Unit 3 Flashcards

Question

what are the different combinations of the romantic love

Answer 1

liking, infatuations, romantic, fatuous, empty, companionate, consummate

Answer 2

(intimacy only)— love between friends

Answer 3

(passion only)— a high degree of physical and emotional arousal characterized by “love at first sight”

Answer 4

(intimacy and passion)— love in which commitment may develop over time

Answer 5

(passion and commitment)— deceptive love, the “whirlwind affair”, a poor foundation for enduring a relationship

Answer 6

(commitment only)— dutiful love, also a poor foundation for an enduring relationship

Answer 7

(intimacy and commitment)— essentially a committed friendship, often being as romantic love and transforms into companionate love

Answer 8

(all three elements)— the love that dreams are made of and difficult to sustain

Answer 9

emotional state-- similar to feelings of fear

Answer 10

Early in the relationship, high levels of amphetamines are released by the hypothalamus gland

Answer 11

Feel alert, increased heart rate, feeling of being flushed, rapid breathing

Answer 12

drop and are replaced by oxytocin— hormone that creates a calm, satisfying sensation

Answer 13

done by someone you know

Answer 14

Tells you who you should be friends with, how you should dress tries to control other elements of your life Emotionally abuses you through insult, belittling moments, ignoring your opinion, or by acting sulky or angry when you initiate an act or idea talks negatively about women gets jealous for no reason drinks a lot/uses drugs/tries to get you intoxicated Berates our for not waning to get drunk, get high, have sex, or go with him yo isolated/personal place Physically violent to you or others

Answer 15

when the kids leave the house officially, and the parents then get sad or distressed

Answer 16

Realistic expectations, Acceptance of the other’s personality, good communication skills, agreement on religious/ethical values, Egalitarian role relationships, ,Balance of interests and activities

Answer 17

couple understand the expectations of their relationship

Answer 18

Partners like (and love) and feel good bout each other

Answer 19

These couples communicate well based on respect and love

Answer 20

They possess successful conflict management and resolution skills

Answer 21

Their attitudes, value and beliefs are similar

Answer 22

They share roles and responsibilities within the marriage

Answer 23

These partners can balance individual and family leisure time pursuits

Answer 24

1) Abstinence standard: 2) Double Standard: 3) Fun Standard: 4) Love Standard:

Answer 25

Expects people to abstain from sex outside marriage

Answer 26

Expects women to be virgins when they marry but allows men to experiment with sex before marriage

Answer 27

Treats sex as only physical enjoyment

Answer 28

Involves relationships where there are emotional bonds between the partners

Answer 29

Teens are bombarded with sexual messages from the media

Answer 30

less serious way, They have regarded it as a fun activity; at the same time, they have placed more emphasis on sating leading to sexual relations than females have

