Flashcards in Person Centered and Humanistic-Existential Deck (11):
Name 4 assumptions that often are shattered
1. I can trust God (bad things don't happen to good people and that God will protect)
2. I can trust others (spouse, family, friends, authorities, church leaders)
3. I can tryst my own judgement (picking a spouse, friend, job direction)
4. The world is safe and predictable place (especially for those who pray)
How does a therapeutic relationship affect the healing process?
It creates a positive client outcome
It allows for connections that promote healing
The client feels deeply known and affected
How does brining the past into the present affect the client?
It brings the experience to life, which is the fastest way to get to the client's truth and in a way that will help them by allowing them to face what they are trying but cannot say. You help the client articulate what they cannot and want to say.
How do you help the client recognize a problem so that they have the ability to solve it?
The empathetic therapist sees the client as a source and as the problems solver. The therapist needs to interpret and make inferences/connections and seeing subtle relationships and have a 3rd ear and then to find the words to express understanding.
Why is it important to be focused when attending to the client?
There is a lot of power in just listening to someone and it makes the person feel valued and the client feels free to explore new thoughts.
Why is it important to work and re-work to create intensity?
When you talk about issues whether in the past or in the present, the importance is in the reactions in the here and now. It is the impact that you need to focus on in therapy. Help the client to live the experience over again which gives them the chance to deal with the experience in a new way. You don't ignore but instead deal with the memory.
Why is it important to select the most important and relevant material from what clients present?
Your first guideline is to listen for implicit and explicit reactions
You listen for the part of the message that seems invested with the most feeling, with the most sense of there is something that I know is important and sort of understand but cannot put into words.
Why is silence important?
Silences can be constructive and makes it easy for the client to talk without being asked questions.
How can you address the hurt in therapy in small doses?
Clients often avoid hurt because they fear it even though it is bothering them but not being able to do anything about it due to the avoidance . You have to face the fear, feel the fear (in small doses). You do this by staying at the leading edge of what the client is implying.
Why is it important to acknowledge a client's internal conflict and giving expression to all sides?
Conflict is fundamental to all human functioning and underlies most human emotional problems. You should listen to all sides of the issue that the client is trying to deal with and put it into words.