Chapter 13 - Sexual Communication Flashcards
(30 cards)
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Four horsemen behaviours
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- Strongly predict relationship dissatisfaction
- Criticism
- Defensiveness
- Contempt
- Stonewalling
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Criticism
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- Can be hurtful because it involves attacking a person’s character or personality rather than addressing a particular issue at hand
- Based on your character
- “What did your mother teach you?”
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Contempt
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- Goes one step further than criticism and involves putting down and being disrespectful toward one’s partner
- Based on a feeling of superiority
- Verbal or non verbal
- Eye rolling, name calling, mean humour
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Defensiveness
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- OCcurs when one partners feels that he or she is being attacked and must protect themselves by denying responsibility
- Related to insecurity and criticism doesn’t help that
- “Well you don’t the dishes as much as I do”
5
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Stonewalling
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- Occurs when someone simply refuses to engage in the discussion at hand
- Not a good pattern
- Ex: Silent treatment or shutting down
6
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Communication
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- Ongoing verbal, behavioural, and affective exchanges, which can occur face to face or via technology
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Relationship communication
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- Ongoing exchange between the members of a relationship that unfolds over time and consists of verbal, behavioural, and affective exchanges
- Addresses issues relevant to the functioning of those partnerships if they take place within an established relationship context
8
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Sexual communication
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- Verbal, behavioural, and affective exchanges concerning sexual matters by which individuals navigate sexuality with others
9
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Verbal sexual communication
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- Sexual communication through words
- Talking, sexting
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Nonverbal sexual communication
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- Sexual communication behaviours that do not involve words, including voice qualities, facial expressions, touching, and gestures
11
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Why is sexual communication important
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- Associated with positive outcomes for partners
- Ensures that sexual partners have equal rights to genuine pleasure
- Increased sexual and general relationship satisfaction
12
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Watching porn together is linked to
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- Increased comfort with sexual communication and greater feelings of closeness
13
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Open sexual communication in heterosexual partnerships
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- More important for men’s relationship satisfaction in the early stages of a relationship
- More important for women’s relationship satisfaction once the relationship progresses beyond the early stages
14
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Who are men most likely to appraoch
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- Woman who are holding direct eye contact
15
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What type of societal conflict is still present in communities with strong traditional values
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- The tension between individual desire and religious expectation
- There is a lot of emotion cost of such conflicts
16
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Who has the highest rates of sexting
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- Lesbian, gay, bisexuals, and other sexually diverse identities
17
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Hyperpersonalization effect
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- Refers to an accelerated or amplified intimacy compared to intimacy levels for interactions that take place in person only
18
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Sexual talk
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- Verbal sexual communication that occurs during a sexual interaction and is specific to that interaction
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Mutualistic sexual talk
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- Other focused
- Relates to sharing the sexual experience with one’s partners
- Ex: Go harder, Oh god, you look so hot
- Associated with more sexual distress
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Individualistic sexual talk
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- Self focused
- Sexual talk that relates to one’s own sexual experience and please
- Ex: Let me be your dirty little slut, show me your cock
- Linked to greater sexual satisfaction
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Sexual communication in people with sexual interest/arousal disorders
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- Report lower quality sexual communication as compared to those without sexual problems
- Workshops designed to increase sexual communication skills helped improve relationship satisfaction and sexual functioning
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How can partners create more effective sexual communication
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- Having open and frank dialogue
- Valuing such communication
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What influences how a sexual discussion unfolds between partners
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- Expectations about the partner’s behaviour and the partner’s actual responses
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What qualities define a skilled listener in sexual communication
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- Listening to the underlying message, turning into emotional subtleties, and understanding the other’s perspective
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What communication strategies are often taught in therapy to improve relationships
- Using I statements
- Being nonjudgemental
- Reflecting
- Validating
- Active listening
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When is breaking up with someone using a mobile devices more common
- When the partners share a few friends
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Couples who have barriers around discussing sex may
- Fear that differences can threaten the relationship
- Have feelings of shame or guilt
- May believe that emotional intimacy, not sexual intimacy is important
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Cognitive empahty
- Understanding the words they are saying
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Emotional empathy
- Understanding the emotions they feel
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Distressed couples patterns
- Negative reciprocity: Tendency to let negative exchanges escalate
- Demand-withdraw patter: Some demand while others withdraw
- These types of patterns often results in eventual separation and divorce
