Unit 3 Flashcards

Question

Exchange Theory - Commitment/Stability

Answer 1

If outcome is bigger than CLalt = high commitment/stability; if CLalt is bigger than outcome = low commitment/stability

Answer 2

Geographical, Social, Lack of Fulfillment, Precipitating events

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Physical distance from your significant other

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How others (parents, friends, strangers) feel about that person; Romeo and Juliet effect

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Something you want outside the relationship; needs/expectations aren't being met; guy wants sex, girl doesn't or vice versa

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Events that lead to the end of the relationship/friendship; ultimatums, cheating/loss of trust, bro code violations, boredom

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Positivity, Openness, Assurance, Social Networks, Sharing Tasks

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Acting cheerful, smiling, being happy, positive behaviors; generally refraining from negativity

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Being open to one another and being able to self-disclose; being able to talk openly and freely

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Faithfulness and commitment; Implies that the relationship has a future

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When social circles merge then relationships and friendships become closer

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Doing things together that we both enjoy; videogames, sports, sexual intercourse… stuff like that

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- Connection vs. Autonomy - Openness vs. Closedness - Predictability vs. Novelty

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We want to be connected with that person; deep relationships/ However we want to be independent and want to do what we want to do when we want to do it

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We want to be open in our relationship because we want to be known to that other person/ However that can be scary to do so now we want some things to be private

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We want to be able to predict what the other person in the relationship will do/ however too much predictability will get boring; we want more novelty; however too much novelty leads to wanting to be boring

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Special relational state that occurs in our closest relationships; feelings of warmth, deep friendship and affection

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``` o Close proximal distance o Forward lean o Eye contact o Direct body orientation o Smiling o Touch o Vocal expressiveness ```

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When we share people get to know us better and then the other person feels like they need to share to you also; get closer together

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Focusing on the other person; opposite of ego centrism

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Things that show affection to another; I love you, I want you, etc.

Answer 22

instead of using “I, me” use “us, we, our”; it draws a sense of togetherness

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When addressing people you can either be formal (This is Mr. Benson), or informally or casual (What up LJ)

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- Eros - Storge - Ludis - Mania - Agape - Pragma

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Physical love; common in initial parts of relationship; being physically attracted to a person

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Companionate love; share beliefs, goals, activities; my other is my best friend

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Game playing love; avoiding commitment; they enjoy the chase of the relationship rather than the actual relationship

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Possessive love; demanding and dependent; a person wants to be in control of the relationship

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Unselfish or Altruistic love; more giving than receiving; would rather have your significant other be happy rather than yourself; too much is dangerous

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Practical Love; Individual that you think might have the same characteristics as you; qualities of your dream lover

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- Conflict always damages relationships - Conflict can always be avoided - Conflict occurs because of misunderstandings - Conflict is always the sign of a bad relationship - Conflict can always be resolved

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Expressed struggle between two interdependent parties who perceive that they have incompatible goals

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``` Collaborating Competing Accommodating Avoiding Compromising ```

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High concern for others and for self - Requires a lot of work for this to work - Both people work to resolve the conflict in the best way for both parties

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High concern for others and low for self - Sacrifice your needs for someone else - When doing this you cannot guilt trip

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High concern for self and low for others | -My concerns before others concerns

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Low concern for self and others - I avoid the conflict all together - changes topics

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Mild concern for both self and others - Give a little and lose a little - Both people gain something but they also lose something

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Content goals Relational goals Identity/face-saving goals Process goals

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What we really want | -things we can list/support with evidence

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How we treat each other - How much interdependence/independence to we want - dealing with these can be difficult - based upon perceptions

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Who am I in this interaction - Protect our identity so we aren't embarrassed or humiliated - We don't like to look bad in any way - EX: when in an argument we don't like to admit we are wrong even though we know we are

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What process should we use - Informal conversation - What is right and what is wrong - In relationships there are rules

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``` Define problems and goals Avoid evaluative statements Avoid Gunny-sacking Manage emotions Perspective Taking ```

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What is the real issue, now what is the goal? | Avoid disagreements because of miscommunications

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Focus on descriptive statements | When people are defensive it is hard to resolve conflicts

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When a person stores up problems and solutions and eventually exudes them all at once

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When emotional, we lose ability to listen in conflicts and conversation

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Placing ourselves in others shoes makes it easier to resolve the conflict and make them feel better

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Traditional - Father, mother, children under once roof Modern - emphasis on interpersonal relationships and personal commitments Book definitions - system of two or more interdependent people who have a common history, present reality, and who expect to influence each other in the future

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Conversation Orientation | Conformity Orientation

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Open climate of conversation that happens with family - High - Freely frequently, and spontaneously interacting with each other - Low - Families interact less with each other; few topics they talk about with each other

