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interpersonal attraction

a relational force that draws people together
the things that draw us to our friends are the things that draw us romantically

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task attraction

when you are attracted to someone based on their ability to help you complete a task or accomplish a goal

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physical attraction

being attracted to someone based on the way they look

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social attraction

being attracted to someone because we enjoy being around them and interacting with them

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elements of interpersonal attraction

similarity
proximity
physical appearance
complimentary characteristics
credibility
reciprocity

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similarity

number one force of interpersonal attraction

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proximity

we are attracted to people that are physically close to us
we have increased opportunities to interact with these people

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physical appearance

a piece of beauty is not in the eye of the beholder
2 indicators that are true cross-culturally
-symmetry
-proportionality
often times, beauty is tied to whatever is affluent

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complimentary characteristics

the other person has skills and abilities that complement you in a relationship
doesn't work when talking about things such as beliefs or values

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credibility

we are attracted to people who are competent, confident, credible, and capable
not cocky

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reciprocity

we are attracted to people who are attracted to us
pupil dilation
-when we look at someone beautiful, our pupils dilate
-when our pupils are larger, we are seen as more attractive

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Duck's Filtering Theory of attraction

tells us who we will and won't be attracted to
each step acts as a filter to eliminate people we won't be attracted to
steps
-sociological cues
--deals with our opportunity to meet people
-pre-interaction cues
--things that happen before we actually talk with a person (looks, dress)
--determines our approach behavior
-interaction cues
--things that happen when we meet and interact with the person
-cognitive cues
--how the person thinks, what they believe

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social exchange theory

takes a business or economic model and applies it to a relationship
we want our rewards in relationships to outweigh our costs

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rewards and costs

rewards
-any sort of profit or gain from a relationship
-people value rewards differently
costs
-exchanged resources that result in loss
-people incur costs differently

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outcomes

rewards minus costs
we want our rewards to exceed our costs

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comparison level - CL

our expectations about the types of outcomes we believe we should be receiving
our expectations for romantic relationships come from three sources
-past relationships
-parents
--if parents are positive it raises our CL
-media
satisfaction
-outcome minus CL is positive = satisfaction

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comparison level of alternative - CLalt

the types of alternatives you perceive outside of your current relationship
often occurs in romantic relationships
-what could you be doing instead of being in this relationship
--spend time with friends
--pursue a hobby

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commitment/stability

outcome minus CLalt is positive = commitment/stability

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social exchange breakdown

outcome > CL and CLalt = satisfying, stable
CLalt > outcome > CL = satisfying, unstable
CL > outcome > CLalt = dissatisfying, stable
-common in abusive relationships
CL and CLalt > outcome = dissatisfying, unstable

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characteristics of friendships

voluntary
equality
assistance and support
-there for each other emotionally
activity sharing
-common interests
disclosure and confidentiality

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Knapp's Stage Theory of Relationships assumptions

coming together is not necessarily good
coming apart is not necessarily bad
stage theory simplifies a complex process
stage theory is oriented towards romantic relationships

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movement in stage theory

related to rewards and costs

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stages in coming together

initiating
experimenting
intensifying
integrating
bonding

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initiating

first greeting time
positive impression
demographic information
superficial

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experimenting

can move quickly
self-disclosure
-not much depth
impression management is important
people are exchanging information to find a connection

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intensifying

more gradual
self-disclosure deepens and broadens
commitment is growing and time together is increasing
declarations of commitment occur

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integrating

occurs if people feel there is a solid base of affection
both people begin to fuse their personalities
breadth and depth of disclosure increases
people expect to see you together

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bonding

making the relationship public
making it entirely exclusive
for friends
-bridesmaids/groomsmen

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stages in coming apart

differentiating
circumscribing
stagnating
avoiding
terminating

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differentiating

both people begin to emphasize their differences over their similarities
may begin to argue over these differences
a lot of healthy friendships can cycle thorough this stage