Personal and Family Issues Flashcards
(92 cards)
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What is a sexual relationship?
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When two people agree (consent) to have sex on a regular basis.
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What is a heterosexual relationship?
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A sexual relationship that occurs between a man and a woman.
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What is pre-marital sex?
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The act of having sex before or outside of a marriage,
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What is the legal age of consent in Northern Ireland?
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16.
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What can cause younger people to be pressured into having sex?
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Peer/social media pressures.
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What do Christians believe about sexual intercourse?
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It is a sacred act that should only take place in a committed married relationship.
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What is the practice of abstaining from sex?
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Chastity.
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What are the Presbyterian Church teachings on pre-marital sex?
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God meant sex to be enjoyed in context of full commitment of marriage. It is the physical expression of deeper reality of two becoming one in marriage.
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What are the Church of Ireland teachings on pre-marital sex?
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Human sexuality is a wonderful gift from God at time when they are most aware of this gift, urge that young people question any behaviour that devalues this gift, or hinders it’s fulfilment within context of marriage.
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What are the Catholic Church teachings on pre-marital sex?
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Fornication is carnal union between unmarried man and woman. Gravely contrary to dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the good of spouses and the generation and education of children.
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What are the Christian arguments against pre-marital sex?
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- Sex is a gift from God and something to be enjoyed, not abused.
- It can prevent unwanted pregnancy outside of marriage.
- It lessens risk of getting a sexually transmitted infection.
- People can become emotionally hurt by having sex in a relationship that is not a life-long commitment. They can feel devalued and used.
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What is celibacy?
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When a person chooses to have no relationships with anyone else.
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What are the religious reasons for someone choosing to become celibate?
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Can devote themselves to God and service of others, as Christ did. They take vow of ‘celibacy’. Regard the Church as their family and don’t want any distractions from their duties.
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What are the other reasons for someone choosing to remain single or celibate?
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- Still looking - haven’t found person they want to spend rest of life with.
- Divorce - too hurt by what has happened. If children involved think it unfair to become involved with someone else.
- Death of a partner - do not want to become involved with anyone else.
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What denomination accepts the practice of clerical marriage?
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Protestant denomination.
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What is a same-sex relationship?
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When two men or women are attracted to each other.
Also known as homosexual or gay relationship.
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What is someone called when they are attracted to both men and women?
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Bisexual.
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What group believes there is no issue with being Christian and practicing same-sex relationships?
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OneBodyOneFaith.
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What does the Catholic Church teach about homosexuality?
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Sacred scriptures present homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity and are intrinsically disordered.
Men and woman who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Unjust discrimination should be avoided.
Are called to chastity.
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What does the Church of Ireland teach about homosexuality?
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Homosexual acts are incompatible with Scripture.
Opposed to homosexual practice.
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What does the Presbyterian Church teach about homosexuality?
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Part of sexual development in teenagers.
This can be arrested by various factors in their upbringing including close family relationships and family breakdown.
Many are confused about their sexuality.
Need help to understand and work through deep-seated insecurities, issues of forgiveness, gender acceptance and self-acceptance before come to terms with their sexual identity.
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What is marriage?
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A social, religious and spiritual union of individual people.
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What is the ceremony that marks the beginning of marriage?
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A wedding.
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Where can people choose to get married?
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In a church, registry office, hotel, wedding venue or at home.
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What Church only recognises church weddings?
Catholic Church.
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What is a reason for couples deciding not to get married?
Do not need a marriage certificate to prove how committed they are to each other.
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What are the biblical teachings on marriage?
Marriage is sacred - God created marriage and intends men and women to become ‘one’ through marriage.
Marriage should be exclusive - Ten Commandments condemn adultery.
Marriage involves give and take - partners should be prepared to put each other’s life before their own.
Marriage should be built on love and respect - love between man and woman should be compared to love that Christ had for his church.
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When is biblical teaching on marriage reflected?
In Christian wedding ceremony.
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What are the main features of a Christian wedding ceremony?
Introduction and declaration of purpose.
The vows.
Exchange of rings.
Warning.
Pronouncement.
Signing of the register.
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What happens in the introduction and declaration of purpose in a wedding ceremony?
Priest or minister gives short homily or sermon on importance and purpose of marriage.
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What happens in the vows in a wedding ceremony?
Couple repeats vows to each other to show their commitment, love and respect for each other.
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What happens in the exchange of rings in a wedding ceremony?
Rings exchanged as symbol of promise of unending love and exclusive commitment that each partner is making.
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What happens in the warning in a wedding ceremony?
Priest or minister quotes:
“Man must not separate, then, what God has joined together.”
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What happens in the signing of the register in a wedding ceremony?
Legal requirement where a married couple must sign a register and receive marriage certificates to make their marriage official.
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When were the first same-sex marriages allowed to take place in England and Wales?
Saturday 29 March 2014.
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When was the Marriage Act 2013 passed in England and Wales?
17 July 2013.
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What part of The Uk is the only part where gay couples cannot legally marry?
