Relationships Flashcards

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Why do people engage in pre-marital sex?

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Love
Experimentation
Acceptance
Sexually Frustrated

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Why are people single?

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Religion (nun/priest)
Still looking
Divorced
Widowed
Broken up
Freedom
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Benefits of being single?

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Freedom
1 night stands
Pleasure
Focus on other things
Cheaper
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Drawbacks on being single?

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Lonely, unloved, bored, no kids, jealous

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Why should priests get married?

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Relate to congregation
Protestants can
More priests
Reproduce 
Less lonely
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Why shouldn’t priests get married?

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Not fully committed to God
Distracted
Jesus was celibate & unmarried

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What are civil partnerships?

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Gives gay people rights and responsibilities of straight couples in marriage.
Not in a church

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Where are civil partnerships legal?

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All of UK & Ireland

Illegal in NI

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Verses which prohibit homosexual acts.

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Genesis 2
Romans 1:289 (natural relations)
Genesis 2:24 (man leaves for wife)
Matthew 22:1-14 (parables at wedding feasts)
Leviticus 18:22 (gay sex is wrong)
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Why is gay okay?

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Everyone is different.
Christian idea is an abomination - outdated and narrow-minded
Born gay. Sex is natural

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What do the churches say about homosexuality?

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RC - no. Disordered. Called to chastity

Church of Ireland - incompatible with scripture. Accepted celibate gay priest

Presbyterian - sexually confused. Help work through insecurities

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Average age of marriage?

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1987: 28 and 26
2007: 34 and 32
2015: 30 and 28

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Average cost of wedding?

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£20,000

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Why get married?

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Companionship
Not alone
Better taxes & expenses
Public welcoming into family
Tell others you love each other
1 special person to love
Harder to break up
Baby due
Better for kids
Control sexual desire
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What should you consider before marriage?

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Children
Finances
Living situation
Future prospects
Is it love?
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Verses about marriage?

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Exclusive (2 Samuel 11:12-25)
Built on love & respect (Ephesians 5:25-33)
Sacred (Genesis 2:21-24)
Involves give & take (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)

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Parts of a wedding ceremony?

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Intro and declaration of purpose
Vows
Ring exchange
Warning 
Pronouncement
Sign register
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What is the intro & declaration of purpose?

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Short sermon on marriage

It’s importance and purpose

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What are vows?

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Lawful.
Some make up own.
Have and hold better or worse richer or poorer

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What is ring exchange?

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Promise of unending love and commitment.

Symbol.

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What is warning?

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Quote Jesus
Mark 10:9
1 man mustn’t separate them

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What is pronouncement?

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State couple is now married

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What is signing register?

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Lawful. Need registrar and witnesses.

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How to prevent marital breakdown?

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Good prep : classes/courses

Communication. Repentance. Forgiveness
(Ephesians 4:26-27, don’t let sun go down on anger)

External help: RELATE & ACCORD

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Where are civil partnerships legal?
All of UK & Ireland | Illegal in NI
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Verses which prohibit homosexual acts.
``` Genesis 2 Romans 1:289 (natural relations) Genesis 2:24 (man leaves for wife) Matthew 22:1-14 (parables at wedding feasts) Leviticus 18:22 (gay sex is wrong) ```
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Why is gay okay?
Everyone is different. Christian idea is an abomination - outdated and narrow-minded Born gay. Sex is natural
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What do the churches say about homosexuality?
RC - no. Disordered. Called to chastity Church of Ireland - incompatible with scripture. Accepted celibate gay priest Presbyterian - sexually confused. Help work through insecurities
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Average age of marriage?
1987: 28 and 26 2007: 34 and 32 2015: 30 and 28
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Average cost of wedding?
£20,000
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Why get married?
``` Companionship Not alone Better taxes & expenses Public welcoming into family Tell others you love each other 1 special person to love Harder to break up Baby due Better for kids Control sexual desire ```
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What should you consider before marriage?
``` Children Finances Living situation Future prospects Is it love? ```
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Verses about marriage?
Exclusive (2 Samuel 11:12-25) Built on love & respect (Ephesians 5:25-33) Sacred (Genesis 2:21-24) Involves give & take (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)
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Parts of a wedding ceremony?
``` Intro and declaration of purpose Vows Ring exchange Warning Pronouncement Sign register ```
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What is the intro & declaration of purpose?
Short sermon on marriage | It's importance and purpose
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What are vows?
Lawful. Some make up own. Have and hold better or worse richer or poorer
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What is ring exchange?
Promise of unending love and commitment. | Symbol.
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What is warning?
Quote Jesus Mark 10:9 1 man mustn't separate them
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What is pronouncement?
State couple is now married
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What is signing register?
Lawful. Need registrar and witnesses.
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How to prevent marital breakdown?
Good prep : classes/courses Communication. Repentance. Forgiveness (Ephesians 4:26-27, don't let sun go down on anger) External help: RELATE & ACCORD
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What is RELATE?
Non religious marriage counselling Accepts LGBT National Marriage Guidance Counsel
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What is ACCORD?
Catholic marriage counselling
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What is divorce?
Legal process involving civil authorities which ends in declaration that marriage is ended.
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How many marriages in NI end in divorce?
1 in 3
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Why do people get divorced?
``` Lack of commitment Conflict Finances Unrealistic expectation of marriage Too young ```
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In what cases are you allowed to get divorced?
Adultery Behaviour making unrealistic to stay together Lived apart for 2 years & both agree Desertion for 2 years
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What problems might a couple experience after a divorce?
``` Let down Fearful of future Suffering Stress Single parent Finances ```
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How might a child feel after a parents' divorce?
Torn between parents Like bereavement (loss of parent) Stress (bedwetting, tearfulness, poor schoolwork, bad behaviour)
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What does the bible say about divorce (3 verses)
Malachi 2:16 - hate it Deuteronomy 24:1-4 - man can divorce wife if find indecent Matthew 5:31+32 - only if adultery
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What is remarriage considered in the bible?
Adultery
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What does the RC church say about divorce? What does the Church of Ireland say? What does the Presbyterian Church say? What does the Methodist Church say?
Wrong - only if marriage wasn't valid Needs agreement of Rector & Bishop Only if totally broken down. Blessing becomes curse Permitted in most cases
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What is cohabitation? Why would you choose it?
Living together when not married | Manage married life, if really love each other
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What does the bible say about Cohabitation? (2) | What is it considered by Christians?
1 Corinthians 6:18 - sexual immorality 1 Thessalonians 5:22 - every form of evil Unnecessary temptation
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What is a civil partnership? | When did it become legal in UK?
For LGBT couples, same rights as hetero couples, not in church though. 2006