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What are the benefits of perseverance?
- It may increase the chances of attaining difficult goals - especially when the goals are realistic
- It enhances the person’s enjoyment of success - Ex. The feeling of taking the Tram vs running the La Luz trail
- It may improve a person’s skills and resources
- It can enhance the person’s sense of self-efficacy, provided that success is ultimately reached - or perhaps even if they finish
What factors may increase perseverance?
- Social support - the perceived or actual support and help of other people
- Positive feedback - someone telling you that are doing well - especially when you are about to give up
- Reinforcement - intermediate, moderate
- Too little - not motivating
- Too much - away from intrinsic motivation: “ I’m doing it for the reward rather than because I enjoy it”
- Taking one small step at a time
- ” The longest journey begins with a single step…”
Why does perseverance increase with age?
- A more stable attention span
- Increased tolerance for frustration
- Better ability to delay gratification
What is the difference between good and bad perseverance?
- It is good or helpful perseverance when there is a reasonable hope of reaching a valued goal - or some other reward in the process
- It is bad or harmful perseverance when there is no reasonable hope of reaching a valued goal - or other reward in the process
What is the definition of mindfulness for this class?
- Mindfulness is the attention to, awareness of, and acceptance of whatever is occurring in the present moment
- it can focus on internal thoughts, feelings, and sensations or it can focus on events that are occurring in the external environment
What is the difference between resilience, stress resistance, and thriving?
- Resilience is to bounce back or recover from a stressful event or events
- Stress resistance is not showing any negative effects in the context of stressful events or following stressful events
- Thriving or growth is going beyond the previous level of functioning in the context of or following stressful events
What is the difference between stress as a stimulus and stress as a response?
- As a stimulus: something that happens to us
- As a response: the way that we respond physiologically, cognitively, or emotionally
What were the 5 personal resources for resilience in the model of resilience presented in class?
- Mindfulness: enable you to confron and fully take in all of the information available during the experience of a stressful event
- Mood clarity (part of emotional intelligence): enable you to make sense of your emotional experience of the event in a way in which you can understand how it affects you and what choices to make about what to do next
- Purpose in life: helps to orient you to what is most important and provide motivation and direction for coping with the event
- Optimism: enable you to envision a positive outcome to the stressful event and helps give you the confidence necessary to engage in coping efforts
- Active coping (creativity and perseverance): involves engaging in coping efforts that are necessary for bouncing back from the stressful event
What were the 4 different paths or trajectories that people follow after a major stressful event?
- Resilience
- Recovery
- Chronic
- Delayed
How was stress-related growth defined in class?
- the ability to find somethin good, learn something, or growth from stress or adversity
What are the 6 categories of growth or positive change that people report after stressful events?
- Improved relationships w/ others - the example of getting closer to a spouse in going through cancer or other illnesses
- Increased personal strength - “ I can get through anything”, combat veterans, undergraduate degree and work and raise kids
- Greater appreciation of life - more gratitude for everything, every day is a gift after facing death
- Discovering new values and possibilites - internal vs external superficial, family, friends or personal growth rather than money or material goods
- Spiritual growth - can mean many things; grow in relation to sacred or divin, AA, cross > resurrection
- Finding meaning and purpose - MADD, more empathy and compassion, help others with same or similar kind of trauma or stress
How did we define authenticity in class?
- being true to yourself
What are the 2 kinds of congruence as described by Carl Rogers?
- Congruence (or the coming together) of your inner experience and awareness - is part of authenticity and integrity
- You are aware of what you are feeling - part of emotional intelligence and not alexithymia
- You are aware of when you are angry, nervous, sad, or happy - or other complex mixtures of emotions
- Congruence ( or the coming together) of your awareness and your communication - is also a part of authenticity of integrity and honesty
- You communicate with other people what you are feeling - others know where you stand
- People who do this are often known as authentic or genuine
What are the 4 things that Brene Brown discovered about the people who had a sense of love, belonging, and worthiness?
- They had a sense of courage - to be imperfect
- They had the compassion to be kind to themselves and then to others
- They had the connection as a result of authenticity
- They were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were
- The other thing that they had in common is that they fully embraced vulnerability
- They believe that what made them vulnerable, made them beautiful
- They didn’t talk about vulnerability being comfortable or excruciating; they just talked about it being necessary
What are the 3 stages of identify status theory?
