Chapter 2 - THE LANGUAGE OF COACHING Flashcards
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What theories form the basis of the coaching program?
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Theories from humanistic psychology, positive psychology, and early theories of Jung, Adler, and Assagioli.
This includes the strength-based approach and concepts from speech-act theorists like John Searle and Fernando Flores.
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What are the three aspects of coaching that coaches attend to?
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- Relationship with the clients
- Overall process of coaching
- Coaching conversations
These aspects are essential for effective coaching and client engagement.
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What distinguishes a coaching conversation from a casual chat?
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A coaching conversation has a beginning, middle, and end, resulting in movement toward insight or action.
It involves commitment and action on the part of clients.
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What is the ‘sacred or inspiring space’ in coaching?
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The space created through genuine dialogue and listening between coaches and clients.
This allows for effective engagement and growth.
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What is the primary purpose of the coaching conversation?
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To further the clients’ growth, learning, and action toward their desires and intentions.
This involves a creative dialogue where coaches intuitively follow clients’ pace.
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What are the three critical conversations described by Tim Gallwey?
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- Conversation for awareness
- Conversation for choice
- Conversation for trust
These conversations help clients move from current reality to their desired future.
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What is the importance of increasing clients’ awareness?
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Increased awareness leads to greater choice and the ability to respond creatively to life.
Clients learn to manage their reactions rather than merely react.
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What are the three areas of desired results clients typically seek in coaching?
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- Performance goals
- Learning goals
- Fulfillment goals
Each area targets different aspects of clients’ lives and can be measured in various ways.
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What is the difference between facts and stories in the context of coaching?
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Facts are verifiable truths; stories are interpretations and opinions about those facts.
Clients often confuse their stories with the truth, which can hinder change.
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What is the initial question a coach asks to start a session?
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What do you want from our time together today?
This question helps clients articulate their desires and goals.
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What does ‘coaching to the gap’ mean?
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It refers to helping clients identify the difference between what they want and their current reality.
This allows coaches to assist clients in finding ways to close that gap.
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What should coaches do after clarifying their understanding of clients’ desires?
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Coaches should share their perspectives on the clients’ situations, identifying gaps, opportunities, and strengths.
This step is critical for facilitating change.
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True or False: The coaching conversation is designed to reflect the coach’s agenda.
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False.
The coaching conversation is purposefully directed to the client’s agenda.
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Fill in the blank: The coaching conversation impacts clients because it takes a ______ approach.
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[whole-person]
This method addresses both the inner and outer worlds of clients.
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What is the role of a coach in communicating with clients?
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To share their observations respectfully and acknowledge multiple perspectives.
Coaches must communicate in a way that is warm and inviting, offering their perception as just one version of the truth.
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What does the term ‘insight’ refer to in coaching?
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The phenomenon of creating a new neural link in the client’s brain when they recognize what is so.
Insight allows clients to begin transformation and is often fragile unless built upon deeper dialogue.
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What is a key aspect of the coaching process after sharing observations?
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Listening more and asking clarifying questions to deepen the client’s self-exploration.
This invites clients to play with their thoughts and discover new possibilities.
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What is purposeful silence in coaching?
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A technique where coaches pause after a client’s comments to allow for deeper reflection.
Purposeful silence can create powerful moments for insight and self-discovery.
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Fill in the blank: The action requested by a coach may involve a change in _______.
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[behavior, way of being, thought pattern, or mindset]
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What should coaches assess regarding client actions?
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Whether clients are committed to the actions they identify.
This ensures clients own their actions and are motivated to follow through.
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What are the ‘Big Five’ in coaching?
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A method for discernment regarding client actions and commitments.
It helps coaches evaluate the appropriateness of clients’ goals and actions.
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True or False: Coaches should allow clients to overpromise and underdeliver without assessment.
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False.
Coaches should explore what blocked the intended actions and help clients learn to pace themselves.
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What should clients do during the action-taking phase?
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Identify choices, examine commitment, and clarify specific actions.
This phase is crucial for ensuring accountability and clarity in the coaching process.
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What is essential for accountability in coaching?
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Clients must be accountable to themselves as well as to their coaches.
Ensuring that clients understand the specifics of their next steps is vital.
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Fill in the blank: A good rule of thumb is to have clients act in two ways: (a) take the specified action, and (b) _______.
[observe themselves during the action]
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What is the bottom line of a coaching session?
A session is not complete without a request for movement toward the client’s goals.
