family in islam Flashcards
(15 cards)
what is betrothal/engagement?
to pronounce an engagement or to solicit a marriage.
in stable muslim societies:
men and women are encouraged to marry at a young age
marriage contract conditions:
- specifying the bride and groom
- mutual consent
- guardianship (wali)
- witnesses
- both parties should be free of obstacles to the marriages like: suhr, milk relationship, and faith
marriage contract pillars
- the wording
- the guardian
- witnesses
- eligibility and the bride and groom
types of family in islam
traditional muslim family: includes close relatives (esp uncles) who act as real fathers in terms of guardianship and discipline.
modern muslim family: consists of the mother, the father, and the children.
family structure in islam
- patriarchal: the father is the chief of the household in terms of financial support
- mother: responsible for the internal affairs, budget planning, and surveillance. to report to the father when she cannot solve an issue.
- children: purpose the family was established. they are expected to respect their elders.
how to treat your wife in islam
- treat her with respect even when he stops loving her
“the true muslim husband is always a good husband because if he loves his wife he will cherish her and if he does not love her he will not wrong her”
how to treat your husband in islam
- a good muslim wife respects and loves her husband.
- she obeys him and does not argue with him all the time.
- the prophet said to avoid 3 types of women: one who complains, one who keeps talking about her favors to her husband, and one who is always homesick
marriage validity requirements in islam
- consent: verbal and written consent
- mahr: a bridal gift given to the bride and remains her property
- witnesses: two adult witnesses to validate the marriage
- publicity: secret marriages are not allowed in islam
marital rights
mahr
spending
what is divorce
the desolution of a marriage contract
expressions of divorce
- explicit (i divorce you). no intention needed
- implicit (you are free): intention needed
types of divorce
- unilateral: husband initiates the divorce by saying i divorce you followed by a waiting period
- delegated: husband can delegate the right of divorce to his wife as part of marriage contract
- judicial: the wife can file for divorce in court on the ground that she is being subjected to harm and the judge acts on behalf of the wife to effect the divorce.
khulu’
the right of a woman to seek divorce from her husband for a compensation
child custody
- custody is given to the mother until the age of 7-9 for a boy and 12 for a girl.
- mother’s eligibility depends on an ethics and trustworthiness, and the ability to protect the child’s health and living close to the father
- if mother is ineligible, custody is given to maternal grandmother then to parental grandmother
