Flashcards in Attitudes Deck (24):
Really just negociations, they NEED something from you and you just WANT something from them. Your presence is more important than theirs.
Like a bank account, always put in more than you take out, asking someone for a favor makes you overdrawn. Do things for them just for the positive ballance
Avoid it in either direction. YOU solve your problems (with research, not advice), not anyone else. And if you want to help someone with a problem, then say nothing, DO something for them.
If you decide to do that, its YOUR business, not the recipiant's, not your friends'. Do it- do it quietly- be done with it. Dont expect anything in return and dont bitch about the circumstances if things go south
Always based on give-and-take. They NEED you and offer something in return; but as with all negociations, the key to success is knowing you can walk away and you'd be doing yourself a favor. And the best way to prove it, is by actually walking away- do that, and you win the relationship.
Like the set up for a joke... You only have the first part, you need to wait for it to play out and it always plays out in your favor. Every bad thing thats ever happened, turned into good news for you.
Object lessons (something to be thankful for). Record them, analyze them, learn a lesson and modify your principals and attitudes.
If you dont learn, life is going to re-educate you again and again.
You, teaching yourself a lesson.
Identify why you made them, change your attitudes and principals... do not repeat.
The instruction manual for your life. Taken from blessings, challenges, and mistakes.
The product of ABSOLUTE faith and manual labor
Its just God working through you
You cant really claim anything as your own accomplishment
You just show up, God does the rest
The key to getting what you want, even if it isn't part of the plan, everytime (remember summer 2013?).
Only effective with work, but the work is useless without faith.
Three parts: 1) Ask, 2) Believe (stop asking, live/feel as if you have it alreadry), 3) Prepare (Get your life ready for it)
Think of them as the precognition of your destiny.
If you thought of it, and you want it, and that makes you happy, then you want it for a reason. That reason is usually that its part of your future.
Don't make them, just act. Threats are empty 99% of the time. If they were going to do what they said, they wouldn't have told you first. But its only true if you don't point that out. So don't say it, prove it: Calmly take away their ability to follow through and then do the opposite of what they want. If you cant take away their ability, give them a mildly disinterested "Alrighty then, you have fun with that." They wont do something it wont effect you
A huge component in faith
The key to developing contacts
Say thank you
But then a few days after, do something in return
"Just wanted you to know that I appreciate it"
Meaningless without action,
Never accept verbal appologies- they do mean what theyre saying if they haven't SHOWN you.
Same goes for you, don't say your sorry unless youve done something to makeup for it
Shows you that the other person has lost all control
Attitude towards Natalia
Someone you dated back when you faltered on your confidence abit.
You met when you had no car, no job, and a barely working phone and because she didn't seem to care about any of that, i figured she was worth holding onto, but really you just ended up holding yourself back in the you-can't-do-much-better mindset, long after you situation had improved. It was a tremendous waste of time.
Attitude about 'Davis Reardon'
"Woman and potential clients alike think of me as a miracle worker, but why tell you that when i can show you?"
Attitude when meeting new people
"This person works for me"
Attitude towards Jennifer
I chose to love her like a sister no matter what, she chose to harbor a grudge. That's her problem not mine. Im not gonna feel bad about doing what i felt was right. Id rather have good character than a good reputation.
Ive been through it all: best friends walking out, periods of massive lonliness, building an empire while flat broke...
Loneliness and powerlessness don't even phase me now
There is nothing that could throw me off kilter