Relationship Flashcards
(20 cards)
On a scale of 1-10, how consistently do you demonstrate genuine emotional transparency without using deflection or passive-aggressive tactics?
8-10 demonstrates high emotional intelligence and direct communication
Ideal response reflects a high level of emotional maturity.
Describe three recent instances where you confronted a challenging situation directly without using emotional manipulation or mood-based avoidance.
- Clear, direct communication
- Emotional maturity
- Problem-solving approach
- Minimal defensive mechanisms
Responses should illustrate effective conflict resolution skills.
How do you differentiate between authentic positivity and using emotional energy as a protective mechanism?
- Self-awareness
- Ability to recognize emotional patterns
- Understanding of genuine vs. protective emotional responses
This reflects an advanced understanding of emotional intelligence.
When something bothers you, do you:
a) Talk about it directly
b) Get quiet and moody
c) Hint around the issue
d) Ignore it completely?
A (Talk about it directly) and through to resolution. indicates emotional maturity and clear communication
Direct communication is the most desirable response.
What specific value do you believe you bring to our relationship ?
- Virtuous Woman
- Fruits of The Spirit
- Tangible skills
- Personal growth potential
- Clear career/personal development trajectory
This question assesses perceived contributions to the relationship.
How do you quantify and appreciate the financial sacrifices made in our relationship?
- Genuine gratitude
- Understanding of relationship costs
- Non-transactional mindset
Recognizing financial contributions fosters relationship stability.
Explain your understanding of mutual financial responsibility and partnership.
- Equal contribution concept
- Balanced support system
- Transparent financial communication
This reflects a mature understanding of financial dynamics in relationships.
If I spend money on you, you typically:
a) Say genuine thank you
b) Feel entitled
c) Minimize the gesture
d) Offer to reciprocate?
A (Say genuine thank you) shows appreciation and emotional maturity
Gratitude is key in maintaining healthy financial interactions.
Your approach to spending is:
a) Always budget-conscious
b) Spend freely
c) Look for deals
d) Expect others to cover expenses?
A or C (budget-conscious or look for deals) indicates financial responsibility
Financial awareness is crucial for partnership.
Do you feel like there’s still some making up to do from your past behavior:
a) Yes, I fully acknowledge my mistakes
b) Partially, but I don’t think it’s a big deal
c) No, I believe I’ve done nothing wrong
d) I’m unaware of any specific issues?
A (Yes, I fully acknowledge my mistakes) demonstrates highest potential for relationship repair
Acknowledgment of past mistakes is vital for growth.
Your approach to addressing past mistakes involves:
a) Direct accountability and genuine apology
b) Minimizing the impact of my actions
c) Avoiding the conversation entirely
d) Blaming external circumstances?
A (Direct accountability and genuine apology) shows emotional intelligence and respect regardless of how much time has passed
Accountability is essential for personal growth.
When confronted about previous problematic behavior, you:
a) Listen carefully and reflect
b) Become defensive
c) Dismiss the concerns
d) Turn the conversation around to blame others?
A (Listen carefully and reflect) indicates openness to feedback and personal growth
Constructive feedback is important for self-improvement.
What issues does Darryl Farmer have regarding emotional manipulation?
- Uses ‘positive energy’ as a shield
- Creates an illusion of emotional consistency
- Engages in emotional mirroring as a control mechanism
These issues highlight concerns about authenticity in emotional expression.
What financial contributions has Darryl Farmer made that he feels are undervalued?
- Paid for birthday celebrations
- Rent payments
- Covered phone bills
- Trips
- Emergencies
- Flights
(without firm loyalty)
(Cautious Entitled Mindset)
These contributions illustrate the financial dynamics of the relationship.
What relationship dynamics does Darryl Farmer criticize?
- Passive-aggressive punishment
- ‘Tit for tat’ interactions
- Emotional resistance through behavior
-Mirroring
These criticisms reflect concerns about healthy communication.
What personal accountability issues does Darryl Farmer point out?
- Oversimplification of personal change
- Minimization of past challenges
These points indicate a need for greater introspection.
What communication patterns does Darryl Farmer believe are problematic?
- Uses emotional manipulation to avoid confrontation
- Indirect methods to express dissatisfaction
- Constructs narratives that protect your self-image
- Disrespectful words and aggressive tones and body language
- Lying
- Omission or manipulation of truth
These patterns can hinder effective communication in relationships.
If challenged about the authenticity of these responses, you would:
a) Welcome additional scrutiny
b) Become defensive
c) Provide elaborate explanations
d) Refuse further discussion?
A (Welcome additional scrutiny) indicates highest integrity and emotional security
Openness to scrutiny reflects confidence in one’s self-assessment.
Your answers can be independently verified by:
a) Multiple trusted sources
b) Close friends/family
c) Past relationship partners
d) These answers are purely subjective?
A (Multiple trusted sources) shows transparency and confidence
Verification enhances the credibility of responses.
When completing this questionnaire, your primary motivation was:
a) Genuine self-reflection
b) Avoiding conflict
c) Trying to impress/manipulate
d) Completing a required task?
A (Genuine self-reflection) demonstrates highest credibility and commitment
Self-reflection is crucial for personal development.