- A foreclosed identity status - in which adolescents mirror the ambitions and values of important others without questioning them
- A moratorium identity staus - in which question their former sense of identity
- An acheived identity status - in which they have consciously committed to an identity that is true
What is chi, ki, and prana?
- Chi (chinese concept): means air, breath, or gas
- it means a vital force or energy that is the source of life
- It is also the source of creativity, right action, and harmony
- Ki (Japanese concept): the energy one has available to draw on and is related to physical, mental, and spiritual health
- the source of true strength that can be displayed in martial arts and cultivated throught breathing exercises
- Prana (sanskrit): the vital, life-sustaining force of living beings and vital energy
- a central concept in Yoga where it is believed fo flow through a network of channels in the body
What are the 2 conditions that Robert Thayer identified as being important for vitality?
- The dimension of energy to tiredness - Western
- The dimension of tense to calmness - Eastern
The ideal state is energy and calmness - may be cultivated by meditation where you develop the ability to be both alert and calm
Who are the attachment theory pioneers mentioned in class?
- John Bowlby founded modern attachment theory on studies of children and their caregivers
- Mary Ainsworth developed the Strange Situation to assess attachment styles in infants and toddlers
- Cindy Hazen and Phil Shaver contended that the quality of this initial attachment with caregivers mah influence later relationships
What are the 4 attachment styles in Kim Bartholomew’s framework?
- Secure: positive to self, positive to others
- Anxious-Preoccupied: negative to self, positive to others
- Dismissive-Fearful: negative to self, negative to others
- Dismissive - Avoidance: positive to self, negative to others
What are the 3 parts of the Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of love?
- Intimacy: close, connected, bonded feelings of warmth
- Passion: romantic, sexual, physical drives
- Commitment: short and long term intentions to maintain love for one another
What are John Lee’s 6 styles of love?
- Eros - is passionate love, where the lover idealizes the partner, has definite preferences for physical characteristics in a partner, and pursues love with intensity
- Ludus - is love played as a game, for mutual enjoyment, without the intensity of eros; short on committment, and the “game of love” can occur with multiple partners simultaneously
- Storge - is friendship love and is analogous to companionate love, which is the affection felt by two people whose lives are deeply intertwined
- Pragma - is practical love; it involves “shopping” for a mate with a list of desired qualities in hand (e.g. match.com); involves looking for a mate based on practical or economic motives
- Mania - is “manic” love; a manic lover desperately wants love but often finds that it is painful; thus “stormy passion” is an apt descriptor, and a cycle of jealousy, dramatic breakups, and equally dramatic reconciliations characterize this love style
- Agape - is selfless and giving love where the person is fully concerned with the partner’s welfare; it is often assoicated with a divine of higher form of love
What are the 4 components of compassion?
It has to do with the suffering of another:
- an awareness of the suffering of another
- an identification with the suffering of another
- an understanding of the suffering of another
- a desire to reduce the suffering of another
What are the 5 ways of increasing kindness?
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Reflection
- Reflect on the positive qualities of a person and the acts of kindness they have done
- Reflect on all the ways that you can act in kind ways towards them or yourself
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Visualization
- Bring up a mental picture
- See yourself or the person smiling back at you or just being content or happy
- Use pictures of the person or group and think about some of the good things happening to them that you think they want
- **Auditory **
- Simplest way but one of the most effective
- Repeat a phrase such as “I wish all love and kindness” to - the name of the person
- This fits with the theory that what you say you want has an influence in increasing it
- “Change talk” in alcohol and substance abuse treatment
- **Music **
- Listening to, remembering, and trying to live out the messages of songs
- Songs that go beyond romantic to love in the sense of compassion or agape
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Behavorial
- This may be the most effective and powerful
- Do something kind for the person as an experiment
- See how they behave towards you and how your feelings change
What are the 4 types of persons that the loving-kindness mediation focuses on and what order does it focus on them?
- A respected, beloved person - such as a spiritual teacher
- A dearly beloved - which could be a close family member or friend
- A neutral person - somebody you know, but have no special feelings towards, e.g. a person who serves you at a store
- A hostile person - someone you are currently having difficulty with