Final Exam Flashcards

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Factors towards attraction

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Proximity
familiarity
similarity 
affect
personal characteristics
physical attractiveness
shared suffering
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proximity

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you’re more available
cognitive consistency
which increases similarity and familiarity

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example of proximity

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you’re more likely to be friends with people near you, in class and your apartment building

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Familiarity

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-mere exposure

if we’re familiar then we’re more likely to like it, the more we’re expose to it the more that we like it

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limits of familiarity

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  • initial contact is negative (if i hate you immediately)

- too much repetition (see each other too often)

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Similarity

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in interest
values
opinions 
values
background 
personality 
attitudes 
similarity makes us like each other 
you only have to perceive similarity, not have to actually be similar
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Matching phenomenon

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  • we tend to date and marry people in similar attractiveness

- its very rewarding to be around people who are similar in interest

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Limits of matching phenomenon

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  • sometimes we need differences (people who compliment each other are better than people who are exactly the same)
  • unfortunate others
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unfortunate others

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if someone is similar to me but they are unfortunate I separate myself from them

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Affect

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positive feelings = liking

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examples of affect

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you are on a team and you’re winning you all like each other

if i teach you a game then you win you like the game; if you lose you usually don’t like the game

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examples of affect

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you are on a team and you’re winning you all like each other

if i teach you a game then you win you like the game; if you lose you usually don’t like the game

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personal characteristics

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warmth and competence

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personal characteristics : warmth

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people who show warm attitudes to other people are likeable

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personal characteristics: competence

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we like competence not perfection

too perfect people don’t like you

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Examples of competence

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we like mechanics are competent in fixing cars

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physical attractiveness

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cognitive disregard
contrast effect
radiating effect of beauty

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cognitive disregard

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when you walk into the party and you find attractive ppl and disregard the ugly ones

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contrast effect

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women hanging out with women uglier than them

“i don’t look good if i’m hanging out with younger or prettier women”

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radiating effect of beauty

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if you’re not that attractive but you hand out with beauties you’re prettier

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Shared suffering

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when you suffer with others you feel a closeness to them

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Shared suffering

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when you suffer with others you feel a closeness to them

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Components of romantic love

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passionate love

companionate love

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passionate love

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state of intense absorption in another person often accompanied by physiological arousal
- you think about this person all the time; desiring them, even when they’re gone
ppl who gaze into each other’s eyes are in love

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Companionate love
deep mature caring love we feel family and longtime friends
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in romantic relationships
you have passionate love which tends to wane into companionate
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sternberg's triangular theory of love
You need : intimacy passion commitment
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intimacy
how much you trust them, how connected you feel
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passion
how much longing you feel; how much you miss that person when they're gone
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commitment
decide that you're really into the relationship for keeps
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Chemistry of love
``` dopamine norepinephrine Phenylethlamine (PEA) Endorphine oxytocin ```
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PEA
the chemical thats in chocolate | - start to associate chocolate with romance because of classical conditioning
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oxytocin
a lot of these chemical act like stimulants | - makes you feel safe with someone compassionate love can increase
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oxytocin
a lot of these chemical act like stimulants | - makes you feel safe with someone compassionate love can increase
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basic idea of attachment style -- Bowlby
"internal working model " what relationships are supposed to be like; this come s from your first primary caregiver-- measured with a strange situation task where the parent leaves and they look at the child to see if they cry; then someone else comes in and tried to comfort the baby and then the mom comes
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Types of attachment style
secure | insecure
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secure attachment style
65-70% parent as safe base, for encouragement, distress
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insecure attachment style
anxious/ avoidant anxious/ ambivalent disorganized/ disoriented
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influences on attachment style
- paren't caregiving style - infants temperament - goodness of fit between child temperament and adult responsiveness - different parents or caregiver - lack of attachment
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influences on attachment style
- paren't caregiving style - infants temperament - goodness of fit between child temperament and adult responsiveness - different parents or caregiver - lack of attachment
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secure adults
trusting able to develop good relationships
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avoidant adults
don't trust others, are suspicious, expect to be abandoned or disapointed
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ambivalent (resistant) adults
uncertainty about relationship, dependent, demanding, needy
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havan shaver study
correlation between attachment style as a kid and attachment style as an adult
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Friendship v Love
in common: respect, accept, understand, confide, enjoy, help passionate love only : fascination, desire, exclusive special caring
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Gender differences in desire
None! we all want love and sex and intimacy and control