Exam 4 Flashcards
(85 cards)
Define Attraction.
Anything that draws two or more people together. Making them want to be together and possibly form a lasting relationship
The need to belong drives people to do what?
Drives people to affiliate, commit, and remain together.
The need to belong is the desire to form and maintain close, lasting relationships with other individuals.
What did men in solitary confinement in San Quentin Prison do for social contact?
Learned to speak down into their toilets, so the sounds could pass through the pipes into other cells as a form of communication. This resorted form their desire of having any form of social contact.
Do romantic partners that break up remain friends? Explain.
Most ex-lovers do not sustain close friendships with each other. Promising to remain friends is usually just a way to avoid the fact that a social bond is being broken.
What are the two ingredients to belongingness?
- Regular social contact
- Stable framework of some ongoing relationship; mutual concern for each other.
Research has shown that the number of friends desired is usually somewhere around how many close relationships?
4 to 6 close relationships is enough.
If you have 5 people that who care about you, you feel fairly satisfied with your social life.
What are the three components to becoming friends with certain people?
- Proximity
- Familiarity
- Arousal
Proximity
Physical closeness.
- MIT dorm rooms (1950). Not so much physical distance (vertical or horizontal) but functional distance–who you tended to run into. Who was near the stairs, the mailboxes, and who was closest
- Not just friendship!
- Studies of 5000 applicants for marriage licenses in Philadelphia in 30’s found that about 1/3 of partners lived w/in 5 blocks of each other; 50% w/in 20 blocks of each other
Familiarity
If we are in contact with a person frequently, there is an increase in the likelihood that we will begin a relationship with that person.
Mere exposure effect: Repeated exposure leads to liking, at least up to a certain point.
Arousal
When you are aroused, you are more likely to feel attraction. Date driving demolition derby cars vs. relaxing hot tub.
Recent research on the benefits of belongingness suggests that people who feel connected to a strong network of relationships see what?
People who feel connected to a strong network of relationships see life as more meaningful.
What is the association between testosterone levels and marital status?
Low levels of testosterone is associated with stable marriages meanwhile higher levels go with single status and divorce.
When do testosterone levels peak and drop?
Testosterone levels peak around the age of 20 and declines steadily after that.
What is ingratiation?
Actions someone engages in when attempting to make someone else like them.
What is the difference between low and high self-monitoring?
Self-monitoring: the ability to change one’s behavior for different situations.
* High self-monitoring: maximize each social situation
* Low self-monitoring: pay more attention to permanent connections and feelings rather than fluctuating ones
What is the matching hypothesis?
people tend to pair up with others who are equally attractive. Some evidence indicates that matching is driven more by rejecting dissimilar others than by liking similar other.
Describe reinforcement theory.
the proposition that people and animals will perform behaviors that have been rewarded more than they will perform other behaviors. This theory predicted that people would mainly like others who are rewarding to them-those who benefit them or make them feel good.
According to research, which trait is most valued the most in social relationships?
Trustworthiness.
Trustworthiness means that you can expect the other person to reciprocate.
What are the two research themes in ingratiation?
Favors and Praise
Favors: By definition, favors bring benefit to the recipient, and so favors make a person feel positively toward the person who did the favor.
Praise: Most people feel good when they recieve a compliment, so if you want someone to like you, you will probably be tempted to give that person plenty of compliments.
Describe the social allergy effect.
A partner’s annoying habits become more annoying over time.
i.e., you many only be slightly bothered by your parnter chewing with their mouth open at the beginning of the relationship but it will become more bothersome over time.
Describe the What is beautiful is good effect.
The assumption that physically attractive people will be viewed as superior to others on many other traits.
Research found that mere exposure to beauty-related words (e.g., beautiful, attractive, gorgeous, stunning) increase prosocial behavior (e.g., likelihood of donating goods or clothes to a charity).
What in particular is considered attractive based on cultural differences?
younger looking people. A clear complexion is nearly always prized, possibly because it was a sign of good health.
According to research, women prefer what type of man? (Think about height and income).
Women’s choices depended on both men’s height and their salaries. Taller was better, but money could compensate.
What is ostracism?
being excluded, rejected, and ignored by others.