Attachment

Question 1

Who first articulated attachment theory?

Answer 1

John Bowlby

Question 2

According to attachment theory what is the relationship between secure dependence and autonomy?

Answer 2

they are complementary

Question 3

Secure attachment offers us both a safe ….. and a secure ….

Answer 3

safe haven and secure base

Question 4

What are the 3 key ways in which adult attachments tend to be different from parent-child attachment?

Answer 4

1. adult love relationships are more representational and the smaller the child the more there is a need for physical contact
2. adult relationships are more sexual
3. adult relationships are more reciprocal

Question 5

Who said ‘to be more fully connected is to be more fully oneself’.

Answer 5

Minuchin 1993

Question 6

What is key in organising attachment behaviours and the way self and other are experienced in an intimate relationship?

Answer 6

emotion

Question 7

What is the simple fact that is the reason for SJ’s passionate allegiance to Attachment?
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Answer 7

it never let’s her down, it gives a map - way of making sense of the drama

Question 8

What do we now know that love is not?

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Answer 8

a slightly psychotic mix of sex and sentiment

Question 9

What do we now know that love is?

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Answer 9

a wired in survival code designed to keep those we can depend on close, so they come when we call

Question 10

what has ‘our absolute, primary need for connection’ shaped?

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Answer 10

our brain, our nervous system and our emotional realities

Question 11

what is the map to the territory of romantic love?

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Answer 11

attachment

Question 12

what does attachment privilege?

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Answer 12

emotion

Question 13

essentially what is attachment theory?

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Answer 13

a theory of affect regulation

Question 14

what does attachment science stress is prime requirement for full attention to and engagement with experience?
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Answer 14

a felt sense of emotional safety, of a ‘safe haven’

Question 15

Attachment science tells us that connection with others is not only a source of safety to go to but also …
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Answer 15

a ‘secure base’ - a continuing source of strength and growth throughout life

Question 16

if we are securely attached what will our internal model of self be like?
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Answer 16

we are acceptable and entitled to care and see others as trustworthy and able to be relied on

Question 17

our species greatest strength is our ability to turn to others as a secure base, what is the term for this?
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Answer 17

effective dependency

Question 18

a key part of any attachment-oriented therapy is to enable clients to use health effective dependency strategies - what does this look like?
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Answer 18

“accepting and acknowledging their attachment vulnerabilities and needs and ‘reaching’ for others in a way that evokes connection”

Question 19

Attachment theory states that separation distress, disconnection from loved ones, induces what?
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Answer 19

cascading panic, disorientation and pain in the mammalian brain

Question 20

what are defining features of secure attachment?

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Answer 20

accessibility/openness to one’s own experience and to others and the ability to evoke attuned emotional ‘responsiveness’ from others and give it back

Question 21

supporting someone to stay open to present experience, slow down and taste that experience without sorting it into judgments or categories, and grasp how we construct that experience creates what new ability?
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Answer 21

to integrate life events

Question 22

whose research shows that secure connection with others shapes not only more affective balance but also a more aware and coherent mind that is able to consider different alternatives, integrate different kinds of information and generally come up with more coherent narratives and views of self and other to capture multifaceted experiences?
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Answer 22

Mikulincer and Shaver 2007

Question 23

What skill is being used when the therapist says ‘So, you could never turn to him and …’?

Answer 23

Seeding attachment

Creating Connection, SJ, 2004

Question 24

At what point does the relationship become redefined as a secure base?

Answer 24

When the second partner joins the first in Step 7 - when they are both engaged in their own emotional experience and accessible it leads to new bonding events and a redefinition of the relationship as a secure base
Creating Connection, SJ, 2004