Relationships 🤔 Flashcards
Paper 3
what are the three main factors of attraction?
- physical attraction (MH)
- self disclosure
- filter theory
how is physical attraction importance assessed?
- using the matching hypothesis
who made the matching hypothesis?
- Murstein (1972)
what did Murstein initially argue?
- we may desire the most physical attractive partner in theory, but we may know we are unlikely to get or keep them
what does the MH propose?
- we look for someone of a similar level of attractiveness as ourselves
why is compromise necessary when looking for physically attractive partners (MH)?
- due to fear of rejection
- need to achieve balance between partners
what did Brown argue in reference to the MH?
- MH phenomenon results from a learned sense of what’s ‘fitting’ rather than fear
- we learn to adjust our expectations of rewards in line with what we believe we have on offer
what was Walster et al’s (1966) study called, exploring the MH?
- computer dance study
what did Walster et al’s computer dance study involve?
- 376 female students and 376 male students volunteered to participate in a computer dance
- when they signed up, 4 independent judges assessed each persons physical attractiveness
- participants were led to believe that a questionnaire (previously filled out) would be used in the computer pairing, but it was random instead
- dance was held 2 days later, before which they were given their dates names
what were the findings of Walster et al’ computer dance study?
- during the dance, they were asked to complete a questionnaire about their dates
- more physically attractive students were liked more by their partners than the less attractive ones
- 6 months later, they asked the students whether they had dated their partner since, found that the more similar in attractiveness partners were more likely to have dated
how can Walster et al’s computer dance study be used to evaluate the MH?
- ironically, failed to confirm the MH
- may be because measurement of attractiveness was unreliable (raters only had a few seconds to judge attractiveness)
- follow up questions (6 months later) did support the MH
how did Walster and Walster’s study support the MH?
- did a repeat of the original computer dance but this time students had met beforehand
- meant they had more time to think about the qualities they were looking for in a partner
- students expressed most liking for those who were on the same level of physical attractiveness as themselves
what is complex matching?
- extension of the MH
- suggests couples can achieve a match in ways other than physical attraction
- the tendency to compensate for a lack of physical attractiveness with other desirable qualities (ie. status, personality, kindness, etc)
what is self-disclosure?
- voluntary sharing/ revealing of personal information bout the self to another person
what are the two main types of self-disclosure?
- superficial (breadth, low risk)
- intimate (depth, high risk)
what is self-disclosure important?
- greater disclosure means greater feelings of intimacy and increased likelihood of relationship stability
what did Sprecher suggest about self-disclosure?
- the amount of overall disclosure in a relationship was predictive of whether the couple stayed together for 4+ years
what are the norms of self-disclosure?
- only engage in a moderately personal level of self-disclosure in the early stages of a relationship
- Derlega and Grzelak
- Miller and Collins
what did Derlega and Grzelak suggest about self-disclosure?
- there should be neither too much personal information that that discloser appears to be indiscriminate for disclosing it to a relative stranger nor too little so the listener feel they are unable to know them better
what did Miller and Collins suggest about self-disclosure?
- found research support for its importance
- those who disclose more are liked better and the relationship is stronger if the recipient believed the disclosure was shared only to them
what is some evaluation for self-disclosure that compares face-to-face to online?
- Khop et al fund more disclosure face to face, due to the lack of intimacy of the internet in context for personal self disclosure
- discloser appreciates non-verbal cues which are absent online
- individuals don’t seize opportunity to reveal personal information online as much as expected
- however, anonymity online allows for people to disclose more occasionally
what is some evaluation regarding the role of gender and culture for self-disclosure?
- varies on topics that are considered appropriate to have conversations about (culture bias and awareness)
- Western cultures often disclose more than places like China and Japan (Chen, 1995)
- cultural norms shape how comfortable men/ women are in disclosing
- Nakanishi found Japanese women prefer lower levels of self disclosure and personal conversations than Japanese men (opposite to patterns typically found in the West)
who studied reciprocal self-disclosure and liking?
- Sprecher et al (2013)
what was Sprecher et al’s study on ‘reciprocal self-disclosure and linking’ procedure?
- pairs of unacquainted students were asked to participate in a self disclosure task over Skype
- there were two conditions: reciprocal condition (pair immediately took turns asing questions and disclosing) and non reciprocal condition (one person asked questions, the other answered and then rolls were switched)