2. response framework Flashcards
Flashcard #201 — Reversal
Front:
FRAME: Reversal
Tagline: “You’re not putting me on trial.”
Back:
Flip the burden of explanation. Ask why they’re asking, not why you did something.
> When to use: Anytime a question assumes guilt, error, or responsibility
Sample lines:
“Is there a reason I should be?”
“Would that have changed anything?”
“Are you asking because you care or to feel right?”
Flashcard #202 — Reflective Mirror
Front:
FRAME: Reflective Mirror
Tagline: “That’s your emotion, not mine.”
Back:
Bounce the emotional projection back onto them—calmly.
> When to use: When they try to label your state, motives, or feelings
Sample lines:
“What makes you feel that way?”
“What did you expect me to say?”
“Why do you think that’s true?”
Flashcard #203 — Frame Dissection
Front:
FRAME: Frame Dissection
Tagline: “Let’s expose the skeleton underneath.”
Back:
Name or question the assumptions hiding inside their words.
> When to use: When their question tries to create an invisible contract
Sample lines:
“Are you assuming all distance is emotional?”
“What makes you think trust equals full disclosure?”
“Why do you think silence means something’s wrong?”
Flashcard #204 — Tone Flip
Front:
FRAME: Tone Flip
Tagline: “I decide how the room feels.”
Back:
Subtly reset the energy. Stay warm, flat, or cold—but intentional.
> When to use: When the room is charged or emotional
Sample lines:
(Cold): “Would that be helpful right now?”
(Neutral): “That’s an interesting take.”
(Warm): “Is that something you’ve been thinking about?”
Flashcard #205 — Access Audit
Front:
FRAME: Access Audit
Tagline: “Prove you’ve earned the answer.”
Back:
Make them justify why they were entitled to the information.
> When to use: When questioned about your silence, secrecy, or independence
Sample lines:
“Did you think that was yours to know?”
“What would you have done differently if I had told you?”
“Is there a reason I should’ve shared that with you?”
