Love and Romantic Relationships Flashcards
(25 cards)
3 Essential Components of Triangular Theory of love
Intimaticy, Passion, Commitment, -rOBERT Stenberg
Passion + Intimacy
Romantic Love
Intimacy Alone
Liking
Passion alone
Infatuation
Commitment alone
Empty love
Passion + Commitment
Fatuous Love
Intimacy + Commitment
Companionate Love
Intimacy + Passion + Commitment
Consummate Love
Most people will fall in love approximately ______ times before marriage according to Lewis, Thomas, et al.
seven
What predisposes a person to love another?
- Proximity
- Physical attractiveness
- Similarity in terms of values (long term attraction)
- Relationship rewards
Stages of Love
- Infantile Love Stage
- Parent love stage
- Buddy love stage
- Adolescent love stage
cannot love others, thinks only of oneself, concerned only about getting what he/she wants and satisfies only one’s own desires
Infantile love stage
onset of the ability to love others, loves the parents because they do most things for the person
Parent Love stage
adopt standards of buddies rather than standards of parents, particularly those of his/her own sex;
Buddy love stage
Individual takes an interest in the opposite sex, a trial and error period where attention focuses one person for longer and longer periods of time
Focuses on what you can get and not what you can give to a relationship
Adolescent Love Stage
Less emphasis on physical attraction and focuses more on emotional and psychological factors.
Focuses on what you can give to the relationship rather than what you can get from it.
Mature Love Stage
Found in degree rather than definition. Un
Infatuation
Love develops slowly, infatuation develops rapidly
Love ends slwly, infatuation ends rapidly
Love centers on one person only; infatuation may involve several persons
love motivates positive behavior infatuation. has destructive effect
Love recognizes faults; infatuation ignores them
love survives separation, infatuation cannot
object permanence
things continue to exist even wiyhout view
Love recognizes the importance of compatibility, infatuation disregards it
Love controls physical contact, infatuation exploits it
Love is selfless, infatuation is selfish
Love brings the approval of family and friends, infatuation brings disapproval
Love produces security Infatuation produces insecurity
Love recognizes realities, infatuation ignores them
