Flashcards in Skills Deck (33):
Opening Question 1
“What would you like to talk about today?”
Opening Question 2
"What's on your mind today?"
General door opener
“Can you say more about that?”
“Can you tell me a little bit about that?”
"Meaning" door opener
“What do you mean by that?”
“Can you tell me more about what you mean when you?”
"How" door opener
“Can you tell me how?”
"Can you tell me about how so and so is for you?"
"How did this come about?"
"Topic" door opener
"What’s happening in your life about…?"
Basic reflection of feeling
You feel (emotion)
It must be (emotion) for you
Full reflection of feeling
You feel (emotion) because (paraphrase of content)
Stopping a rambling client
Let me stop you here for a second and see if I understand correctly.
I’m sorry to interrupt, but let me tell you what I know so far.
Reflection of meaning
“you feel (specific emotion) because (of the personal meaning behind the situation that accounts for the feeling)”
“Let’s review what I know so far…”
“Before we move on let me just summarize what I heard so far…”
“There seem to be a pattern…”
“Let’s recap what we have talked about so far...It sounds like (a particular area) needs to be addressed (in a future session)”
Competency box one
Join with the counselee
Competency box two
Choose a direction by creating a goal
Competency box three
Problem definition and set goals
(Change problem to a goal)
Competency box four
Use Presuppositional, future oriented questions in goal setting
Box four video description question
If I had two video tapes, one of you when you are standing up to the influence of the problem, and another when the problem is getting the best of you, what would I notice about the one where you are in charge?
Box four scaling question
On a scale from 0 to 10, where 10 means the best things could ever be, and 0 means the worst things have been, where would you say you are right now?
Box four scaling follow-up question?
What would it take to get the problem from a " " to a " "
What have you been doing to keep the problem from getting worse?
Competency box 5
Competency box 6
Questions that highlight pre-session change
Competency box 7
"When is the problem less frequent (intense, severe)?"
"When is it (the problem) different in any way?"
Creating Exceptions: Influence of the problem
In what ways has this problem had an effect on you/your life?
In what way has this problem kept you from moving forward in a way you would like?
Creating exceptions: Influence of the person
"When have you been able to affect the (timing, length, intensity) of the problem?
Competency box 8
Interpreting the Exceptions
Making exceptions meaningful question
"How do you account for your ability to deal with the problem?"
"What was different about this situation compared to the one when the problem is more in charge?"
Competency box 9
Keep change going