Term 1 - Self Concept Flashcards
What is self-concept?
How you FEEL about yourself.
How you see and think about yourself.
What is feedback?
How you speak to others about the things they do well, and the things that they are not so good at.
(Information given to someone about their behaviour, performance and actions)
Who is your peer?
Someone in your age group; classmates
What does “boost” mean?
increase or improve
How can people boost your self-concept?
They can help you discover how to do things.
They can notice your good qualities.
They can believe in you.
They can encourage you to try again when something does not go right.
What are qualities?
Characteristics
Traits
Behaviour
What does a good self-concept look like?
When you see yourself in a positive way.
When you feel proud of what have done or accomplished.
When you are confident that there is more you can do.
What does a good self-concept do?
It helps you feel proud of yourself and what you can do.
It gives you courage (bravery) to try new things.
It makes you believe in yourself.
It helps you to like yourself even if you make mistakes.
Who are your siblings?
Brothers and/or sisters
What does a poor self-concept look like?
Feeling that you are not important.
It makes you sad and prevents you from trying new things.
It can keep you from making friends or doing well at school.
Does a healthy self-concept mean that you are perfect?
No, there is always room for improvement, but you are okay with not being perfect.
You accept yourself - the good and the not-so-good.
You recognize your good qualities even though you are not great in everything.
What is feedback?
When someone tells you if you did something well or if you can improve on something.
That is: Listening to advice from others is called receiving feedback.
What is Positive feedback?
If the advice you are given is helpful it is positive feedback.
What is Negative feedback?
If the feedback hurts your feelings or is mean and unhelpful it is negative feedback.
What is Constructive criticism?
When negative feedback is fair and said in a positive way
(Constructive = helpful)
(Criticism = an opinion that says something you are doing is wrong)
Which is more useful: Positive or negative feedback?
Both, because they help you to become aware of what you do and say. This allows you to change your behaviour if necessary.
Name some appropriate ways of giving feedback.
- First say what the person did well.
- Say only 1 or 2 things that he can work on.
- Give useful ideas about how to improve.
- Be polite.
- Encourage the person to try harder.
What effect does an inappropriate way of giving feedback have on a person?
It embarrasses him/her
What are some tools that you can use to receive feedback?
- Calm down
- Listen to their point of view (might have a valid point)
- Ask them to listen to you and plan what you want to say.
- Discuss consequences.
- Parents are there to protect their children at all times, so talk to your parents about why they feel the way they do.
- Take time and think about your discussion.
What is Empathy?
To understand the reasons for a person’s feelings and behaviour without judging (criticising) the person; to imagine yourself in someone’s situation.
What is the difference between empathy and compassion?
When you have compassion you not only imagine yourself in their situation and experience the feelings they are feeling. You also do something to lighten or take away the negative emotions of that person.
Can you control your feelings?
No, but you can control the way you react to it.
Is it wrong to feel angry?
No, but it is wrong to hurt others because of it.
Name some skills to manage emotions.
- Think about your feelings before you act.
- Wait before you think or do something. Take deep breaths, run, go for a walk or listen to calming music.
- Cry or punch a pillow.
- Do not hurt anyone or yourself.
- Talk, write or draw about your feelings.
- Solve the problem when you have calmed down.
