Chapter 9: Love & Sexuality

Question 1

6 Reasons for dating:

Answer 1

(1) Recreation
(2) Learning
(3) Status
(4) Companionship
(5) Intimacy
(6) Courtship

Question 2

Top 3 reasons that adolescents like to date (IN THAT ORDER)

Answer 2

#1: Recreation
#2: Intimacy
#3: Status

Question 3

Top 3 reasons that College students like to date (IN THAT ORDER)

Answer 3

#1: Intimacy
#2: Companionship
#3: Recreation

Question 4

The males on the date are _____ while the females are _____.

Answer 4

Proactive; Reactive

Question 5

• People like to find in others an agreement, or consensus, with their own characteristics
• Finding this consensus supports, or validates, their own way of looking at the world.

Answer 5

Consensual Validation

Question 6

People of all ages tend to have romantic relationships with people who are similar to them in characteristics such as:

Answer 6

• Intelligence
• Social class
• Ethnic background
• Religious beliefs
• Physical attractiveness

Question 7

Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love: Initiation phase

Answer 7

First tentative explorations of love; usually superficial, brief and often fraught with anxiety, fear, and excitement
FRIEND ROLE: opinion (approval/disapproval)

Question 8

Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love: Status phase

Answer 8

Begin to gain confidence in their interaction skills with potential romantic partners
Remain acutely aware of the evaluations of their friends and peers
FRIEND ROLE: friend becomes the messenger to protect my status.

Question 9

Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love: Affection phase:

Answer 9

Adolescents come to know each other better and express deeper feelings for each other
Beginning to engage in more extensive sexual activity
FRIEND ROLE: “monitor” the person to make sure they’re not messing around also need a mediator.

Question 10

Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love: Bonding phase:

Answer 10

(usually occurs in emerging adulthood)
The romantic relationship becomes more enduring and serious – partners begin to discuss the possibility of a lifelong commitment
FRIEND ROLE: confidant. someone to complain/talk to.

Question 11

Different types of love involve combining three fundamental qualities of love in different ways

These three qualities are:

Answer 11

(1) PASSION -
Involves physical attraction and sexual desire

(2) INTIMACY -
Feelings of closeness and emotional attachment

(3) COMMITMENT -
The pledge to love someone long term

Question 12

Sternberg’s Theory of Love: What are the two main types of adolescent love?

Answer 12

Infatuation (the passion alone) and romantic love. Both have passion in common but are missing commitment

Question 13

In the U.S. cohabitation tends to be _____ and ____.

Answer 13

brief and unstable

Question 14

Types of Cohabiting Relationships: Alternative to marriage:

Answer 14

Couples who live together for an extended period of time with no plans to marry (ex: don’t believe in the institution of marriage)
Outcome: tend to be as successful as any other married couple (successful longer term)

Question 15

Types of Cohabiting Relationships: Prelude to marriage:

Answer 15

Engaged Cohabitation: couples who become engaged before moving in together
Outcome: equally successful to the non-cohabiting
Pre-Engaged Cohabitation: couples who become engaged after moving in together
Outcome: likely to have a less successful marriage

Question 16

Types of Cohabiting Relationships: Alternative to being single.

Answer 16

Individuals who live together because neither wants to be alone (without a relationship)
outcome: less successful marriage . Don’t last long and may not even make it to marriage.

Question 17

Why is cohabitation before marraige related to HIGHER rather than lower likelihood of later divorce?

Answer 17

We are lacking the marital commitment. and we are lacking the marital commitment because we are trying this out (test/trial).

Question 18

The psychology word for “Break up”…

Answer 18

Romantic termination

Question 19

Most common reason emerging adults give for breaking up:

Answer 19

#1 Lack of common interests and
#2 communication

Question 20

Sexual Self is comprised of these three dimensions:

Answer 20

(1) Sexual self-esteem
(2) Sexual self-efficacy
(3) Sexual self-image

Question 21

Perception of their worth as sexual beings:

Answer 21

Sexual self-esteem;
Sexual appeal
Example: Am I sexually attractive?

Sexual adequacy
Example: In intimate situations do I know what I am doing sexually?

Question 22

Perception of control over sexual desires

Answer 22

Sexual self-efficacy;
Communication
Example: Being able to say yes/no and communicate your sexual desires.

Question 23

Beliefs about sexual needs

Answer 23

Sexual self-image;
Sexual experimentation
Example: Simple or complicated

Level of commitment needed
Example: From barely met to I need to be married before anything happens

Question 24

have little confidence in sexual attractiveness, feel no control over sexual situations
Example: virgins
Student Population: Younger HS students.

Answer 24

Sexually naiive

Question 25

Low self-esteem and little sense of control in sexual encounters, but interested in exploring their sexuality
Example: “the horny high school boy”
Student Population: Younger male HS students.

Answer 25

Sexually unassured

Question 26

Confident of sex appeal and ability to control sexual situations, interested in exploring sexuality and were sexually experienced
Example: Average Jr. or Sr. in HS
Student Population: Older high school boys & girls

Answer 26

Sexualy competent

Question 27

Have high levels of sexual arousal and interest in sexual exploration; have little anxiety and little relationship commitment
Example: fuck boys, “players”, etc.
Student Population: Older HS boys.

Answer 27

Sexually adventurous

Question 28

Similar to above, unable to say no to sex
Example: man hoe
Student Population: Older high school boys.

Answer 28

Sexually driven

Question 29

____ _____Is a physiological predisposition toward patterns of emotional, romantic, sexual or affectional attraction to members of one’s sex, the other sex, both sexes, or neither sex (APA, 2009)
individual characteristic vs relationship with others
On a continuum NOT categories

Answer 29

Sexual Orientation

Question 30

Emotions/thoughts

Example:love, care, fantasies

Answer 30

Romanitic attraction

Question 31

Actions

Example: kiss, touch,

Answer 31

Sexual Behavior

Question 32

Comprising cognitive and emotional understandings that individuals have about the meaning and significance of numerous aspects of their sexuality (sexual attractions, desires, behaviors, relationships, & values)

Answer 32

Sexual Identity

Question 33

One important component of sexual identity is….

Answer 33

understanding an individual holds about her or his sexual orientation*