chat dad cheat sheet Flashcards
What does ‘Every Question is a Frame’ mean?
Questions imply a reality. Answering them without pausing accepts the frame. Flip the question to regain control.
Who holds the room in a power dynamic?
The one who holds the frame—often the most calm, composed presence.
What is the consequence of emotional leaking?
You lose the frame. Explaining, justifying, or confessing under pressure gives up control.
Why is logic not disconnection?
Clarity and emotion can coexist. Your precision is containment, not avoidance.
Is deflection the same as resistance?
No. Deflection protects your frame. People may call you ‘guarded’ when you’re simply holding power.
What is a powerful Reversal response?
‘Is there a reason I should be?’ or ‘Would that have changed anything?’
What is a powerful Mirror response?
‘What makes you say that?’ or ‘Is that how it feels to you?’
What is a Frame Dissection response?
‘Are you assuming [X] always means [Y]?’ or ‘What definition are we using here?’
What is a Pressure Diffuser question?
‘What’s the goal of that question?’ or ‘Are you asking, or prescribing?’
What is a Socratic Slam you can use?
‘If the outcome’s the same, does the path matter?’ or ‘Is discomfort always growth—or just familiar pain?’
What is the 5-step Frame Control Loop?
- Hear the question 2. Tag the trap 3. Choose your stance 4. Speak calmly & slowly 5. Don’t defend or explain
How do you reset the frame if they push again?
Ask: ‘Why does that matter in this moment?’ This forces them to re-express intent.
