What are the different parts of the Problem section?
Understand and expand, Split Identity, Dating History, History of Decisions, Why now?, Are you ready?
What are at least four questions from Understand and Expand?
What do you feel has been holding you back?
What’s been difficult about getting back into dating?
When you say { insert problem }, what do you mean by that? / Why do you feel like that is?
Take me back to the last time where… / Can you give me an example of how that shows up in your life exactly?
You know John, most guys tell me in your situation that its had an impact on their confidence… what has that been like for you?
What’s that been like for you? / What’s it been like for you not having xyz?
And how long have you felt that way, how long has that been going on?
Got it so it’s kind of been the same struggle in high school / college or has it just been in adulthood?
Now how far back can you remember the first time you really recognized that it was an issue?
How did you and your previous partner end up meeting?
What didn’t work or didn’t work as well as you like in that relationship?
Do you feel like if you had more options you maybe would have chosen a little bit differently? In what way?
You know {customer} what I’m really hearing is that you’re trying to live up to your fullest potential here.. Out of 100% of your total potential, where do you feel like you’re at now? What do you feel like is missing that would get you closer to 100%
When you think about your confidence level when it comes to xyz what would you rank your confidence out of 10? Have you thought about what holds you back from being a 10?
What two men are represented by the Split Identity?
Nice idea: “one type goes that’s a nice idea, I would love to go to some of these events, but then they will never change their behavior no matter how beautiful the women are, it’s just a nice idea and that’s fine, they are happy with where there at”
Ambitious few: “where part of them wants to continue sitting at their desk for another 8 years and never leave but part of them screams at them your more this, you got to get out there, there’s something else on the other side, you’ll stop at nothing to live a lifestyle very few will actually live”
What questions go with the Dating History section?
In the last month how many new women have you been able to approach and meet?
How many dates were you able to go on with new women?
Were those like the exact girls that you want or do you feel they were maybe more of just settling?
What questions go with history of decisions?
What have you tried in the past?
Why do you feel it didn’t work?
What is the Why Now section?
Interesting, well I’m just curious John after all this time why is fixing this becoming more of a priority for you right now? Why don’t you keep continuing the way you’ve been going?
What are some alternative why now questions?
Sounds like this has been on your mind for a while, how long have you been thinking/wanting possibly to change that?
Interesting, I guess what happened in {timeframe} that made you say you maybe need to do something about it?
What is the “Are you ready?” a.k.a Cost Question?
I got that so (customer), let me ask, do you feel like you’re finally at a point in life right now where you’re just ready to draw a line in the sand and start helping yourself out with this? To actually have a breakthrough in xyz? (Because you don’t have to)
