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1

Why is it helpful for your patient to be married when you are trying to improve their health?

b/c it helps w/ compliance & outcomes, need to understand the family dynamics

2

What is the deal w/ the correlation b/w health & marriage?

Seems to have health-buffering effects for men & women.
But only health-buffering for women if it is a good quality marriage.
Main negative: more likely to be overweight if you are married...

3

What is Gottman's Love lab?

couples spend a weekend in an apartment & they are videotaped to watch their communication patterns. Patterns are evaluated w/ who gets a divorce & who doesn't many years later...

4

Watching a couple's communication in the love lab...Gottman predicted divorce w/ ____ accuracy.

91% accuracy

5

What are the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse?

These are 4 predictors of divorce...if you even see one of these.
Criticism
Contempt
Defensiveness
Stonewalling

6

Describe the type of criticism that is indicative of impending divorce.

attacking the partner's character or personality, rather than a specific behavior.

7

Describe the type of contempt that is indicative of impending divorce.

communication w/ the intent to assault or psychologically abuse your partner.

8

Describe the type of defensiveness that is indicative of impending divorce.

playing the victim
denying responsibility
making excuses
complaining about the other person
repeating yourself

9

Describe the type of stonewalling that is indicative of impending divorce.

withdrawing from a discussion
**this is often seen in men

10

What is the difference b/w complaining & criticism?

Criticism would be like: You are always late home from work & you clearly don't love me.
Complaining: You have been late home 3/5 days this week. I don't like that.

11

T/F Arguing is bad for a relationship.

True & False...what is really important is HOW you fight.

12

According to Gottman, if you have a negative fighting behavior (like defensiveness) what is it important to do?

Counteract that one negative behavior with 5 positive arguing behaviors.

13

What are positive behaviors to exhibit during an argument?

Using humor
Expressing affection
Acknowledging partner's point of view
Exit argument gracefully
Accept your partner

14

T/F Partners tend to fight about the same things over & over again.

True.

15

Why is too little passion or too much passion in an argument bad?

Too little passion: don't care
Too much passion: too aggressive, hostile

16

T/F Never go to bed angry.

False-->might be better if you can't agree to go to bed angry & exit the argument gracefully, think things over, & address them more reasonably in the morning...

17

T/F Divorce rates & relationship satisfaction & dynamics are similar b/w heterosexual & homosexual couples.

True.

18

Are there negative effects that children experience when they are a part of same sex families?

No.

19

Do children that are in same sex families have more behavioral issues? Are they more likely to be homosexual?

No. No.

20

Do marriage & medicine mix?

It can help offset daily stressors.
Medical & non-medical couples have similar fights.
Long hours can be an issue, but quality time is what is most important.

21

Which specialties have the highest rates of divorce? Lowest rates?

Highest Rates:
Psychiatry
Lowest Rates:
Family med
Peds
Internal Med

22

What percentage of male physicians are married to other physicians? Percentage of female physicians? In the future, what percentage will be married to other physicians?

Male: 22%
female: 44%
Future: 50%

23

T/F There are not the traditional gender roles exhibited in dual doctor relationships.

False. Gender roles still emerge.

24

What 2 things decrease when a couple has a baby? What things increase?

Joy & pleasure increase.
Marital Conversation & Sex decrease.

25

What are the bad things about the transition into parenthood?

40-70% couples experience a drop in marital quality
Marital Conflict increases X9
Feelings of being overwhelmed, increased depression
Men retreat into their work.

26

After kids, marital quality tends to decline...when does it increase again?

Increases after the kids leave the house.

27

What are the divorce rates after 5 years? in all?

after 5 years: 1/3 fail
In all: 1/2-2/3 fail

28

With second marriages...what are the divorce rates?

Up to 10% higher than for first time marriages...

29

What are the 2 high risk critical periods for most marriages?

The first 7 years...
Midlife when the parents have teenagers...

30

What negative things is divorce related to for parents?

psychopathology
physical illness
suicide
homicide
violence
mortality from disease