What are some myths that get in the way of objectives of interpersonal effectiveness?
myths that get in the way of objectives of interpersonal effectiveness include:
- I don’t deserve to get what I want or need.
- If I make a request, this will show that I am a very weak person.
- I have to know whether a person is going to say yes before I make a request.
- If I ask for something or say no, I can’t stand it if someone gets upset with me.
- If they say no, it will kill me.
- Making requests is a really pushy (bad, self-centered, selfish, etc.) thing to do.
- Saying no to a request is always a selfish thing to do.
- I should be willing to sacrifice my own needs for others.
- I must be really inadequate if I can’t fix this myself.
- Obviously, the problem is just in my head. If I would just think differently I wouldn’t have to bother everybody else.
- If I don’t have what I want or need, it doesn’t make any difference; I don’t care really.
- Skillfulness is a sign of weakness.
What are some myths that get in the way of relationship and self-respect effectiveness?
Myths that get in the way of relationship and self-respect effectiveness include:
- I shouldn’t have to ask (say no); they should know what I want (and do it).
- They should have known that their behavior would hurt my feelings; I shouldn’t have to tell
- I shouldn’t have to negotiate or work at getting what I want.
- Other people should be willing to do more for my needs.
- Other people should like, approve of, and support me.
- They don’t deserve my being skillful or treating them well.
- Getting what I want when I want it is most important.
- I shouldn’t be fair, kind, courteous, or respectful if others are not so toward me.
- Revenge will feel so good; it will be worth any negative consequences.
- Only wimps have values.
- Everybody lies.
- Getting what I want is more important than how I get it; the ends really do justify the means.