Confidence Flashcards
(47 cards)
Explaining why you’re doing something for someone
“Because I trust you. That’s a gift not to be taken lightly- dont abuse that.”
The instant confidence builder, for preparation
Deep breaths Smile Arms out "I am Davis Reardon" Epic Music of your choice
Responding to a threat
1) Calmly take away their ability to follow through
2) Do the opposite of what they want
The source of confidence
1) Preparation
2) Options
3) Experience
Asserting dominence
1) Make physical contact
2) Have a lower voice than the person you’re talking to
3) Eye contact
4) Use their name, alot- especially when you first meet
5) Take up more space than the others
6) You determine when you meet again
7) Either leave first, or dismiss the person
8) Announce who you’re meeting or what you’re doing later
Dominant speech
Your sentences start with a verb No vocal fillers "Hey, look at me..." "Thank you" before they respond Questions start with "Could you _?" All greetings= "Hi there" Only confident if you smile
Saying ‘Thank you’
Smile “Thanks, I appreciate it”
Have to do something small for them in return later on
Someone wants to do something you don’t want to
“No, I don’t think so”
Greeting
“Hi there” -everytime
Compliment Someone
Laughter– “You’re ____, (name), I like you.”
After disarming someone
“Now if you were one of my students, I might teach you how to do what you just tried to pull the right way. But instead I think Im going to keep you here until you promise _____”
You need something to go a certain way…
“Okay, heres what’s gonna happen_”
Someone tries to intimidate you
If someone is trying to intimidate you, it means they’re panicking about somethin. So you need to respond as you would to someone who is panicking. “Hey, look at me. I need you to calm down. Okay? You think you can do that for me?”
Preparation
The key to confidence is being more prepared than the other guy.
Preparedness means research, (and not just a quick Google search either) Need to see living space, phone, former associates, place of business, lovers.
Understand them better
Optoins
Best method is an event tree
Multiple potential contacts/sources for the same thing
Based in different levels
1) Alternate strategy, from same source
2) Alternate source for the same goal
3) Alternate goal that achieves the same overall purpose
Either way, if things don’t go your way, you could be doing the same thing within the hour
Experience
When you’ve dealt with a similar problem you’re more likely to come out on top if it comes up again, regardless of how it turned out the last time. But you can research that situation and find others experience or also bluff through this by creating a story that endowed you with that same experience (gives you credibility)
Posture
A key component
Lead into the room with your torso and the bridge of your nose in sight
Perception of Control
You have it- always
That means never behaving as though things are out of control
You know exactly where you are, you know everyone in the room, you know exactly what to say and do, and you control the outcome of the situation even if they think they do
Constructive criticism
Say that its good
Issue a compliment
“You know what might make it even better?”
Explain your opinion
Confidence sound track
The Four Horsemen No Church in the Wild Imperial March Knock on Wood Charles Carmicheal Gold on the Cieling
Someone uses violence
Means that you’re in control, and you can tell them that
“Wow, now thats some desperation. You really don’t like someone else having control do you? But hey thanks for showing me you who’s in charge.”
When someone disrespects you…
“You and me, we’re done. I have no reason to respect someone who doesn’t respect me, simple as that.”
Someone is genuinely sorry (theyve done something to prove it)
That person is surrendering to your control
“Hey, look at me. I’ve already forgotten about that; like It never happened. I only do that once, don’t abuse it.”
Getting someone to cooperate with you
Solve a problem for them, discreetly
Approach them afterwords
