Good Egg (2)

Question 1

• What is the most important step in having meaningful conversations (Hint: yourself)?
• What does this require?

Answer 1

• Not focusing on yourself and understanding the other individual
• This involves determining what is important to the other person.

Question 2

What should you do after understanding what is important to the another individual?

Answer 2

Convince that person that you share similar passions

Question 3

What is a key trait to have during conversations (Hint: squid)?

Answer 3

Real curiosity about others

Question 4

True or False: It’s beneficial to immediately list all the things you can offer in a conversation.

Answer 4

False - focusing on the other person is more effective.

Question 5

Are awkward pauses always bad?

Answer 5

Although pauses can feel awkward when you’re talking to a stranger, research shows us they can be comfortable when it’s someone you know well.

Question 6

By thinking about five different things during free association, you’re not thinking about…

Answer 6

Past experiences and memories relating to the topic (which is a good thing because that’ll limit you if you have limited experience with the topic!)

Question 7

It’s important to remember that free association only works when…

Answer 7

…You’re relaxed (if you tell yourself “quick, think of something original” you’re working against yourself!)

Question 8

How can you practice free association?

Answer 8

By thinking of two completely random words and trying to make a story out of them (e.g., Africa and bottle can be used to make a story about an African beer company).

Question 9

What are the three acronyms you can use to help respond to anything during a conversation (and give a bit of detail about them)?

Answer 9

• HPM - History, Philosophy (opinion), Metaphor (what the topic reminds you of) - these replies draw from your own experiences - not literal history and philosophy.
• SBR - Specific, Broad, Related - these relate to questions that you can ask in response
• EDR (these add a lot of depth) - Emotion (say what emotion they’re feeling, such as “you seem quite excited about that”) Detective (The five Ws), Restatements (summarizing what the other person has said).

Question 10

Why is the ‘E’ in EDR so effective (2 Points)?

Answer 10

• Because you appear to be in tune with the other person and engaged in their well-being.
• You focus on them, and people love being the centre of attention (they like to feel as though they matter, something they don’t get to experience often!)

Question 11

Why is the R in EDR (restatement) so effective?

Answer 11

Because it lets the other person know that you’ve been listening to them (which they love).

Question 12

Why can’t you use just one group of ‘The Nine’ (HPM, SBR, EDR)?

Answer 12

Because some responses are more personal - others show that you have no value as a person. Try to use all nine equally!

Question 13

Even though it’s great to focus on other people, why do you still need to talk about yourself a bit?

Answer 13

To show that you have substance and value!

Question 14

The best way to create motion in a conservation is to use…

Answer 14

…Free association.

Question 15

What’s the first triplet in “The Nine”?

Answer 15

HPR (History, Philosophy, Metaphor)

High protein mice

Question 16

What’s the second triplet in “The Nine”?

Answer 16

SBR (Specific, Broad, Related)

Silly bean rat

Question 17

What’s the third triplet in “The Nine”?

Answer 17

EDR (Emotion, Detective, Restatement)

Eek, dancing rat.

Question 18

When should you really use “The Nine”?

Answer 18

When free association does not work.