Social And Communication Style Flashcards
(11 cards)
What’s one thing you remember when having a first social interaction with someone?
- Keep a distance initially, unless making lighthearted jokes with good intentions. Get to know them, but not in a boring, interview way. (Don’t be e pushover remember! stay composed).
This is a mentality and comes from confidence and lack of self-doubt.Place of confidence and respect, like Susan, rather than a place and insecurity (remember this is not easy and it will take time because you cannot fake it. It should come out of internal liberation and comfort.) - Funny and kind with boundaries. When you surpass other peoples boundaries, they will think it’s okay to surpass yours. With them in a sassy way that isn’t coming from lighthearted intentions they will think it’s OK to do the same. This will happen with time when you set inner boundaries and stand firm in them as you realize you deserve it.
- Do not adopt their communication style, and if you don’t like it, just ignore it and speak with your unbothered voice.
- When you’re interacting or speaking with others, your mentality should be that I’m kind but if you’re disrespectful, I don’t really tolerate that.
- don’t be judgy. Be light but keep them at the door. Guards up. Don’t overdo it. Remember eye contact=attention
+ Smile when you’re talking about something you find funny or light. It brightens you up and sets the mood. Expression is great. Stoicism has its time. Neutrality and poker face isn’t always good.
What is a great tip to having interesting conversations or be interesting?
1- Show genuine interest, and sincere curiosity.
2- However, it should not be like an interview. You should information on your end and give authentic opinions. (Don’t treat them like celebrities however. Remain grounded).
3- Greet with warmth for a positive response from good people.
4- Listen to understand not reply to be liked and agreed with!
5- Give a thread for people to pull after your answer and keep the conversation going.
What’s a wise inner guide that you have provided by the Holy Spirit?
1- The Guide of Discernment.
2- Utilize discernment wisely in social situations.
(You can spot a fake person with minimal interaction).
How should you avoid being controlling in communication?
Steer clear of controlling tendencies in communication.
Use humor, exaggeration, sarcasm, and jokes strategically.
(For example, British accent, sarcastic jokes, that show how silly something is).
- Ditch the serious face, relax the jaw and lips, and smile
Sometimes, if you offended, just be honest and laid-back. Like I don’t care honestly, with a smile.
How can enhance your communication effectiveness through your voice?
What steps contribute to establishing a commanding presence through your vocal ability?
1- Pause before speaking and throughout. Take breaths and pauses as you speak slowly and emphasize words that matter.
2- Increase the volume at which you speak at. You speak at 3. Reach 7. This doesn’t mean increasing emphasis. Keep state with in. Remain relaxed. Remember your volume and pitch at home. articulating every letter (but not at people instead to people). Higher volume= more clarity, importance, and authority.
3- Speak and breathe from your diaphragm. Don’t speak with air suffocating you at your throat, causing you to speak like a soft little cat.
4- End your voice with a low tone. Statements should not sound like questions!
(When making jokes in a group, direct them to one person in an inclusive and declared manner.)
(Don’t forget to use deliberate, slow eye movements).
When someone offers you something you don’t want and insists, how do you respond?
1- I don’t do the no no no thank you no (so nice, shy, and unsure)
Instead,
2- thank you I don’t like coffee. (In a low tone, not ending in a high-tone).
(Or you can say no thank you manne mesteheye aanjd if it’s a lighthearted atmosphere)
In group settings, what you should remember when you speak?
- Speak with precision and clarity as you think of your words before saying them. Don’t throw words in the air without direction. They deserve to be heard. (VV, silence is golden. Don’t be foolish with your words and how you throw them around. They should hold volume.)
- Speak at a higher volume.
- When talking in group repeat what they said and then pitch in.
- Never lose your cool. You don’t have to convince anyone of anything or get serious or riled up. Have the Kyle attitude, but never pretend to be someone you’re not.
- Invite people into the group or conversation. (Remember what it used to feel like when you were left out?).
- Be the fixer
Energy and Attention
- Never be nice and over giving your energy. Your energy is precious and it shouldn’t leak everywhere.
- Don’t over indulge anyone in attention when you’re still getting to know them especially too soon. Respect is a birth given right.
We live in a world where people easily take advantage of others and disrespect them. It’s an age of entitlement. It will spake you a pushover. (& don’t be too nice to prideful people). - Anything said in your personal space you acknowledge or ignore completely. (Be opinionated and expressive)
What do I do immediately when someone starts talking to me?
• Stop what I’m doing.
• Turn toward them.
• Lock eyes for 2–3 seconds.
• Listen.
• Nod or respond briefly if I’m anxious.
• Keep my face relaxed and stay present.
What if I feel anxious making eye contact
It’s okay to glance away briefly, then return. Keep breathing. I don’t need to look confident, just present. Return to their face. Stay soft. I’m not being judged — I’m being spoken to.
What’s a pre-social reminder before your ego takes the outcome of your words and behaviors?
I’m speaking because you want to—not because it will “land.”
”’ don’t speak to be impressive.
I speak because I have something real, warm, or thoughtful to offer.
If it lands, beautiful. If it doesn’t, that’s okay too.
My self-worth isn’t performing-it’s being.
I trust my energy, and I don’t need to chase alignment.
