Love And Attraction

Question 0

What is game-playing love?

Answer 0

When you play games with each other to be the “winner”

Question 1

What is companionate love?

Answer 1

The love you feel in a friendship so you genuinely like who they are as a person and vice versa

Question 2

What’s possessive love?

Answer 2

When you are completely dependent upon the person and can easily get jealous

Question 3

What’s selfless love?

Answer 3

When give everything of yourself to the other person.

Question 4

What is the major predictor of whether people will get together? Why does this occur ?

Answer 4

Proximity.
Laws of probability- you can’t fall in love with someone you haven’t met
Mere exposure- the more your exposed to something, the more you like it
Get to know each other in non-threatening way- ambiguity frees up worry about

Question 5

List some pros and cons about being attractive.

Answer 5

People are superficial and like attractive people more- this is seen in mothers, babies, courts, schools. But no link between attractiveness and happiness and self-esteem

Question 6

why don’t attractive people have high levels of self- esteem?

Answer 6

Because they don’t know if people really like them or if they just think their attractive

Question 7

List “physically attractive” features in women.

Answer 7

Facial symmetry 
Big eyes
Small nose
Prominent cheekbones
Big mouth 
Defined Hip-waist ratio

Question 8

List “physically attractive” features in men

Answer 8

Facial symmetry

Triangular body

Question 9

What is the social exchange theory? What can it be likened too?

Answer 9

It’s that people want to maximise benefits and minimise costs in relationships. A marketplace

Question 10

If we put a lot of time and effort into a relationship, we want it to….

Answer 10

Succeed

Question 11

According to the social exchange theory- why do people in urban areas have higher rates of divorce?

Answer 11

Because they have more alternatives in potential partners

Question 12

Based on an evolutionary perspective what do men look for in women and why?

Answer 12

Men look for women to be attractive, healthy, fertile and faithful. This is because men want to ensure that they populate as much as then can and as they couldn’t be certain if the baby was theirs on not they wanted to ensure the woman was faithful.

Question 13

Based on an evolutionary perspective, what do women look for in men?

Answer 13

As women were primary child bearers, women looked for men who could provide for their family. Therefore they look for physical strength, kind personality, power, wealth in men.

Question 14

Link this statement with a sex in regards to jealously:

“Imagine your partner forming a deep, emotional, attachment to another person”

Answer 14

Women

Question 15

Link this statement with a sex in regards to jealously:

“Imagine your partner enjoying passionate sexual intercourse with another person”

Answer 15

Men

Question 16

What is the “I find you attractive study….” And what did it conclude?

Answer 16

The I find you attractive study was when confederates asked uni students either if they wanted to: go out with them, come home with them or have sex with them. The results found that women were 50% likely to go out with them but stats decreased dramatically for the other 2 conditions. Similarly, men 50% said go out but the stats significantly increased for the other two conditions!

Question 17

Explain the blister box study

Answer 17

The blister box study found that people in bad relationships had a weaker immune system than people in healthy relationships

Question 18

If your lonely, what impact can this have on your physical health?

Answer 18

A negative impact. Loneliness is considered to be more fatal than smoking.

Question 19

What’s a secure attachment style?

Answer 19

Most common attachment style, where you are comfortable depending upon others as well as being independent. They can form healthy relationships and have no fears of abandonment

Question 20

What’s an avoidant attachment style?

Answer 20

An avoidant attachment style is when people have trust issues and are considered loners.

Question 21

What’s an anxious attachment style?

Answer 21

When people are very dependent upon people and are anxious that people won’t love them.

Question 22

What’s the self-verification theory and who made it?

Answer 22

When we seek people who view us similarly to how we view ourselves. Bill swann

Question 23

What’s a perverse consequence of the self-verification theory?

Answer 23

If we think that we are shit people then we are attracted to people who also think that your shit.

Question 24

What’s the gain-loss hypothesis?

Answer 24

We like people more if they dislike us at first and then warm to us then people who like us at first and then hate us.

Question 25

Explain the interesting findings of maltreatment effects.

Answer 25

When animals are treated badly, they seem to be more attached to their mothers then when treated normally.

Question 26

In animals, oscillating punishment and reward tends to cause greater attachment. Is this true in humans?

Answer 26

There are no real studies but examples can be found from real life. E.g. Abused children and their abusive mothers or domestic violence