## Footnote
This creates momentum and reinforces the coaching process.
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What is the focus of the coaching conversation in the provided transcript?
Rediscovering fun and recreation in the client's life.
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The client discusses their past enjoyment of tennis and current limitations.
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What challenge does the client face regarding fun activities?
Physical limitations that prevent them from engaging in sports they used to enjoy.
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The client feels a need to reframe their understanding of fun due to these limitations.
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What type of project does the coach suggest to the client regarding fun?
Researching individuals with physical limitations who still have fun in their lives.
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This could help the client see new possibilities for enjoyment.
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What does the coach encourage the client to do to explore fun?
Conduct informational interviews asking others what they do for fun.
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This could help the client shift their perspective on fun activities.
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What does the client express about their current perception of fun?
They feel they must reframe their understanding of fun due to their physical limitations.
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The client struggles to envision alternatives that bring joy.
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What physical activity did the client stop due to pain?
Playing tennis
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The client experienced pain in the bottom of their foot and issues in the metatarsal region, which led to discontinuing tennis.
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What does the client currently use to help with foot pain?
Orthotics
## Footnote
The client has orthotics but still finds walking unenjoyable.
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At what age did the client start playing tennis?
12 years old
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How frequently did the client play tennis before surgeries?
Singles four times a week, doubles twice a week
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What activities did the client enjoy before the age of 12?
Riding a bike and playing baseball
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True or False: The client is currently interested in bicycling.
False
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The client is not interested in biking anymore due to the difficulty in their mountainous living environment.
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What does the client feel they are mourning?
The loss of a sport that has been a part of their life
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What activity does the client express interest in as a potential source of fun?
Drumming
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What did the client experience at the drumming circle?
A sense of connection to strangers
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What does the coach suggest could come from joining a drumming group?
Opportunities to meet new people and discover other activities
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Fill in the blank: The coach describes fun as a demand from your _______.
soul
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What does the term 'recreation' mean according to the conversation?
Re-creation
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The client realizes that recreation can be viewed as re-creation, emphasizing the importance of fun.
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What does the client want more of in their life?
Balance and time with their partner
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What is the significance of emotions in the coaching process?
They communicate important information from the client's soul to their conscious self
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What does the coach believe about the answers clients have?
Clients have the answers that are right for them
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What does the coach encourage clients to do in coaching sessions?
Draw on their past for clues about what is fulfilling
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What is the Life Balance Wheel?
A coaching tool focused on various life areas
## Footnote
The coach and client focused on this tool during their session.
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What does the coach imply about fun in everyday life?
It is a right and should be incorporated regularly
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What does the coach mean by 'shadow work'?
Exploring hidden aspects of oneself that haven't been expressed or claimed
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What emotional reaction did the client have during the session?
Tears formed in their eyes
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What does the phrase 'energy in motion' refer to?
E-motion
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What is an example of an alternative activity the coach suggests related to drumming?
Recumbent biking
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What is the role of silence in coaching sessions?
To allow the client to reflect deeply on their issues
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What emotional aspect should a coach respect in the coaching relationship?
The information communicated by emotions from client to coach and from the client's soul to the conscious self.
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This emphasizes the importance of emotional awareness in coaching interactions.
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How does a coach validate a client's emotions while offering possibilities?
By acknowledging the client's feelings and suggesting other sources of fun beyond the current focus.
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This approach helps expand the client's perspective on their situation.
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What is the significance of pointing out shifts in a client's voice, energy, and body?
It helps the client become more aware of what enhances their aliveness and grounds insights in the body.
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This can be done even in phone coaching sessions.
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Why was the coaching in the discussed case effective?
The coach did not assume the role of expert and normalized the client's experience.
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This approach can help clients feel less isolated and more hopeful.
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What crucial question does a coach ask to help clients reconnect with their desires?
What do you really, really, really want?
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This question can help clients break through their 'shoulds' and rediscover their core desires.
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What does the term 'shadow' refer to in the context of coaching?
The unclaimed parts of ourselves, including unrealized creative aspects and hidden aspects.
## Footnote
This perspective is non-pathologizing and encourages self-discovery.
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What does the word 're-creation' symbolize in the coaching session?
It serves as a touchstone for the client's goal of recreation.
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This encapsulates the essence of the session and provides clarity on next steps.
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What are key coaching skills and competencies?
* Presence
* Curiosity
* Creating awareness through evocative questions and inquiry
* Silence
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These skills are essential for effective coaching relationships.
