Section 3: Ending RELATIONSHIPS Flashcards
1
Q
Knowledge that relationships end…
A
- prevents some from developing them. Prevents deepest involvements
2
Q
Become enmeshed in close relationships
Emo pain compounded by…
A
- web of financial, friendship networks, possessions, memories
- loss of these things
3
Q
Signs of Disengagement
3 of them
A
one of KEY mechanisms which initially satisfying relationships become at risk
Emotional indifference
Cognitive Disconnection
Behavioral Distancing
4
Q
- Emotional indifference
A
lack of strong + or - emotions directed
5
Q
- Cognitive Disconnection
A
viewing partner as detached, psych distancing, paying less attention
6
Q
- Behavioral Distancing
A
reducing comm and involvement
7
Q
General Pathways to Relational Endings
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- Individual choice: bilateral choice (rare)
- Atrophy: “wither away” (friendships)
- Separation: geographical sep
- Death: widows outnumber widowers 10:1
8
Q
Specific Reasons
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- Withdrawal: esp. lack of listening
- Negative comm: destructive dealing
- Lack of openness/ intimacy (esp. for W)
- Lack of similarity
- Sexual incompatibility
9
Q
More specific reasons
A
- Autonomy: me time, not exclusive
- Interest in someone else
- Boredom: TOP for both
- Money
- W’s equality issues: ‘the second shift”
- Alcohol/ drugs
10
Q
More specific reasons (2)
A
- soc networks: others disapprove
- Chronic dissatisfaction
- Disillusionment: loss of attatchment
