Test 1 Flashcards
(39 cards)
Homophily
Choosing someone with similar social characteristics
Major determinant of interpersonal/sexual attraction
physical appearance
Height norm
Men should be taller than women in a couple
Women’s belief about their own body vs what men want
Women think that they are heavier than what men want.
Halo effect
assume good things about good looking people
Are looks important for a long-term relationship?
No
Sociobiology
certain traits lead to a better reproductive advantage. Men want a younger, healthier women. Women want a good provider
Reflected glory
Higher status and self esteem is dating someone more attractive than you
Drawbacks to exceptional beauty
Seen as vain and egocentric
Matching hypothesis
Develop relationships with people that are similar to us, physically and psychologically
How does the matching hypothesis occur
You are likely to be similar to those around you, similar personalities lead to longer lasting and satisfying relationships.
Do opposites attract?
Works if one partner brings qualities the other lacks, and only works for some qualities, usually more minor ones. Can work if one of the partners is dominant and the other is submissive
Reciprocity
If you feel admired and complimented, you return it. Works as a mutual exchange
Romantic love prevalence
Found in 147/166 studied cultures around the world
Romantic love importance
The ideal form of romance in our culture, very important for most age groups. In north America, romantic love leads to marriage
Double standard surrounding romantic love and sex
Women can only have sex is they love their partner, men can be sex-only
Infatuation
intense focus on another person, characterized by sexual desire and general physiological arousal. May not last, and is replaced by deeper feelings
Contemporary model of love
Love is as an appraisal of arousal. Since our culture emphasizes romantic love, we think that infatuation with arousal means that we are in love.
Sternberg’s triangular theory of love
Three components that lead to consummate love. Requires intimacy, passion and commitment.
Women in relationships in regards to starting it and ending it
Women take longer to enter relationships and are more likely to end it
Three skills for romantic competence
Insight: awareness and understanding towards yourself, and how your behavior will impact the relationship
Mutuality: knowing that both people have needs and that both are important
Emotion regulation: controlling your emotions to benefit the relationship
ABC(DE) of romantic relationships
Relationships are a set of social exchanges.
A
A- Attraction: initial feeling of attraction based on physical appearance and proximity
B
B- building: opening lines of information and exchanging info, includes self disclosure, ends with mutuality