Northern Ireland.
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What are the benefits of marriage?
Social, emotional and financial.
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What is the social benefit of marriage?
Provides companionship - someone to share a life with.
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What is the emotional benefit of marriage?
Provides emotional support.
People feel wanted, cared for and understood from being in binding relationship.
Have partner to to turn to and share problems to reduce stress.
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What is the financial benefit of marriage?
Share living expenses, mortgages and other day-to-day costs.
Tax benefits - not have to pay capital gains tax when inheriting jointly-owned home after death.
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What proportion of marriages end in separation or divorce in Northern Ireland?
1 in 3.
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How many divorces were granted in 2015 in Northern Ireland?
2360 divorces.
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What are the common pressures on marriage?
Adultery.
Mixed/inter-church marriage facing difficulties.
Depression.
Homosexuality.
Sexual problems.
Domestic violence.
Health problems.
Lack of communication.
Infertility.
Children.
Child abuse.
Bereavement.
False hopes.
Alcohol or drug abuse.
Coping with elderly parents.
Loss of a job.
Money problems.
Arguments.
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What is an example of when one partner has the responsibility for ending a marriage?
Adultery as one person may decide to leave their partner for someone else.
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How can a troubled marriage be saved?
Sort out relationship problems as they arise.
Face up to things going wrong.
Counselling.
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What are 2 marriage guidance and counselling services?
Relate and Accord.
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What is Relate NI?
Registered charity that provides range of relationship services to couples and families in NI.
Services are confidential.
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Who are Relate NI services available to?
Young people, families, couples and individuals irrespective of social class, religion, gender, ability, colour, creed, ethnicity, or sexual orientation.
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What do Relate NI services include?
Relationship/family counselling.
Sex therapy.
Domestic violence and abuse counselling.
Life skills training.
General support with relationship issues.
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What stages of relationships are Relate NI counsellors able to help with?
Single.
Loving someone.
To marry or not to marry?
Married.
First baby.
Family.
Life changes.
Empty nest.
Separation/divorce.
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How does counselling help a couple, family or individual?
Enabling them to consider what the difficulties are, how they arose and how to deal with them.
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What does Accord NI do?
Promote deeper understanding of Christian marriage, and to offer couples means to safeguard and nourish their marriage and family relationships.
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What does Accord help to do?
Clarify a couple’s particular situation, enabling them to express thoughts and feelings and to explore new options and agree a course of action.
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Why do some couples choose divorce?
Only way forward for them is to get divorced.
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How many divorces were granted in NI in 2015?
2360.
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What grounds must exist for a court to allow for a divorce to take place?
Adultery - by other party.
Behaviour - unreasonable for couple to stay together.
Desertion - for 2 years.
Separation and consent - lived apart for 2 years and consent to divorce.
5 year separation -parties lived apart for 5 years.
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What are the benefits of divorce?
Allow chance to start again and meet another partner.
Escape from abusive marriage.
Improve relationships between ex-partners.
Provide healthier environment for children, if parents had been very unhappy and fighting.
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How can people be affected by divorce?
Sadness - did not want relationship to end.
Anxiety - what lies ahead, money, where to live, if meet someone else.
Loneliness - used to sharing home and life with partner.
Stress - looking after children on own or not seeing children enough.
Anger - towards other party or situation.
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How may children of divorced parents be affected and struggle?
Confusion - find it difficult to come to terms with parent’s divorce and feel they were the blame as did not realise parents were unhappy.
Grief - may not see both parents a lot as may have to live with one parent or be split between two. Miss daily contact and experience loss and sadness for a while.
Behaviour - may feel sad, anxious or angry about divorce. May lead to uncharacteristic behaviour such as arguing, struggling to concentrate at school or by is behaviour.
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What are the biblical extracts teachings on divorce?
In Matthew 19:6-9, God’s plan is for marriage to be lifelong and permanent commitment: “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate”.
Old Testament prophet Malachi declares God’s opinion of divorce: “”I hate divorce,” says the Lord God of Israel”.
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What are some biblical teachings on divorce?
God knows, since marriage involves two sinful human beings, divorce is going to happen.
Book of Deuteronomy says God laid down some laws in order to protect rights of divorcees, especially women. Jesus said these laws were given because of hardness of people’s hearts, not because they were what God wanted.
Debate over whether Bible allows divorce and remarriage centres on Jesus’ word in Matthew 5:31-32 (see also at them 19:8).
Phrase “other than her unfaithfulness” is only condition for divorce. Divorce allowed if sexual immorality committed.
Paul’s teaching on marriage breakdown in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 encourages reconciliation if at all possible. If not single life advised.
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What are most Churches teachings on divorce?
Most churches teach that divorce is last resort after every possible effort toward reconciliation has failed. Bible advises enter marriage carefully. Honouring and upholding marriage vows brings glory to God.
Presbyterian, Methodist and Church of Ireland accept civil divorce as end to marriage. Allow remarriage of divorced people in church, only if minister is willing to perform ceremony and can refuse.
