we have nothing to learn, no amends to make, and no opportunity to be braver with our lives.
Without reflection
With ___, we don’t think we can fix the situation, while with ___, we feel there is something we can do.
(1) frustration, (2) anger
Cartoon of observing the stars, vs. cartoon of observing a butterfly and then picking up a biology book.
Awe vs. Wonder
