Psy 220 After Midterm content Flashcards
Interpersonal Relationships
Extended attachments between tow or more peoples due to bonds or friendship, family, love respect or hierarchy.
Why are interpersonal relationships difficult to study
Due to self selection, people choose their relationships and we can’t experimentally assign people to form extended lasting social bonds
Harold’s monkey experiments (what is it)
A baby was offered 2 fake mothers, one made of hard wire a with a bottle of formula attached, and one made of cloth and they hypothesized that the monkey would only want the wired mother as they only wanted a parent for food. However, the baby monkey stuck to the cloth mother for comfort.
Importance of relationship
Stress reduction: Stressful situations in particular motivate us to affiliate with others who face a similar through
Cognitive Clarity: Perhaps to receive information as other are a good source of what they’re about to face. It helps us clarify what we are thinking and feeling
So people need other people but
Need to belong: Our social belonging is similar to our biological hunger
What are the five criteria of need
Evolutionary basis: Social belonging is linked to survival and reproduction
Universal: All cultures have similar types of social relationships and dynamics
Guides social cognition: Social relationships guide how we see ourselves, others and our surroundings
Satiable: Relationships are something we want like hunger and they need to be satisfied by finding new relationships
Profound consequences without relationships: Being cut off from others is bad for mental and physical health
Costs of Social Rejections
- Feeling socially rejected causes feelings of shame and distress
- Social rejection may reduce ability to regulate behaviors like impulses, concentration and may be more aggressive towards others.
- People who feel more socially isolated report higher levels of chronic pain, aliments and pain during childbirth
Social exchange Theory
Comparison level: Comparing what we think we desire vs. what we have
Equity Theory
The difference between long term and short term relationships
Short term: Exchange relationship, where people are concerned about a fair distribution of rewards and costs
Long term: Communal relationship in which people are less concerned with accounting of who is contribution what and more about helping their partner when they need it
Attachment Theory
John Bowlby: Early attachment with parents/caregivers shape future relationships due to evolution so we develop strong parents-offspring bond
4 types of attachment styles
Secure: feel secure in relationships, Comfortable with intimacy, desire to be close to others during times of stress
Anxious-insecure: Feel insecure in
relationships, will compulsively seek
closeness but constantly
worry about the relationship, and during stress, excessively
try to get closer to
others
Avoidant-insecure: Feel insecure in relationships, feel the need to be completely self reliant and during stress they detached and dismissive others
Disorganized: Inconsistent, unpredictable behavior in relationships ( fearful and confused responses to closeness) , is often linked to early life trauma and they have difficult time trusting others.
What is the experiment that tests infant attachment?
The strange situation: An experimental procedure where an infant’s reaction is observed after the mother leaves the room and the child is left with a stranger and then the mother returns
Rules of Attraction
Both geographical nearness and functional distance predicts liking
Why does proximity effect attraction
Availability and proximity:
Anticipation of interaction:
Mere Exposure
Why mere exposure causes liking?
Classical conditioning: Repeated exposure to a stimulus without any negative consequences makes the stimulus more pleasant
Fluency: Easier to process information about familiar stimuli, pleasant feelings associated with more fluent processing
Similarity
Friends and romantic partners tend to be similar in beliefs and other characteristics
How similarity promotes attraction
Social Validation: We like being around people who agree with us
More fluent interaction: Interacting with people similar to ourselves is often easier leading to less conflict over activities and easier to understand peoples choices
How does dissimilarity effect relationships
Dissimilarity can increase disliking: due to
-false consensus bias: we believe that everyone views the world the same way we do)
-attitude alignment: Where we adjust out attitudes with others overtime to make our close contact relationships easier
Competence
Being to competent people is rewarding BUT if they are more competent than we are in areas that matter to us, we can feel inadequate and their attractiveness will dimmish
Reciprocal liking
The thing that we like those who like us back, when we sense someone likes us, we like them ore creating a positive feedback loop.
Pratfall effect
The idea that while competence, is more attractive, it’s more attractive where “perfect” people make mistakes as we then see them as more human.
What is the Pratfall experiment
Can opposites ever attract?
Yes, with complementarily relationships as they seek each other out to compliment their own charactisics. (Example Dom and Sub relationship.)
What are some of the benefits of being physically attractive?
More popular as friends, better liked as potential romantic partners
What are some of the physical traits that make women physically attractive?
Large eyes, small nose, small chin, full lips, narrow cheeks and prominent cheekbones