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The degree in which a family stresses uniformity in beliefs, values and attitudes - High - family is closer and more traditional - Low - isn't as close and less traditional

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Pluralistic Consensual Laissez-Faire Protective

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High Conversation and low conformity - Parent don't feel the need to control their kids and encourage independence - Open discussion involving a wide range of topics

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High Conversation and high conformity - Open climate with the idea that all rules will be followed - Open conversation but family beliefs need to be said in discussion

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Low conversation and low conformity | -Parents believe their kids can make their own decisions and they don't care what decisions they make

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Low conversation and high conformity - Parents experience their kids to follow rules with no value in communication - Military and religious families most of the time fall under this

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Childhood Middle childhood to Adolescence Adult 45-85

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Spend more time with your sibling than anyone else in the family - Reciprocal - Close in age and developmental status - Complementary - larger gap in age; different developmental status; older sibling will act as a leader

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Siblings drift apart

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- Become best friends with their sibling (2/3 or 66% of siblings are best friends) - talk maybe once or twice a month

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Contact increases because nothing is holding you down

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Criticism/Complaints Contempt/Disgust Defensive behavior Stonewalling/Avoidance

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Verbally attacking statements; personal attacks

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Contempt and disgust are - Communicated nonverbally - Response to defensive behavior - Talking down to someone

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Denying responsibility; warding off personal attack; justifying your actions

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Psychologically: not listening to someone Physically: leaving the conversation -In marriages 80% of the time it is the man stonewalling

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Upward Downward Horizontal Outward

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Subordinate to superior; more respectful; more formal; information based

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Superior to subordinate; Directive, questioning of work, authoritative

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Communication between people who are the same level as you; peer communication; More friendly and honest in nature; bosses would love to get rid of it because of employees gossiping

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Communication between someone outside of the organization and in the organization; employee to customer; positive and informative

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Power - ability to influence others and resist others influence attempts - Legitimate - Referent - Expert - Reward - Coercive

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Power in a position; respect in a position | -Police, President, etc.

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Power based in attraction - Very likable, attractive, charismatic - Beyonce

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Power in Knowledge, experience or skill set - Sheldon (Big bang theory) - Knowing things others may not

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Ability to satisfy needs | -Promotions, vacation time, stickers, etc.

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Ability to punish | -Demotion, overtime work, being fired

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Sex- physiological differences -Men and women brains act differently Gender - Psychological differences -more masculine or feminine in communication

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Behavior - no proven influence Perceptions - Arguments without support – women are evaluated as less intelligent, knowledgeable, and influential than men… by both sexes; Use of tag questions and disclaimers (powerless speech) – women are perceived as less intelligent and knowledgeable than men… again by both sexes

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Task oriented leaders - exercise direct control over people; specify what needs to be done and how to do it People oriented leaders - suggests ways to proceed; helps groups determine what actually needs to be done

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Need for control Need to be seen as competent/knowledgeable Need to be in relationships/connected

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Synchronous - face to face via media device (skype, tango, etc.) Asynchronous - Communication via media device without face to face (Texting, email, etc.) -Know the differences between the two (Face to Face vs. Electronically Mediated Communicated)

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``` Voluntary - Choose our friends/romantic partners Equality - less egalitarian Assistance and support Activity sharing Disclosure and Confidentiality ```

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``` Initiating Experimenting Intensifying Integrating Bonding ```

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Meeting the person; shake hands, hello, smile; basic demographic questions

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Searching for common ground; lots of small talk

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Self disclosure increases; become more informed about who they are

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Becoming a couple, best friends; people expect to see you together

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Public expression of a relationship

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``` Differentiating Circumscribing Stagnating Avoiding Terminating ```

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Emphasizing differences

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Inability to negotiate differences; topics become off-limits

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Relationship becomes a stand-still

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Removing yourself both physically and psychologically from relationships

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THE END! no but seriously the relationship ends

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Women's communications are communal and not instrumental Men's communications are instrumental and not communal -women pursue talk and men pursue activities

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Women and men are equal when talking about communal and instrumental topics Men are more likely to pursue activities but they still pursue talk

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Romantic (emotional bond) Sexual Public Presentation

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Men and women who socialize together are often seen as potential romantic partners; eventual change in their demeanor

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Sexual intercourse often gets in the way of cross sex friendships; cross sex friends are often seen as sexual partners

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If someone outside the friendship sees two people together they often are assumed to be romantic partners

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Idealization Mediated Communication Conflict Avoidance

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You see that person or relationship in a more positive light than you should; you see it as a great relationship when it actually isn't

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Ways to talk to your significant other | -Online mostly because you cannot make physical contact

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Tend to avoid conflict | -Long distance is not a good time to start conflicts

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Reciprocity - both need to be trying as hard as the other Be intentional - be real in conversation; genuineness Consistency - be consistent in communication

Unit 3 Flashcards

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