S1 - Why We Struggle Flashcards
(41 cards)
S1 - Why We Struggle
Shame is an ____ emotion
inhibitory emotion
Shame is profoundly connected to ____
feelings of self worth
Shame gets in the way of…
feeling like we’re enough
Shame = feelings of
not good enough, unworthy, worthless
We live in a ____ culture
“how to”
how-to defined
giving detailed & practical advice about the way to do something.
how to doesn’t …
work
If ‘how to’ worked then…
none of us would be struggling (w/debt, obesity, worthiness)
Tips & tricks & how to doesn’t work with …
worthiness & feeling like we’re enough
Transformation happens in …
hard conversations
We live in a Culture of ____
deep scarcity
scarcity is defined as ____
never enough
scarcity synonyms
lack, shortage, deficit, need
scarcity’s opposite
abundance, wealth, adequate, sufficient, actualised
Why do we struggle?
we feel like we’re never enough
List of Cultural “not enough” messages to individuals:
Never good enough, rich enough, safe enough, powerful enough, certain enough, perfect enough, special enough, attractive enough, smart enough, successful enough, etc
Most dangerous “not enough” message in work place:
not relevant enough
biggest shame trigger in work
not relevant enough
Toxic Cultural Message:
If you’re not doing extraordinary huge public things you are not enough
An ordinary healthy fulfilled life =
is a meaningless life
Idea we’re never extraordinary enough
plays out in …
social media & reality tv
Being “ordinary is =
a shame-based fear
shaming being “ordinary” goes back to =
scarcity mindset