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What is the role of curiosity in coaching?
It helps to suspend judgment, avoid the need to be right, and create evocative questions.
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Curiosity is essential for maintaining an open coaching dialogue.
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What is meant by 'purposeful pausing' in coaching?
It refers to the silence following an exploratory question, allowing the client to reflect.
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This technique encourages deeper client insights.
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What is the first coaching conversation intended to establish?
An explanation of what coaching is and how the coach operates.
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This models the coaching process for prospective clients.
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Define the coaching alliance.
An association to further the members' common interests, designed as a partnership in service of a client's goals.
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The alliance is co-created and distinct from therapeutic alliances.
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How do expectations differ between therapeutic alliances and coaching alliances?
* Therapeutic alliances have set expectations by codes of ethics and licensing boards.
* Coaching alliances are co-created with specific goals and desires of the client.
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This highlights the unique nature of coaching as distinct from therapy.
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What is a 'welcome packet' in coaching?
A set of handouts for the client that includes the coaching contract, goals, policies, and procedures.
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This tool engages clients in long-term thinking and provides useful information to the coach.
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What should a coach explore with clients regarding past relationships?
Clients should think back to empowering relationships to identify what made them supportive.
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This helps in designing an effective coaching alliance.
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What are signs that a coaching alliance may be at risk?
* Client forgets appointments
* Client has lost interest
* Personal difficulties affecting effectiveness.
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Recognizing these signs is vital for maintaining a healthy coaching relationship.
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What might a coach do if the coaching alliance needs renegotiation?
Ask the client if it would be helpful to redefine their relationship or adjust the frequency of sessions.
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This allows for flexibility based on the client's current needs.
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What is a potential pitfall for coaches regarding self-deception?
Seeing clients as vehicles or instruments rather than as whole persons.
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This perspective can hinder the effectiveness of the coaching relationship.
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What is the term used when a person's self-interests or fears affect their relationship with another person?
In the box
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This term refers to a situation where self-deception interferes with interpersonal dynamics.
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What is the significance of the coach's first communication with the client?
Sets the stage for coaching and creates the alliance
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The first contact is crucial for establishing the coaching relationship.
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What are the three types of first contacts with clients?
* Committed clients seeking the right coach
* Curious individuals who just met the coach
* Those wanting to know if coaching fits their needs
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Why is it important for coaches to have a structured initial interview?
To assess the fit of the prospective alliance
## Footnote
A structured approach allows both coach and client to evaluate compatibility.
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What is the recommended duration for the initial screening call?
At least 30 minutes
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What is the typical length of the first official coaching session?
At least 90 minutes
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What should coaches assess during the initial calls?
* Payment capability
* Availability
* Coaching method and frequency
* Ideal client profile
* Coaches' interest in goals
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What does the term 'living brochure' refer to in coaching?
An enrollment conversation
## Footnote
This term emphasizes the importance of conversation over printed materials in coaching.
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What is the primary goal of the conversation for exploration and discovery?
To create a sense of synergistic partnership
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What are 'ouch' questions intended to uncover?
Sore spots and tender topics in the client's life
## Footnote
These questions help identify areas needing attention or resolution.
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What should a coach do if they determine a caller is not a potential client?
Refer the client to another coach or suggest resources
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What is a good opening question to encourage clients to talk about themselves?
Describe yourself in terms of how you see yourself
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Fill in the blank: The conversation for discovery should focus on understanding the client's _______.
Values, desires, intentions, behaviors, attitudes, passions, frustrations, and difficulties
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What is a mutual commitment in the coach-client relationship?
Both parties agree to engage sincerely in the coaching process
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What kind of questions can help uncover personal boundary issues?
Questions about integrity, needs, and values
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True or False: Coaches should feel pressured to convert prospects into paying clients immediately.
False
## Footnote
Coaches should avoid urgency and focus on the quality of the conversation.
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What is the purpose of planting the seed of self-care during the conversation?
To emphasize the importance of personal well-being
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What might a coach suggest if they recognize a client needs to address unfinished business before coaching?
A referral to a therapist or other appropriate resource
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What is the role of insight-provoking questions during the initial call?
To help the client experience the value of coaching
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What should the coach communicate about the commitment to the coaching process?
A non-binding commitment to work together for 90 days
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What is the first step in the coaching process?
Exploring new ways of doing things and looking at life.
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Why is it necessary to discuss financials with potential clients?
To make a living as a coach and create perceived value.
