Feb 3 Flashcards
perceived partner responsiveness
the feeling that someone TRULY LISTENS, UNDERSTANDS and CARES about you
key ingredients of a supportive response
- UNDERSTANDING: accurately grasping the other person’s thoughts, feelings and experiences
- VALIDATION: communicating acceptance and appreciation for the other person’s perspective and personal qualities
- CARING: demonstrating genuine concern and showing up when help is needed
high responsiveness leads to…
- stronger trust, emotional closeness, commitment
- greater satisfaction in relationships, fulfilling the need for relatedness
exchange relationships
transactional
based on reciprocity
communal relationships
based on mutual care and concern
key differences between exchange relationships and communal relationships
in exchange relationships, people don’t feel obligated to care about the other’s needs beyond fairness
in communal relationships, people monitor and respond to each other’s needs without expecting direct repayment
communal relationships best satisfy need for _________ because…
relatedness
because they provide emotional support & genuine concern
what do people in communal relationships do?
- check in on each other’s wellbeing
- offer help without expecting repayment
- avoid keeping score of favours or contributions
- find financial exchanges (ie. paying a friend for a favour) uncomfortable
fostering relatedness at school and work can involve shared…
shared PROSOCIAL GOALS
shared prosocial goals foster…
deeper bonds and relatedness
some effective prosocial goals include:
- helping each other improve
- offering meaningful feedback
- sharing knowledge or understanding
- collaborating to solve a problem or creating something together
relatedness need satisfaction
- boosts vitality and overall wellbeing
- reduces feelings of loneliness and depression
relatedness need satisfaction leads to…
- increased engagement in school, work or daily life
- lower dropout rates and stronger persistence in school
- greater personal growth, resilience to stress, higher self-esteem
relatedness is key for what?
internalization
explain why relatedness is key for internalization
- feeling connected to others helps us adopt their values and behaviours more easily - especially when we trust their support
- emotional distance prevents internalization, leading to a rejection of other’s values
engagement includes…
- behavioural engagement (effort and persistence)
- emotional engagement (interest and enjoyment)
- cognitive engagement (strategic thinking)
- agentic engagement (initiative and input)
behavioural engagement
effort and persistence
emotional engagement
interest and enjoyment
cognitive engagement
strategic thinking
agentic engagement
initiative and input
autonomy, competence, and relatedness support in relationships and environments do what?
energize engagement and goal striving
“good” days happen when…
psychological needs are met
daily diary studies show that people experience more JOY, VITALITY and LESS NEGATIVE AFFECT when they feel autonomous, competent and connected
study of gym goers: most enjoyable workouts happen when…
we experience high autonomy, competence and relatedness
working out for external reasons lowers engagement and satisfaction
vitality
sense of feeling ALIVE and ENERGIZED
happens when psychological needs are satisfied
spectrum of motivation
goes from AMOTIVATION to, EXTRINSIC, to INSTRINSIC MOTIVATION
amotivation = non-self determined
intrinsic motivation = self-determined