Relationships And Boundaries Flashcards
(23 cards)
How can relationships negatively affect me?
Changing your personality to make you seem more
attractive
• Acting out of character
• Anxiety
•Company you keep rubs off on you and you may land up
doing things that make you uncomfortable.
How can relationships positively affect me?
Encouragement
Provides a safe environment to discover outselling make mistakes
Positive criticism
You become more like the people you send time with
How do I affect them?
Encourage the people around you
If you are emotionally healthy, people will want to spend with you and you will have an impact on them.
Why should one be secure in themselves before getting into a relationship?
Some situations could become dangerous if you have not yet figured out who you are, as you could cross boundaries you don’t know you have.
When you know who you are you are easier to be around
If you are unsure of who you are you may do things to please your partner rather then making your own decisions.
How can unhealthy relationships affect one’s well being?
Cause self blame
Anxiety
Depression
Aggressive behaviour
Self harm
Low self worth
Substance dependence
Eating disorders
Seeking of approval
How to know if you are in an unhealthy relationship?
If you ever feel uncomfortable but don’t feel comfortable to state this to your partner
If you family/friends tell you the person is no good, trust them and try look at your partner from their perspective
Do you feel good about yourself after spending time with them
Do they support you or pull you down?
Do they isolate you
What to do if it is abuse?
Tell someone you trust
Be firm and forward to your partner, explain that you will not allow yourself to be treated this way
Confront your partner with someone else
If your partner does not change their actions then break up with them
What is communication influence by?
Beliefs
Past experiences
Assumptions
Expectations
Attitudes
Prejudice
Social media’s effects on relationships
Can create unhealthy expectations within relationships
What are the different types of relationships?
Friendships
Family
Romance
Work
Community
Define Interdependent relationships
People do whatever is best for each other. They
make mature and reliable decisions and
agreements with each other based on their
separate and mutual needs and wants. There is
trust and compromise in these relationships.
Define Independent relationships
People in independent relationships do not rely
on support from their friends or family. They may
be isolated and lonely, or may prefer this.
Adolescents commonly choose to have this kind
of relationship with their family whilst they seek
the company of friends of their own age.
Define Dependent relationships
Young children and the elderly are often in
dependent relationships for care and support.
Unemployment and the need for financial support
make dependent relationships necessary.
Unhealthy romantic relationships are often
dependent, where one partner does not, or is not
allowed to function independently.
Whilst adolescents seek emotional
independence, they are usually fully financially
dependent.
What key factors define a healthy relationship?
Ability to maintain healthy balance in life and not give up on other relationships.
Open communication
Mutual respect
Healthy boundaries
How to maintain a good relationship?
Make personal relationships a high priority
Keep personal problems in their place
Invest time in important relationship
Resolve problems as soon as possible
Show appreciation
Be a friend
Take a risk
The Complaint:
Says “yes” to (or allows) bad things becuase they haven’t yet learned to say “no” or may feel it is not ok to say “no”
The Avoidant:
Says “no” to the good, they don’t feel they can ask for help or or expect help from others
The Controller:
They hear “no” as a simple challenge to change the other persons mind. They can’t respect the other person boundaries or limits.
The Non-Responsive:
Neglects the responsibility to care/love others by not responding ( or listening) to their expressed needs
Boundaries by vary depending on:
The individual
The context
The culture
The nature of the relationship
Religion
How do we establish boundaries?
Know yourself and your values
Express your needs/boundaries
Open, honest communication
Insist( while being respectful )
Consider your responses to repeated violations
Personal boundaries are designed to?
Protect and honour important parts of our lives
