Chapter 9

Question 1

Friendship

Answer 1

is voluntary, does not require legal or religious

Question 2

Committed relationships

Answer 2

are also voluntary and exist between unique individuals who cannot be replaced
* they involve romantic and sexual feelings.

Question 3

Dimension of close relationships

Answer 3

1. Willing to invest
2. Emotional Closeness (intimacy) : 2 ways to create closeness are through dialogue vs doing
3. Acceptance: can act they the way we are, dont need to hide or faking
4. Trust
5. Support: being present or through dialogue
6. Passion
7. Commitment
8. Navigating: a long-term process of managing and maintaining relationships once commitment has been estalished

Question 4

Relational cuture

Answer 4

is a private set of rules, understandings, meanings, and patterns of behaviour that come to identify relationships

Question 5

Style of love: Primary

Answer 5

1. Eros: Powerfull,passion
2. Storge: Comfortable, gradually
3. Ludus: Playful, love as game

Question 6

Style of love: Secondary

Answer 6

1. Pragma: Practical love, eg: arranged marriage
2. Mania: between (eros and ludus): others love them but they want to play to evaluate, test the commitment
3. Agape: other would do everything for you event they had another idea, they love you over than themself

Question 7

Challenges to sustaining close relationship

Answer 7

1. Internal Tension:
   a. Relational Dialectic: others need your time to be with them,
   b. Diverse Communication Styles:
   c. Managing Sex: Control sexual attraction
   d Advoid violence and abuse

Question 8

Challenges to sustaining close relationship

Answer 8

2. External Pressure
   a. Competing Demands: Eg: When you get into a love relationship, you neglect your friend –> Let them know you have some relationship beside them to avoid hurting them
   b. Surviving distance
   b1. Loss of daily routines
   b2. Unrealistic expectations of time together
   b3. Unequal investments into the relationship

Question 9

Challenges to sustaining close relationship

Answer 9

3. Ensuring equity

- Committed investment

Question 10

Sustaining close relationship

Answer 10

1. Engage dual perspective
2. Communicate honestly
3. Grow from differences
4. Show respect and consideration
5. Make daily choices that enhance closeness and intimacy
6. Dont sweat the small stuff

Question 11

4 damages behaviour in close relationship

Answer 11

1. Contempt
2. Criticism
3. Defensiveness
4. Stonewalling