week 8 Flashcards
What is jealousy?
is the unhappy
combination of hurt, anger, and fear
that occurs when people face the
potential loss of a valued
relationship to a real or imagined
rival.
At the very foundation of romantic jealousy lies the concept of
Entitlement: we fear the loss of something or someone that we
feel entitled to have. Jealousy reflects our fear that someone
else will unjustly take possession of something that belongs to
us.
Jealousy occurs in the context of
a relationship
Envy occurs within
individuals as a result of comparison
Jealousy provokes feelings of
anger, sadness and resentment
Envy provokes feelings of
sadness, guilt or desire to change
Jealousy makes the person feel
fear and distrust toward the other person
envy makes the person feel
inferior to those they envy
Two types of jealousy
reactive and suspicious jealousy
Reactive jealousy is
occurs in response to an actual threat to a
valued relationship.
Suspicious jealousy
occurs when one’s partner hasn’t
misbehaved and one’s suspicions do not fit the facts at hand.
Susceptibility to jealousy increases with
dependence on a relationship
attachment styles
personality traits
Who makes us jealous?
Rivals who make us look bad by
comparison (e.g., very attractive,
accomplished, successful) are
particularly worrisome.
Evolutionary perspective suggests
s that men and women
should be sensitive to different
kinds of infidelity in their romantic
partners.
Does emotional infidelity or sexual infidelity upset the genders differently?
Men are more upset about sex, they will ask more often did you have sex with them
Women are more upset about emotional infedelity, they ask more often do you love them
Why might men be more worried about sex?
paternity uncertainty
Why might women be more worried about emotional infidelity?
For women, the greater risk may be that a mate will withdraw his
protective resources and transfer them to another mate
Social role theory of jealousy?
- Sexual activity may be more salient to a male’s self-concept and
self-esteem and nurturing may be more salient to a female’s self-concept.
Transactional model of jealousy?
Examines how three variables—arousal, commitment, and
insecurity—moderate jealousy.
* The experience of jealousy might be shaped by specific
relationship goals.
Social media use study and jealousy?
Studies have found no differences in jealousy scores for males
and females related to social media use.
* Older age and higher self-esteem are negatively correlated with
Facebook or Instagram jealousy.
Attachment styles and jealousy
Secure attachment people who are comfortable with closeness tend to express concerns and repair the relationship- less jealous
There is a sex difference too”:
Women strive to protect the relationship.
* Men strive to protect their egos.
Rivalry sensitivity hypothesis states that women and men tend to
women tend to pay attention to potential rivals (other women) in their
mate’s vicinity
Men focus on their partner
People who cope successfully with jealousy practice 2 things:
- Self-reliance – efforts to “stay
cool and calm” - Self-bolstering – giving a boost to
one’s self-esteem
