friendships definintion
long-term voluntary relationships
Reasons for choosing the friends we choose
- Homophily
- Complementarily
- Reciprocal attraction
- Competence
- Disclosure
- Proximity
- Rewards
Friendship styles
- Discerning style
- Independent style
- Acquisitive style
Discerning style (Friendship styles)
your friends stay the same, you’re reluctant to form new ones
Independent style (Friendship styles)
friendship is less closely linked to person, but associated with activities and specific places they live in
Acquisitive style (Friendship styles)
you have friends that remain with you throughout your entire life and stay with them in specific contexts
- you’re still open to making new friends
Social support definition
the process of interaction in relationships which improves coping, esteem, belonging, and competence through actual or perceived changes of physical or psychosocial reousrces
Types of social support
- Perceived support
- Actual support
- Emotional support
- Network support
- Informational support
- Tangible support
Perceived support (Types of support)
our perception that support is available
Emotional support
support that serves emotional needs, builds sense of self
- Bolsters one’s self-esteem, encourages people to take actions which are necessary
Network support
remind people that support is around them
Informational support
communication that provides useful/needed information
Tangible support
physical assistance provided to others
- Ex: giving loans, a place to stay
Theory of Optimal Matching
the best type of social support which matches someone’s needs
Dialects (Dialectical theory)
tensions or contradictory impulses that exist between two opposing ideas
- natural and normal to a relationship
Contradiction (Dialectical theory)
opposite poles
Process (Dialectical theory)
what we do with the tension in our relationships that make the difference
Integration vs. Separation (Relational Dialects)
- Tension between wanting to integrate ourselves and wanting to have an autonomous life
- Tension between to desire to be around each other a lot, versus wanting autonomy
Inclusion vs. Exclusion (Relational Dialects)
- Tension between wanting to keep relationship private and wanting to keep relationship inclusive
Stability vs. Change (Relational Dialects)
- Desire to change things vs. desire to keep things constant
- internal-desire for predictability
- external -novelty and change
Conventionality vs. Uniqueness (Relational Dialects)
- Does relationship conform to norms or is it unique?
Expression vs. Privacy (Relational Dialects)
- Desire to self-disclose vs. desire to remain quiet
- internal - how much privacy involved
- external -wanting to share news vs. secrecy
Ex) Should I tell my friend I have OCD or not?
Dependence/Independence
- Desire to be clingy vs. autonomous
- internal- inclusive/secluded
- external-relations to outside world
