January 31st Readings Chap 6 p142-146; Chap 7 166-169 Flashcards
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What are the hallmarks of relatedness?
Feeling socially connected and both giving and receiving care and benevolence to those ppl (and social organizations) we deem to be sig. in our lives.
It is the psychological need to care and to feel cared for, to love and feel loved.
Because we need relatedness who do we gravitate toward?
We gravitate toward ppl who we trust will care for our WB, and we drift away from those who we do not trust to do so. B/c we meed relatedness, social bonds form easily.
The primary condition that involves relatedness need is…
social interaction. But even interactions with strangers can allow for relatedness to still feel quiet. Therefore, it is only those social interactions that promise the possibility of warmth, care and mutual concern that vitalize the relatedness need.
Responsiveness is the process by which a person..
comes to believe that a rs partner gives their full attention and support. person a demonstrates their needs, then b responds then a feels that b is responsive.
What are 3 qualities that make up what a supportive response is?
- understanding
- validation
- caring- they will provide help when needed.
Relatedness is an interaction b.w 2 people, but what does satisfaction need?
requires the creation of a social bond b/w the self and another. To be satisfying the social bond needs to be characterized by the perceptions that the other person 1) cares about my welfare and 2) likes me. Therefore, one’s true/authentic self has been deemed important.
What are social feelings often related to a lack of relatedness?
sadness, depression, jealously, and loneliness
The interpersonal tone that defines relatedness support it..
responsiveness, which can be further broken down into understanding, validation and caring.
What type of relationships are exchange relationships?
Those between acquaintances or between ppl who do business together. There is no obligation between interactants to be concerned with the other person’s needs or welfare
What type of relationships are communal relationships?
communal are between ppl who care about the welfare of the other, eg. families, friends, romantic rs. Ppl monitor and keep track of the other’s needs, regardless of any forthcoming opportunities for reciprocity or material gain. Feel discomfort when receiving tangible gifts (ie giving parents money for driving you)
In a communal relationships what do ppl want?
Relatedness needs satisfaction!
How does relatedness affect ppl’s bio systems?
it affects the vasopressin and oxytocin systems. the release of these 2 hormones lead to positive social behaviour and lessened stress.
Rather than being rooted in extraversion and popularity, the need for affiliation is rooted in…
a fear of interpersonal rejection. ppl with high need affiliation tend to interact with others so to avoid negative emotions, such as rejection and anger. They come across as needy rather than extraverted or friendly.
How can the need for affiliation be though as?
can be thought of as the need for approval, acceptance and security in interpersonal relations.
The more contemporary view of affiliation has 2 facets…
- the need for approval
- the need for intimacy- reflects a concern for the quality of one’s social involvement. it is a willingness to experience a warm/close and communicative exchange with another person
The best predictor of high affiliative strivings in adults is..
parents neglect. This infantile neglect explains the adult’s fear of rejection and social anxiety.
Why is the affiliative motive complex?
b.c it’s a 2 edged sword. it has a positive dimension where the person has a desire for closeness and a heartfelt pleasure in being with and sharing with others. but it also has a negative dimension as well, including fear of rejection and anxiety about relationships.
The principal condition that involves the need for affiliation is…
is the deprivation from social interaction. conditions such as loneliness, rejection and separation raise ppl’s desires or need to be with others. It is a deficiency-oriented motive (the def. is a lack of social interaction)
The need for intimacy expresses itself as what type of motive?
a growth-oriented motive (the growth opportunity is enriching one’s rs).
What are 2 situations that increase a person’s desire to affiliate wiht others?
- social isolation
- fear arousing conditions
to reduce such anxieties and fear, ppl typically try to seek out others and see how others handle the emotions they feel from the fear object.
How do ppl with a low vs high need for intimacy differ when becoming close with others?
ind with high need perceive the tightening bonds of friendship as need involving and emotionally satisfying, while ppl with low need perceive it to be as stifling and entrapment
Once a rs has been established, how do ppl with a high need for affiliation act?
they strive to maintain those rs by making more phone calls and paying more visits to their friends.
When satisfied, what does the need for affiliation feel like? Why?
brings out feelings of relief rather than joy b.c it’s a deficit-oriented motive! when interacting with others, ppl high in the need for affiliation go out of their way to avoid conflict, avoid competivitive situations are unselfish etc.
what kind of careers do ppl who are high in the need of affiliation prefer?
ones that provide positive rs and support for others and they perform well in conditions that support their need to be accepted and included. when told they will be evaluated, these ppl will feel high levels of anxiety via fear of rejection.