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What does the coach do in Step 7?
Discusses three changes or intentions stated by the client and explains fees.
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What should a coach highlight in Step 8?
Choices clients would make if financial constraints didn’t exist.
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What is the purpose of Step 9: Process Check?
To establish whether the client is ready to sign on and if there is a good fit.
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In Step 10, what is the coach testing?
The client's willingness to try new options and patterns.
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What is the focus of Step 11: Create Awareness?
Stretching the client's thinking about possibilities and hidden talents.
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What does Step 12 emphasize in coaching conversations?
Focusing on the client's strengths and joys.
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What should a coach assess in Step 13?
How much clients know about coaching.
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What is the significance of making a declaration in Step 14?
To express the coach's desire to work with the potential client.
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What does Step 15: Clarify Issues aim to do?
Ensure potential clients understand the commitment and concept of coaching.
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What is the purpose of Step 16: Make an Offer?
To suggest the next steps in the coaching process.
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What is the truism mentioned about safety in coaching?
Safety comes with consistency, allowing space for radical changes.
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What are the two tools that provide structure in coaching?
* Welcome packet
* Coaching session preparation worksheet
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What are the intentions for a first paying session outlined in the welcome packet?
* Review logistics, policies, and procedures
* Develop long-term intentions and vision
* Model the coaching conversation
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What are the two main functions of a welcome packet?
* Introduces clients to the coach's policies
* Provides information about the coaching work
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Why is self-reflection important for clients when completing the welcome packet?
To avoid repeating habitual patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting.
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How can coaches adapt the delivery of the welcome packet?
By sending it via email, mailing it in a notebook, or sending pages individually.
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Fill in the blank: A major mistake new coaches make is to be reluctant to ask for _______.
commitment
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True or False: The welcome packet is crucial for laying the groundwork for the long-term relationship.
True
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What is the purpose of coaching session preparation worksheets?
To help keep the coach and client focused on what the client wants from each session
## Footnote
Coaches keep completed forms as a resource for documenting client progress and accomplishments.
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Name three types of information clients are asked to record in coaching session preparation worksheets.
* Successes and highlights
* Opportunities and challenges
* Priorities for the sessions
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What are 'powerful questions' in coaching?
Evocative and stimulating questions essential for inspiring coaching conversations
## Footnote
Without powerful questions, the coaching conversation can fail to inspire.
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What are some examples of powerful questions for clients?
* What gives you energy?
* What makes you feel discouraged?
* What do you most want from coaching?
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What is one major goal of the first coaching session?
Clarify expectations of the coaching partnership
## Footnote
True value lies in how the client attributes value to the coaching.
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What should coaches do to prepare for a coaching session?
* Clear the desk of irrelevant materials
* Center themselves through meditation
* Review materials and notes from the last session
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What are 'energy drainers'?
Things one is tolerating or ignoring that drain energy
## Footnote
Addressing energy drainers early in coaching can reclaim lost energy.
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How does a Personal Ecology support success?
It consists of the immediate environment that either supports achieving priorities or slows you down
## Footnote
A highly efficient environment is a Personal Support System.
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What is the significance of a coaching welcome packet?
It contains worksheets where the client lists goals and intentions, providing valuable insights for coaching
## Footnote
Coaches should keep it easily accessible for reviews.
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True or False: The language used in coaching is intentionally powerful.
True
## Footnote
The coach's language aims to create insight and new connections for the client.
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What are the three key questions every leader must ask according to Stuart Wells?
* What seems to be happening?
* What possibilities do we face?
* What are we going to do about it?
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What is the 'Miracle Question' used in coaching?
What if, overnight, a miracle occurred, and you woke up tomorrow morning and the problem was solved?
## Footnote
This question helps clients visualize solutions and new possibilities.
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List three purposes of questions in coaching.
* Encourage or validate
* Generate new possibilities
* Identify assumptions
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What should a coach do at the end of a coaching session?
* Provide solid closure
* Set the next appointment
* Summarize commitments
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What is a primary goal of a coach in the context of inquiry?
To generate new possibilities and challenge clients' thinking
## Footnote
Coaches aim to respect the limitations and assumptions of clients while fostering growth.
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What type of questioning technique is exemplified by Peter Falk’s Columbo?
Asking apparently stupid questions to focus attention on what is missing
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This technique helps in uncovering truths that have yet to be revealed.
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What is the purpose of the questions asked by Milton Erickson?
