Pro-actively programming my nervous system, to be a great manager for others Flashcards
What are the 7 daily foundations to proactively practice soothing my nervous system
Morning
1. Exercise: positivity chemicals rolling and releasing.
2. Cold shower
3. Meditation morning: how are you feeling +
Practice settling your nervous system down
Through the day
4. Eat well to maximize energy.
5. Proactively collect moments of positive connection (esp when challenging). Friends, strangers, work
Evening
6. Journal evening: reflect on the vision of a positive connection
7. Good sleep
What 4 things must I do to proactively be ahead of stress through the day
- Proactively check in on what state im in. Breathe - sensation with no need for explanation
- Separate stressful situations vs. your own personal stress.
- Be a creative problem solver and take action - don’t be a powerless victim.
- Proactively communicate expectations.
Stressed with people: first and foremost …. and only then
First & foremost..
1. Tune into the person’s intentions
2. Tune into your breath - make sure you’re not holding your breath
3. Let the moment pass through you before you speak
And only then …
4. Never make it personal. Always focus the conversation around the problem.
5. Communicate your perspective with a smile.
6. Don’t try and win the war in every moment - skillfully influence people over time.
The discipline of working hard is about…?
All progress is hard mentally and emotionally - if you don’t embrace that uncertainty, there is no progress.
Working hard is about giving everything you have - which helps you sleep well.
The 5 principles of my vision for fostering a great team where people want my leadership?
- Complementary strengths across one team: A team where different people’s strengths complement mine, and together we all help each other elevate
- Im the coach, they’re the players: My job is to ensure the player is clear and confident in their own abilities when it comes to game day, and im not on the pitch.
- Strong relationships take the work of proactive communication around expectations. Take out the guesswork of what’s good and bad behaviour.
- Create psychological safety so people say whats on their mind
- Consistent behaviour is the only thing that counts for me and others.
What is the core principle of establishing expectations and behaviors?
What is the framework?
Continuously provide keep it-up / how-to get better feedback.
Always very matter-of-fact - no emotion.
Can I give you feedback? (make sure they are open to receive)
When you do x (specific behaviour, never about a person),
the impact is y (focus on the impact to you, never assume intentions),
and that means z (why it’s good/ not good).
Moving forward (focus on next time) how can continue/do that differently? (engage them in the solution/ ownership)
Always looking fwd, never back + always about the bavhiour never the person
When is the only time your frustration is valid?
It’s ONLY EVER cause for frustration if you’ve consistently communicated expectations - someone has agreed, and they don’t do it.
What are the core tenants of proactively building nervous system resiliency against over reaction?
Macro foundations: 7 daily rituals
Daily - proactively be ahead of stress 3 checks
When stressed by a person
Proactively collect moments of what positive connection feels like
How do you build a strong team
Vision for team
How to proactively establish expectations
How to build strong relationships
The only time it’s valid to be frustrated with the team
What is hard work and why is it important?
How do you build a strong relationship?
Weekly 1 on 1s - always give the person to lead with whats important to them - get to know them on a personal level