Answer 31

``` Step 1: Deal Effectively with Anger Step 2: Set a Time and Place— mutually agreed upon Step 3: Set a Positive Tone Step 4: Use Group Rules (they may be stated or unstated) Step 5: Discuss and Define the Problem Step 6: Brainstorm Possible Solutions Step 7: Evaluate and Choose Solutions Step 8: Follow Up (check back laters) ```

Answer 32

friendship love, giving love, possessive love, practical love, game-playing love, erotic love

Answer 33

Sharing, mutual understanding, respect, compassion and concern characterize friendship lovers Enjoy the security, the naturalness, the comfortableness of their love Sexual intimacy often comes late in the relationship, emerging from the already existing verbal intimacy

Answer 34

predictability, security, stability and quiet home life makes the excitement lack uneventful

Answer 35

Derive more pleasure from giving than receiving Placing happiness of lover above happiness of self Giving and forgiving

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Too much giving can be irritating | Relationship will likely become boring

Answer 37

Obsessed with love, they require attention and affection and togetherness Feels that this important love must be constantly tested View jealousy as an integral part of being in love

Answer 38

clingy, jealous

Answer 39

Stable relationships plan their lives, relying more on logical thoughts than on feelings Evaluate their own assets, appraise their “market value”, and try to obtain the best possible deal in a partner

Answer 40

One partner may not be able to meet the requirements which will result in a problem Often consider professional help if a rational solution to the incompatibility is not found before

Answer 41

Minimized dependancy and commitment Variety and good times are the goal, and as much emphasis is placed on playing the game as on winning the prize, Love is a game with much fun while it lasts. Game-players thrive on excitement and challenge

Answer 42

One partner may loose the feeling of detachment and fall into the well If the game is no longer fun, the game is terminated Typically a stage to pass through, not a lifestyle commitment

Answer 43

Emphasize quality rather than quality Commitment at first is intense Sex and deep personal sharing usually come early, because once the potential ideal person appears, the erotic lover wants to plunge into the relationship

Answer 44

The powerful attraction of the first several weeks provides the exhilaration of being on a high mountain, but coming down is terrible

Answer 45

marriage to several spouses one after the other (is a logical result of divorce)

Answer 46

individuals are attracted to each other, fall in love then decide to marry

Answer 47

ensuring that children were born and survive through to adulthood (they choose their mate on the likely hood that the offspring will survive)

Answer 48

describes how people are attracted to those with similar background

Answer 49

attempts to explain attraction from a symbolic interactionist perspective psychologists suggest that attraction is formed from unconscious image of the ideal mate

Answer 50

suggests that attraction is based more on reality than fantasy, and says that almost every person in the society find a mate because of all the different attractions of different people

Answer 51

suggests that individuals are not able to relate to someone else without first understanding who they are and their roles in life

Answer 52

the match between older men and younger women is needed for the man’s dominant status in a patriarchal marriage

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the dramatic feeling of falling “head over heels” | makes lovers feel alert, flushed face, increased heart rate, rapid breathing

Answer 54

phenylethylamine (PEA)

Answer 55

allows individuals to win the affection of those to whom they are attracted

Answer 56

bundling, dating,

Answer 57

ew England custom in rural families, the couple would be tucked into bed with a “bundling board” between them o they could have private conversations without getting cold

Answer 58

20th century, men typically payed for and organized activities to do with a woman

Answer 59

suggested that dating was effective because it enables individuals to learn to relate to the opposite sex and to judge character so that they would be able to determine desirable qualities in a marriage partner

Answer 60

devotion to a relationship

Answer 61

no, It doesn't matter if the dating process wasn't good, if they are in love when they marry, they will be more likely to have a good marriage

Answer 62

conferring with others in order to reach an agreement

Answer 63

collaboration

Answer 64

1— relationships are romantic/warm/respectful, focusing on exploration, sexual attraction and the idealization of the partner. They also build self-esteem as they try to develop the relationship they want 2— conflict arises as individuals become more demanding to meet their own needs. This results in instability in the relationship and requires both partners to change their behaviour. Individuals feel let down because the relationship is less rewarding 3— couples compromise and negotiate a relationship that meets their needs as well as possible. The relationship becomes more realistic, mature and stable

Answer 65

``` adjustment to marriage birth of a child teenage years children having home retirement growing old together ```

Answer 66

unemployment, infertility, illness, or infidelity

Answer 67

roots, rhythms, rules, roles, relationships, rituals

Answer 68

boundaries and strategies learned in your family of origin they are the “default setting” for your interactions in your new relationship it’s a good idea to check out each others roots to understand how you have learned to relate to others

Answer 69

regular sharing of space, time, and emotional energy within the relationship couples need to negotiate the rhythms or separateness and togetherness in a new relationship

Answer 70

The strategies for maintaining the systems on a daily basis, but also for dealing with stress and conflict couples need to negotiate the mundane routines of their shares lives

Answer 71

the fluctuating power levels in the relationship the “Power Dance” allows couples to change power levels appropriate to the situation couples have to negotiate how they will share power so that they can manage their lives efficiently

Answer 72

they pass through a series of stages of development and chair in response to the needs of the individuals in the crisis of their lives

Answer 73

are the unique patterns of behaviour that make up a couple or family culture

Answer 74

person with least communication to the relationship actually has greater power... so the more communication=the more likely to give in to maintain harmony

Unit 3 Flashcards

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