Catholic Church des not allow divorce: “Adultery, divorce, polygamy, and free union are grave offence against dignity of marriage”. Marriage
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What are the Catholic Church teachings on divorce?
Catholic Church does not allow divorce: “Adultery, divorce, polygamy, and free union are grave offence against dignity of marriage”.
Marriage is a sacrament and such cannot be dissolved or ended. Even if divorce granted, Church believes in eyes of God, they are still married and not allowed to marry.
“If husband, separated from his wife, approached another woman, he is an adulterer, as makes that woman commit adultery, and woman who lives with him is an adulteress, as she has drawn another’s husband to herself.”
However, Catholic Church acknowledge marriage can run into difficulty: “Some situations in which living together becomes practically impossible, Church permits physical separation and couples lives apart. Spouses do not cease to be husband and wife before God and not free to contract new union. Best solution is reconciliation.
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What is a family?
Group of people, mainly made up of adults and children, who live together.
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What are the different types of family?
Nuclear family
Cohabiting family
Same sexy couple family
Extended or multi-family
Lone-parent family
Reconstituted or blended family
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What is a nuclear family?
Most common type of family in UK.
Consists of husband and wife, living in family home with children.
Grandparents and relations in close contact.
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What is a cohabiting couple family?
Consists of couple and their children who decide to live together without getting married.
Can be a heterosexual or homosexual relationship.
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What is a same-sex couple family?
Consists of gay couple, either two men or two women, and their children.
Couple may be married, have civil partnership or be cohabiting.
Children may be biological or adopted.
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What is an extended or multi-family?
Includes parents and children as well as other relatives, possibly grandparents, living together.
More common in past than today.
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What is a lone-parent family?
Made up of one parent and a child/children.
May be due to not marrying or cohabiting, or result of separation, divorce or death.
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What is a reconstituted or blended family?
Consists of parent who decides to marry or live with new partner, after separation, divorce or death, and combine two families.
May include step-brothers and sisters or half-brothers and sisters.
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What are the reasons that a family unit is important in society for?
Protection
Support
Care
Companionship
Behaviour
Values
Identity
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Why is a family unit important in society for protection?
Children depend on family to protect them and provide for their needs.
Safe environment for bringing up children.
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Why is a family unit important in society for support?
Healthy family provides emotional, physical and social support.
Helps people through times of difficulty and contributes to a healthy society.
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Why is a family unit important in society for care?
Families care for members when sick, have disability and in later life.
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Why is a family unit important in society for companionship?
Helps people feel that they are not alone.
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Why is a family unit important in society for behaviour?
Children first learn to interact with other people.
Helps learn good manner, importance of give and take, difference between right and wrong, how society expects people to behave.
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Why is a family unit important in society for values?
Positive family environment instils tolerance, respect and charity.
Needed in well-ordered society.
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Why is a family unit important in society for identity?
Teach children their beliefs and pass on religious, political and cultural traditions.
Helps shape people’s opinions, behaviours and identities.
Healthy society where there is respect for beliefs of others.
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What are the parental responsibilities?
Look after children’s physical and mental health.
Provide for material and emotional needs of their children. Home should be place of comfort, warmth and happiness.
Take responsibility for behaviour of children and teach acceptable behaviour.
Decide which religion, if any, their children will be brought up in.
Ensure children attend school until at least 16.
Never mistreat or harm their children.
Protect child from abuse.
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What should parents do with regards to Church teaching in home values?
Prayer
Example
Spending time together
Teaching
Baptism
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What should parents do with regard to prayer in Church teaching on home values?
Teaching their children to pray.
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What should parents do with regard to example in Church teaching on home values?
Children learn by example; bad as well as good.
Up to parents to set good example, for children to follow, in what they say and do.
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What should parents do with regard to spending time together in Church teaching on home values?
Having one meal together a day, so can talk about what is going on in their lives.
Put mobile phones away during meals.
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What should parents do with regard to teaching in Church teaching on home values?
Teach children Christian faith through Bible study at home or taking children to church.
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What should parents do with regard to baptism in Church teaching on home values?
Parents can choose to have children baptised as babies or infants.
Child welcomed into family of church.
When child old enough to decide for themselves, choose to continue to follow Christian faith.
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What are the alternatives to marriage?
Civil partnerships
Cohabition
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What is a civil partnership?
A legal relationship which can be registered by 2 people who aren’t related to each other.
Allows same-sex couples to register as civil partners and have equal rights as a married couple.
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What is cohabition?
To live together as a couple without being married.
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What are the reasons for cohabition?
Live together to test compatibility.
Saving money as weddings can be expensive.
Believe marriage not necessary to show commitment.
Not wanting legal ties of marriage.
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What are the disadvantages of cohabition?
Fewer obligations and rights than married couples with no legal recognition.
If one partner dies without leaving will, surviving partner does not inherit anything unless jointly owned property.
Not exempt from paying inheritance tax if inherit from unmarried partner.
