Chapter 11 - STEERING YOUR LIFE BY TRUE NORTH

Question 1

What function do values serve in our lives?

Answer 1

Values guide us in determining the direction of our life and help us make critical decisions.

Question 2

How does Merriam-Webster define ‘value’?

Answer 2

‘Something (as a principle or quality) intrinsically valuable or desirable.’

Question 3

What are values according to the text?

Answer 3

Beliefs, qualities, or philosophies that are meaningful to individuals.

Question 4

What are the three kinds of values identified in coaching?

Answer 4

• The Superficial Shoulds
• Chosen Values
• Core Values

Question 5

What are Superficial Shoulds?

Answer 5

Relatively superficial values stemming from external expectations rather than personal belief.

Question 6

What are Chosen Values?

Answer 6

Values that resonate personally and are actively upheld by individuals.

Question 7

What are Core Values?

Answer 7

The three to five critically important values that define an individual’s life.

Question 8

What happens when individuals do not live according to their core values?

Answer 8

They may feel dissatisfied, depressed, embarrassed, and ashamed.

Question 9

How do values impact job satisfaction among physicians?

Answer 9

Physicians identifying benevolence as a guiding principle report higher job satisfaction.

Question 10

True or False: Values have the power to change outer circumstances quickly.

Answer 10

True

Question 11

What is a fulfilled life according to the text?

Answer 11

A life lived in alignment with one’s personal values.

Question 12

What must clients do before setting goals around values?

Answer 12

Consciously explore, distinguish, and clearly delineate their personal values.

Question 13

What is the relationship between needs and values?

Answer 13

Insufficiently satisfied needs must be addressed before clients can align with their values.

Question 14

What is the role of a coach in helping clients with values?

Answer 14

To assist clients in clarifying and articulating their unique values.

Question 15

What can happen when clients’ work conflicts with their core values?

Answer 15

They may experience serious inner conflict and pain.

Question 16

Fill in the blank: Core values have _______ worth for an individual.

Answer 16

[intrinsic]

Question 17

What is the process for clients to identify their core values?

Answer 17

Engaging in various exercises to discern and articulate their core values.

Question 18

What are the three major areas from which values are drawn?

Answer 18

• Experiencing
• Creating
• Being

Question 19

What does the ‘Being’ category of values include?

Answer 19

• Integrity
• Joy
• Love
• Peace
• Truth
• Uniqueness
• Loyalty
• Empathy
• Spirituality
• Authenticity

Question 20

What is the purpose of values exercises in coaching?

Answer 20

To help clients identify and clarify their personal values.

Question 21

What might indicate that a client is listing superficial values?

Answer 21

A lack of joy and satisfaction when they think about those values.

Question 22

True or False: Living according to a list of ‘shoulds’ can lead to joy and satisfaction.

Answer 22

False

Question 23

What does the text suggest about individuals’ reliance on others for validation?

Answer 23

Most people look to others too much for validation instead of accessing inner validation.

Question 24

What is the ultimate aim of aligning life with core values?

Answer 24

To maximize opportunities for success, creativity, and satisfaction.

Question 25

What are the three main categories of actions mentioned?

Answer 25

Creating, generating, and designing ## Footnote These actions relate to the creative process and personal expression.

Question 26

Define 'Being' in the context of personal values.

Answer 26

Values fulfilled through attitudes, mind-sets, emotions, and qualities of character ## Footnote Examples include integrity, joy, love, and peace.

Question 27

List five qualities that can help identify core values from childhood.

Answer 27

* Creativity * Thoughtfulness * Love of nature * Helping others * Exploration

Question 28

What is the purpose of asking three people to name your values?

Answer 28

To gain insights into values that may be more obvious to others than to oneself ## Footnote Values influence decisions and sources of pleasure and pain.

Question 29

What should clients track during the week to reflect on their values?

Answer 29

Activities that give a full sense of satisfaction ## Footnote Aim to list examples under each core value.

Question 30

Fill in the blank: You can only live your values if you are clear about what they are and _______.

Answer 30

[conscious of them every day]

Question 31

What is a 'mastermind group'?

Answer 31

A synergy of energy, commitment, and creativity among group members working toward a definite purpose ## Footnote Introduced by Napoleon Hill in 'Think and Grow Rich'.

Question 32

What should clients examine to align their life and work goals with core values?

Answer 32

Short-term and long-term goals ## Footnote Assess whether these goals allow living out core values.

Question 33

True or False: Pain-driven values are less important than pleasure-driven values.

Answer 33

False ## Footnote Both pain-driven and pleasure-driven values can be significant.

Question 34

What is the impact of living in alignment with values?

Answer 34

Higher energy, increased creativity, and a sense of fulfillment ## Footnote Living values daily leads to a more satisfying life.

Question 35

What should clients do to create helpful habits?

Answer 35

Identify three to five habits they can commit to implementing in the next 10 weeks ## Footnote This aligns daily actions with articulated values.

Question 36

How can clients take charge of their schedules?

Answer 36

By blocking time for values-directed activities in their calendar ## Footnote This helps hold them accountable for acting in accordance with their values.

Question 37

What might trigger a shift in core values?

Answer 37

Life transitions, such as midlife changes ## Footnote New values may become more important over time.

Question 38

What does the question 'Is this value driven by pain or pleasure?' help clients to explore?

Answer 38

The motivation behind their values and how they impact life satisfaction ## Footnote This encourages deeper reflection on life choices.

Question 39

List two examples of pleasure-driven and pain-driven values.

Answer 39

* Pleasure-driven: Enjoying massages for relaxation * Pain-driven: Getting massages to alleviate chronic pain

Question 40

What is the role of habits in relation to values?

Answer 40

Habits are values in action ## Footnote They reflect the attitudes and mind-sets that guide one's life.

Question 41

What should clients do if their current activities block them from living their core values?

Answer 41

Identify and eliminate those blocking activities ## Footnote This may involve delegating or letting go of certain tasks.

Question 42

What is a key action that a client took regarding their computer while on vacation?

Answer 42

The client agreed to leave his computer home when he went on vacation.

Question 43

What often prompts individuals to adopt new core values?

Answer 43

A desire to move a value up in importance, often occurring in midlife.

Question 44

What value might become more important during midlife?

Answer 44

Spirituality.

Question 45

What can cause values to shift in a person?

Answer 45

Emerging into a new level of consciousness.

Question 46

What should clients do to develop a new value?

Answer 46

Examine values that have been powerful and life-shaping.

Question 47

How many values should clients reflect on that have shaped their life?

Answer 47

Two to five values.

Question 48

What should clients identify after reviewing a list of values?

Answer 48

One or two new values they would like to implement.

Question 49

What should clients create for each new value they wish to adopt?

Answer 49

An operational definition.

Question 50

Who should clients identify in relation to their new values?

Answer 50

People in their life who demonstrate each value.

Question 51

What is essential for the action plan clients create for their values?

Answer 51

Specific events, dates, and a review process.

Question 52

What should clients do to ensure they live a values-focused life?

Answer 52

Contemplate their values deeply.

Question 53

True or False: Living according to one’s values has only benefits.

Answer 53

False.

Question 54

What significant figures are mentioned as examples of living out values?

Answer 54

Gandhi and Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Question 55

What should clients reflect on regarding past life-changing decisions?

Answer 55

How these decisions might be made through the lens of current high-priority values.

Question 56

What is at the heart of coaching from the inside out?

Answer 56

Values work.

Question 57

What do clients who can articulate their values find?

Answer 57

Fulfillment in the integrity of life from the inside and outside.