Emotional Intelligence (EI/EQ) Flashcards
(26 cards)
part of your psychological makeup that enables the following:
perceiving, conceiving, remembering, reasoning, judging, imagining, and problem-solving
Intelligence Quotient (IQ) / Cognitive Intelligence
part of your psycohological makeup that enables the following: extraversion-introversion, openness-closedness, etc…
Personality - personal characteristics
part of your psycohological makeup that enables the following: ability to identify and manage your emotions and the emotions of others
Emotional Intelligence (EI) / EQ
ability to…
-perceive and express emotion
-assimilate emotion in thought
-understand and reason with emotion
-regulate emotion
Emotional Intelligence (EI) / EQ
ability to be able to motivate yourself and persist in the face of frustrations; to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one’s mood and keep distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and hope.
Emotional Intelligence (EI) / EQ
ability to recognize your own emotions; using language to describe and label our emotions helps us bring them into our conscious awareness
Self Awareness
What are some Self Awareness Strategies?
*understand your tendencies across situations (emotional red flags)
*Take a physical inventory or check your face in the mirror; take note when you feel changes in your heart rate or facial expression
*Keep a journal or an “emotional tally sheet”; look back through your day and try to understand what triggered you and how you reacted towards certain situations
*Meditation, reflection, breathing exercises, whatever works for you; relax and tune into yourself
ability to control our emotions so they don’t control us. Being self-aware is the first step.
Self Management
ability to understand the emotions of others; understanding non-verbal cues, facial expressions, body language, postures, tone of voice; empathy; service orientation and organizational awareness
Social Awareness
-Let others speak (don’t interrupt, finish sentences, jump in to help)
-Maintain eye contact, give full attention
-Paraphrasing - playback and summarize
-Acknowledge emotions
-Imagine yourself in their situation
-Suspend judgement - don’t tell them how to solve problems, offer support
Empathetic / Active Listening
How do you tame your advice monster?
Stay curious longer
-using emotional understanding of yourself and others to create relationships “people skills”
builds on the first three emotional intelligence domains
-emotions are contagious
-interpersonal effectiveness - determined by how effectively you can get into emotional synchrony with others
Relationship Management
-personal connection
-organizing groups
-negotiating solutions
-social analysis
Interpersonal Intelligence
part of the brain that regulates basic life function (breathing, basic metabolic activities of organs, involuntary reflexes, etc…); brainstem
Reptile Brain
emotional part of the brain; thalamus, amygdala and hippocampus – fast
Limbic system
thinking brain, higher order brain functions, sensory perception, cognition, motor commands, language – slow
Neocortex
ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships
Emotional Intelligence (EI) / EQ
Which EI/EQ skill makes the other EI/EQ skills much easier to use?
Self Awareness
What is it called when the amygdala is under a heightened state of alert, fight-or-flight responses go off with little provocation?
Emotional Hijacking / Breakdown situations
What are 4 skills of Self Management?
*Self-Control
*Trustworthiness
*Conscientiousness
*Adaptability
What are some Self Management Strategies?
*Know yourself, know your triggers
*Evaluate physical environment
*Self Care / Reduce Stress Level
*Give yourself a timeout
*Write it down
*Plan and prepare ahead
What are four things that can make you vulnerable to emotional breakdowns?
HALT - Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
What are some Social Awareness Strategies?
*Improve your empathetic listening skills
*Track emotions during team meetings, yours and others
*Identify emotional red flags in others
*Mirror emotions
*Journal
*Explore and learn about people, have conversations, read books, watch movies
*Study your team and organization, behaviors, slogans, symbols, written and unwritten rules
What are some components of Interpersonal Intelligence
*Personal connection
*Organizing Groups
*Negotiating solutions
*Social analysis