To create creative confusion and open awareness beyond habitual thinking
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Erickson's questions often imply change will occur, directing focus on timing.
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How can clients reflect on their leadership during their workday?
By asking themselves, 'Right now, how am I being the leader I want to be?'
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This reflection fosters awareness and choice-driven change.
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What practice can help coaches assess the effectiveness of their questions?
Taping their end of a coaching conversation
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This allows coaches to evaluate whether their questions resonate with clients.
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What is an inquiry in a coaching context?
A powerful question held in mind continuously for contemplation
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Inquiries encourage deep reflection and exploration.
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Who is credited with the quote about living questions?
Rainer Maria Rilke
## Footnote
His quote emphasizes the importance of living with questions to discover answers.
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What are the two main purposes of inquiry in coaching?
* To generate self-awareness
* To increase awareness of beliefs and behaviors
## Footnote
This creates more choices and responsibility for clients.
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What distinguishes the judger mind-set from the learner mind-set?
Judgers focus on problems, while learners focus on possibilities and responsibilities
## Footnote
The learner mind-set is essential for effective coaching.
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What is the risk associated with habitual quick judgments?
They can hinder clients' growth and self-reflection
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Inquiry helps examine unconscious judging patterns.
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What accountability questions should be answered at the end of a coaching session?
* What will you do?
* By when?
* How will you know you have been successful?
* How will I or others recognize success?
## Footnote
These questions help ensure client accountability.
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What are powerful questions in coaching often mistaken for?
Guru questions that demonstrate the coach’s expertise
## Footnote
In reality, simple questions can be just as impactful.
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What is the focus of David Grove's work on transparent questions?
Creating opportunities for clients to fully self-observe
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This is part of the clean language approach in coaching.
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How does transparent language benefit the coaching process?
It allows clients to see clearly who they are and what they want
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Coaches reflect clients' language without adding assumptions.
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What does transparency in coaching mean?
Staying within the context and language used by the client
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It avoids adding new metaphors or frameworks to the client's experience.
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What is the impact of assumptions in coaching questions?
They can create a framework that obscures choices
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Coaches should state their assumptions clearly.
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What is a metaphor in the context of coaching?
A description of something as 'like' something else
## Footnote
Metaphors provide insight into clients' perceptions.
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According to Andrew Ortony, what role do metaphors play in cognition?
Metaphors are necessary for understanding
## Footnote
They help illuminate our thought processes.
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What do George Lakoff and Mark Johnson say about metaphors?
They help us understand one kind of thing in terms of another
## Footnote
This perspective broadens our experience of reality.
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How does Carl Jung view the unconscious mind in relation to metaphors?
It stores information in forms and symbols that can reveal deeper understanding
## Footnote
Analyzing these symbols can lead to greater self-awareness.
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What is the significance of analyzing symbols according to Jung?
It provides access to a wider and more comprehensive understanding of ourselves, our relationships, and the wider world.
## Footnote
Jung believed that symbols from the unconscious could reveal deeper insights about personal and collective experiences.
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How do metaphors serve as a tool in coaching?
They provide insight into the client's unique perception of their situation and goals.
## Footnote
Clients' metaphors can reveal their emotional and psychological state regarding their challenges.
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What does the metaphor 'seeing light at the end of the tunnel' indicate?
It reflects the client's experience of hope and direction in their situation.
## Footnote
This metaphor suggests the client is aware of their journey and has a goal or endpoint in mind.
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What can a coach do when conversations become stale?
Listen for a metaphor in the client's language and encourage exploration of it.
## Footnote
This technique can rejuvenate the conversation and lead to new insights.
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List the three basic ways to utilize metaphors in coaching conversations.
* Listen for a metaphor shared by the client
* Create a metaphor by asking the client what their issue is like
* Offer a metaphor from the coach's intuition
## Footnote
Each method encourages deeper exploration and understanding of the client's challenges.
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What type of question can a coach ask to explore a client's metaphor?
What kind of stuck is that stuck? or Tell me more about stuck.
## Footnote
These questions prompt the client to elaborate on their metaphor, facilitating deeper insight.
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Fill in the blank: When a coach asks a client, 'When you think of this issue/challenge, it is like _______?' they are trying to elicit a metaphor.
[key learning term]
## Footnote
The phrasing encourages the client to think metaphorically about their situation.
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True or False: Offering a metaphor from the coach's intuition can help the client explore their challenges.
True
## Footnote
This approach can provide the client with new perspectives and insights.
