Section 3: Secrets

Question 1

Motivations for keeping secrets

Answer 1

• protect relationship
• protect self or someone
• maintain privacy

Question 2

Negative effects of keeping secrets

Answer 2

Hyperaccessibility: obsessive thinking about it.

Rebound Effect: forget until stimulus

Fever model of self-disclosure: pressure makes you blurt it out (infidelity)

“Split-loyalty pattern”: choose b/w being loyal or those hurt by not knowing.

Question 3

Outcomes of revealing

Answer 3

+ : reverse negative effects

- : negative rxn from listener, dimish sense of self, betrayal

Question 4

Should you reveal it?

Answer 4

1. Is it troubling? (anxiety)
2. Is appropriate confidant available?
   must answer yes to both/ if answer “no” to one, don’t