MODULE 7 Flashcards
_____________ is the basis of all relationships. __________ is about treating people well and showing them they are important and valued for who they are.
Respect
A person is confident the other person is reliable and truthful.
Trust
Each person can admit when they are wrong and they expect the other person to do the same. Each person can share what they think, and expect the other person to not make fun of them.
Honesty
Each person is there for the other person, in good times and in bad times.
Support
The two people share in deciding what to do and who to spend time with. One person does not make all the decisions.
Equality
Each person has their own life-friends, family, hobbies-separate from the other person. Each person feels comfortable doing things without the other person, including new and old activities, and other relationships.
Separate identity
You can talk openly with the other person about anything and everything, and know they do not judge you. You feel the other person hears what you say and takes it seriously.
Good communication
You like being around the other person, you have fun together.
Enjoyment
You are comfortable around the other person; you know they will not hurt you.
Safety
When someone resents you for spending time with other people.
Jealousy
When someone wants to be with you all the time and does not let you have any personal space.
Clinginess
When two people are constantly fighting.
Excessive Arguing
When someone doesn’t consider your feelings and doesn’t seem to care when you are upset.
Disregarding Feelings
When someone intimidates and controls you to try to get you to do something that you do not want to do.
Threats
When someone won’t take “NO” for an answer and keeps trying to get you get to do something.
Persistence
When someone makes you feel badly for saying “NO” or not agreeing to something.
Guilt
3 Stages of Falling in-love According to: Dr. Helen Fisher of Rutgers University (3 Brain Systems of Love)
Lust, Attraction, and Attachment
Driven by sex hormones; TESTOSTERON & ESTROGEN
These hormones affects both sexes.
Lust
is described as the love struck phase,
which involves neurotransmitters in the brain
such as dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin.
This is the stage when a person loses sleep and
appetite over someone, and swoons while daydreaming of this special
person. It also involves our unconscious assessment of another’s
person genes through their physical appearance .
Attraction
when the couple in love decides to continue with
the relationship, they enter the attachment stage
where long-lasting commitment are exchanged,
and may lead to raising family.
Attachment
According to Feist & Rosenberg, there are three components of love such as
…
intimacy, commitment and passion
As defined Reis et al., as the lovely moment when
someone understands and validates you. John
Joseph Powell defined intimacy as an absolute
human certainty that no one can know his own
beauty or perceived a sense of his own worth
until it has been reflected back to him in the
mirror of another loving and caring human being.
Intimacy
Is the act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by
agreements made with another person, entity, or cause,
and where the values of integrity and respect serve as a
guide to one’s behavior and thinking.
Commitment
___________ is the intense state of being that
drives and consumes a person to pursue
interest, a vision, or a person. in terms of
romantic love, passion connotes sexual
attraction, as well as intimacy.
Passion
